10 Non-Obvious Relationship Problems Signaling That Love Is Gone
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The end of a relationship might be near, but it’s not always obvious. You can go from being merrily in love one day to miserable in heartbreak the next! Such a drastic change can often leave you wondering what went wrong when everything was so perfect…
Well, the truth is relationships don’t always end because of the big reasons. Sometimes they end for the small reasons too, which are much harder to see. To help you be prepared for the worst, we’ve curated a list of 10 signs that show love is long gone:
1. You’re Not Crazy About Your Partner Anymore
When you first started out, you couldn’t help but be gaga over them! You loved the sound of their voice, the way they flipped their hair, and every little thing they did. Now you can’t stand the same things anymore. It’s not like your partner has degraded. It’s your perception of them that has changed. This is a sign that your relationship’s doomsday is near.
2. You Rationalize Being With Your Partner
Instead of wanting to be with your partner naturally, you actively look for logical explanations to be with them. In this case, you have to know that that’s not love. That is convenience. In this situation, it’s better for you to have the courage to end things rather than be bitter that you wasted your time with someone you didn’t want to be with.
3. You Are Bored Of Your Partner
The initial times together were so exciting! But now boredom prevails. You have no interest in telling your partner anything or listening to what they have to say. Your bedroom life seems to have fizzled out too and the heat seems to be missing. This could either mean that your relationship is facing a crisis or that it is as good as over. Maybe both of you have changed and don’t find each other interesting.
4. You Don’t Trust Each Other Like You Used To
Earlier on, your partner was your confidant. No secrets were hidden from them and you even used to share the littlest of them that didn’t even concern your own life per se. But now, you don’t feel like doing that anymore. You’d rather deal with whatever’s going down on your own. This kind of lack of trust is a dangerous sign that your relationship is over and you just don’t know it.
5. You Don’t Like Talking About The Future
The ‘where is this going’ conversation is exhausting for you now. You consciously avoid talking about your future together, focusing individualistically on the big changes you plan to make in your own life, such as leaving the city, for example. If your goals clash too much, you might want to talk to your partner about it rather than avoiding the conversation altogether.
6. You Keep Your Partner’s Involvement In Your Life To The Minimum
Solo trips excite you more than couple getaways. You also like spending most of your time by yourself rather than with your partner. You enjoy carrying out all your activities on your own too, unlike previously, when you wanted to do everything together. This can be a phase, but if it lasts too long, you’ve outgrown your partner and don’t know if you want to continue.
7. Your Partner Is No Longer Your Top Priority
Instead of being eager to meet and spend some time with your partner, you prefer investing your time and energy in other things, such as hanging out with your friends or hitting the gym. In fact, you think of being with your partner as a waste of time and take every chance to be away from them. Maybe it’s time you figured out your real feelings about your significant other.
8. You Fight Intentionally
You suddenly find yourself picking fights with your partner for no apparent reason! You can’t even figure out why you’re so rude to them. And even though you apologize later, you can’t help but go back to square one. Fighting all the time indicates your relationship is not stable. And it’s not because your partner isn’t good anymore. Perhaps your feelings have changed.
9. You’re Unwilling To Resolve Conflicts
Not only do you argue on purpose, but you’re quite unwilling to put in effort to fix the damage the arguments leave behind as well – even though you admit that the problem exists. Many relationships continue because the people involved don’t want to end them. But this is a perfect recipe for unhappiness. Rather swallow the bitter pill than be unhappy forever.
10. You Clicked On This Post
Think about it. If you didn’t know on some level that your relationship is not what it used to be, you wouldn’t even bother coming here and reading this post. However, that doesn’t mean your relationship is over. Perhaps, you’re going through a tough time and need some guidance.
Relationships can be fragile and easy to break. However, knowing what’s causing the rift can not only help you deal with it better but can also help you improve in the future.
