15 Helpful Pieces Of Breakup Advice To Cheer Up A Broken Heart

Words of wisdom to help you gather your broken pieces, heal, and reset for a new beginning.

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“Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together” – Marilyn Monroe.

There are many breakup advice: take up a hobby, stay off social media, stay busy. Despite these, it can be difficult to move on after investing so much into a relationship you were sure would work. It is hard to keep a relationship alive, but it is even harder to let go of a seemingly perfect relationship. The process of moving on is as painful as the breakup itself.

Although it may feel impossible to let go of your partner, it is a necessary step to living a happy life. Understanding what caused the fallout and figuring out a way forward depends on learning from the experience. The following article may be helpful to those looking for ways to cope after a breakup or help friends with the process. Take a look.

15 Tips To Deal With A Broken Heart

1. Focus On The Present

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Whatever happened has already happened. For however long that relationship lasted or how real it may have been at the moment, it is now over. Acceptance of the current moment can also help with moving forward. You should look at it as a lesson to be learned and come out of it as a stronger person. It was for the best, for your best.

2. Get In Touch With Your Feelings

It is natural to feel sad, angry, hurt, or even glad that the relationship saw its end. It is also fine to be hurt more than the other. Let yourself feel the emotions you are currently going through. Be curious about the feelings. They might allow you to learn more about yourself. However, don’t become consumed by your feelings. Find ways to let it all out in a productive manner.

3. Remove Your Rose-Tinted Glasses

When you are together, you seldom look at your partner’s flaws or the issues in your relationship. Now is the time to point them out, learn from the experience, and try to be on the lookout for these red flags in future relationships. It is definitely the time to learn to stand up for yourself.

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4. Be Accountable

Take responsibility for your part in the termination of the relationship. While it does not entail internalizing the breakup as being your fault completely, it takes two to tango. Both the partners play a part in not only maintaining a relationship but also causing its end.

5. Don’t Chase Them

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Don’t try to win your ex back or think that they might want you back. Plug in your earphones and watch a movie, dance, exercise, and do things that you enjoy. And then sleep. You don’t want to be that ex who keeps texting after the breakup. Pick up your crown, wear it, and move on!

6. Cease Communication

Cut off all routes of communication with your ex. Stop following them on social media platforms. You don’t have to try to be friends, even if you have some mutual friends. Do not try to get in touch to check in on their health, work, or anything else. This helps you heal and move on. Communication can keep you holding on to the past.

7. Isolate, But Not For Too Long

Crying, holing up in your room, binge eating, alcohol, ice cream, or sex — these options do help fill a hole for a brief mourning period. But that’s only when you are ready to pull up your socks and move on to the next phase of your life. No, not a relationship, but other things in life. A day or two should be enough to deal with heartbreak in this manner.

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Create a playlist of uplifting or happy songs and engage in activities like dancing to boost your mood and alleviate the heaviness of a broken heart.

8. Consult A Therapist

If you feel a little too lost, there’s no harm in seeing a therapist. They will not give you solutions but will help you find ways to reach a solution that suits you the best. They will guide you, listen to you, help you introspect, connect with your desires and shortcomings, helping you move on.

9. Rediscover Yourself

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Now that you have realized you are better off without them, it is time to give yourself time to love yourself, find yourself, and reclaim your individuality. Give yourself enough time and space before you start trying to move on to the next relationship. People need time to themselves before trying to give it to another person.

10. Declutter Your Mind

Imagine you are moving into a new house. The first step in shifting is to pack your stuff and discard what you don’t need anymore. The same is true for relationships that have ended. Pack your things, feelings, and ditch everything that you don’t need or want anymore. No souvenirs.

11. Rekindle Old Hobbies

Start making time for yourself and take advantage of the newfound opportunity to spend time by yourself. You can bring back the old hobbies that you might not have tried for a while or learn some new ones. You can use this time to get fit, try a new lifestyle, or even start something new altogether.

12. Embrace The Journey

It feels like you took forever to get here. But don’t dwell on the feeling that there might be something wrong. It is a process, a journey that will take time. All things need time to heal – heart or bone.

13. Be Optimistic

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Just because this relationship failed doesn’t mean you will never find love again. There will always be another person who will make your heart race and your mind wander and daydream.

14. Rebounds May Wait

One of the first thoughts you might have after breaking up is to get into a new relationship. You might look at it as a new anchor, a way to get revenge, or it might help fulfill your emotional and sexual needs. However, if you try to get into a relationship without healing yourself, you may end up facing another breakup. Be cautious, look out for signs, and wait for the right time to find a new partner.

15. Control The Controllable

Amidst the emotional turmoil of a breakup, control the controllable. Focus on aspects within your control; for example, self-care, maintaining boundaries, and setting realistic expectations. Channel your energy into positive activities to foster personal growth. Accept the uncontrollable and empower yourself with intentional choices to build resilience in the healing process.

Take all the time you need to work on yourself and move on from the pain of the breakup. No one else can dictate your healing process. Head to the next section to know how you can circumvent unsought advice.

Dealing With Unsolicited Advice

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You might feel other people are a little too interested in your process of healing. The reason behind it could be that they believe they have more experience of dealing with heartbreak, or they want to be a part of the process. Here are a few ways in which you can tackle these bits of advice:

  1. Sometimes, a person you look up to in some other aspect tries to advise you in the relationship area. Stop them before they cross the boundary.
  2. Some people may keep giving you advice even if they don’t relate to your situation. They are looking for a way to talk about how they should have handled their breakup. Don’t pay heed to them.
  3. Be cautious of the people who tend to force a piece of advice on you. They may have an underlying intention, especially if they are not so close to you.
  4. Set strict boundaries for people to know when and where they should stop. Draw a line when the ‘advice’ goes too far.
  5. Consider only the advice that resonates with you, and discard the rest as white noise.

How Long Does It Take to Get Over A Breakup?

The duration it takes to move on after a breakup varies for each individual. It is influenced by factors such as the level of intimacy in the relationship and personal resilience. On average, it may take several weeks to months. Emotional healing is a gradual process that requires self-reflection and support. Time, self-care, and positive coping mechanisms aid in the journey towards recovery.

When it comes to breakup advice, there is no dearth of opinions. But, make sure that you stick to your reasons and maintain your boundaries thereafter. You may still remember your fond memories together, but you should give yourself time and space to process this life-changing event in your life. It is completely up to you how vocal or non-vocal you are about it in your circle of friends and family, but don’t let people’s advice or concern make you feel any worse. Indulge in some constructive hobby or spend some time with your nearest ones to not overthink your decision and keep yourself occupied in a healthy way.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the hardest stage of a breakup?

The hardest stage of a breakup is the initial stage, when you are still in denial.

How do I accept the relationship is over?

There is no easy trick to make yourself accept the relationship is over. Grieve, take your time, and try to reconnect yourself to move on with your life.

Key Takeaways

  • Give time to love yourself, find yourself, and reclaim your individuality.
  • Bring back the old hobbies that you might not have tried for a while or learn some new ones.
  • Stand up for yourself, learn from the experience, and look out for the red flags in future relationships.

Recovering from a breakup requires time. Watch this engaging video to learn six essential steps to mending your broken heart. Click play and find solace, self-discovery, and a renewed sense of purpose as you navigate this emotional journey.

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Michele Waldron

Michele WaldronPsy.D, LADC-I, CSCT

Dr. Waldron is a licensed clinical psychologist, certified couples counselor, licensed alcohol and drug counselor, and sex therapist. with 16 years of experience. She received her Psy.D from Antioch University, New England. She has a group practice that supports adults’ relationships and sexual health. Dr. Waldron is passionate about reducing sexual shame, which causes significant mental health challenges. She helps...read full bio

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