Dating After 60: Rules, Advice, And Common Mistakes

Written by Harini Natarajan

When you are young, dating can be fun. But dating after your 60s can be nerve-racking. You probably are recently divorced and are trying to have some fun, or you have lost your partner and are looking for love – either way, it can be daunting to step back into the dating arena after so long. You aren’t sure about how the dating game works anymore, and you don’t want to embarrass yourself. But worry not. Here, we have listed some tips to help you navigate through dating in your 60s and make the whole experience all the more incredible. Keep reading!

Dating After Your 60s – Rules, Advice, And Tips

  1. Know What You Want: When you were younger, you probably dated for fun of the experience. But as you age you realize that you become picky with who you date. Do you want a relationship? Or do you just want to have a good time after a bad divorce? Being clear on your motives for dating helps you choose a better-suited partner.
  2. Be Honest About What You Want: Being honest with your partner lets them know where you stand. You aren’t making promises you cannot keep. It keeps both of you on the same page.
  3. Take Your Time: You don’t have to deep dive into all the aspects of dating right away. Take your time to sort through them slowly. Look at it as an opportunity to rediscover what you like about dating.
  4. Take Time To Heal: Maybe you’re reeling from the loss of your partner or a nasty divorce experience. It is important to take your time to heal. A rebound relationship might be a great idea when you’re in your 30s, but after your 60s you might find yourself looking for something else. If you don’t take time to heal, that experience might not go as well as you hoped.
  5. Be Open To A New Experience: You have to be willing to get out there and be open to trying new things. It doesn’t mean you have to immediately download a dating app. But you can be open to meeting someone at your supermarket, church, or a local singles meet. Be open to sharing about yourself and getting to know the other person. Be open to also letting them know when you aren’t comfortable with something. Your first date after your 60s might not go that well, but be open to seeing it as a learning experience.
  6. Boost Yourself: Dating after your 60s might be scary, mostly because you don’t look as you did in your 20s. Your confidence may also have taken a hit. It is time for you to remind yourself how amazing you are. Look back on your life’s journey and recount all the experiences that make you, you! Don’t be afraid to look into the mirror before a date and give yourself a confidence-boosting pep talk.
  7. Online Dating: After your 60s, you might not want to get on a dating app or website and meet someone online. But it is a great way to meet new people. If this is something you are open to trying, make sure you go about it the safe way. Don’t share personal information with someone until you have met them and can be certain of who they are. You must take precautions before meeting someone physically whom you have known online. Meet them at a restaurant, and have an easy way to leave if you find something shady. Don’t invite them home or get into a car with them on the first meeting. Make sure your family and friends know that you’re out with this person. And most importantly, look out for scammers.
  8. Health Checks: Being older makes you more prone to sickness. Make sure you are on top of your health. Also, make sure your partner is on top of their health. This is extremely important when you get physical with someone.

Sometimes, when you get back out there, you might make a few mistakes. Here are a few common mistakes that can be avoided.

Common Mistakes Made By Men And Women Dating After 60s

  1. Trying To Fit In: Getting back into the dating groove can be tough, but don’t try to do what the younger crowd is doing. When you’re dating, figure out what works best for you and do that. Forcing yourself to like something might just spoil your experience.
  2. Taking It Too Seriously: A relationship is very serious, but when you’re just heading back out into the dating scene you might want to take a breather and just go for a test drive. It is absolutely fine to not make things serious. You can have fun with dating, and it does not have to be serious.
  3. Dating An Ex: Because it has been so long since you dated, you might think it is a good idea to date an old flame. While it may work, remember that there was a reason you both parted in the first place. It is easy to get caught up in emotions with an ex, but take your time and go slow. Dating an ex might be fun, but it can also be like opening a can of worms.
  4. Not Taking Your Health Seriously: Just because you are older doesn’t mean you shouldn’t know all your options health-wise. Visit a doctor and talk to them about what you need to be aware of before you get physically involved with someone.
  5. Dating After A Divorce: It is easy to let the emotions of a past relationship spill out into a new one. Give yourself time to move on from the divorce and your ex, get comfortable with the idea of trusting someone new, and then start dating again. Don’t jump into a relationship or hold your new partner accountable for your ex’s mistakes.
  6. Dating After A Loss: Many people will say it is time to move on and get back out there. But it is important for you to take your time to heal. You have lost someone who was extremely important and close to you.


Whether you have been divorced or have lost your partner, getting back into the dating game after so long can be terrifying – especially if you are not sure about what you are looking for in a date. The good news is that you have enough life experience to know what you want and what you don’t. Don’t be afraid to be unapologetically yourself when you get back into the dating game. It might just make things even more exciting!

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As Chief Editor, Harini sets the tone and editorial direction for StyleCraze to deliver engaging, interesting, and authentic content revolving around women's health, wellness, and beauty. She has over 14 years of experience in content writing and editing for online media. She specializes in the areas of Beauty, Lifestyle, and Health & Wellness and is proficient in Medical Sciences (Biology, Human Anatomy and Physiology, and Biochemistry). Her background in Biomedical Engineering helps her decode and interpret the finer nuances of scientific research for her team. Harini is a certified bibliophile and a closet poet. She also loves dancing and traveling to offbeat destinations.