Relationships can be difficult and rocky sometimes. Life can get in the way of perfectly good things, and breaking up for all the wrong reasons can make you regret ever coming to that decision. Figuring out your own feelings and coming to terms with them is an important step to move forward in life. But trying to find out what is going on in your past lover’s mind can be confusing.
He might be giving off subtle hints to let you know that he still has deep feelings for you. You have to read between the lines and come up with a reasonable answer to rekindle your past relationship (if that is what you want, of course). Read the list below to figure out if your ex still loves you.
Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend/Ex-Husband Still Loves You
1. He Still Actively Follows You On Social Media
This means that he not only follows you on social media but always likes or comments on every post you make and every story you upload. This is a simple way for him to get a response from you. He is testing the waters to see whether or not you are open to talk to him.
2. He Tries To Contact You Every Now And Then
Be it a random event or your dog’s birthday, he texts you, using it as a reason to how you have been doing. He obviously does this because you are always on his mind, even if he does not want to admit it.
3. And When You Respond, He Tries To Keep The Conversation Going
It is obvious that you would reply to his wishes and regards. After all, it is basic courtesy. But once you respond, if he tries to keep the conversation going by asking you how your day went and what you did the whole day, or he completely deviates from the topic to talk about something you like, it is clear that he just wants to keep getting your replies because he loves seeing your name on his phone’s screen.
4. He Playfully Teases You
Once you both are in the flow of the conversation, he looks for ways to playfully tease you or make fun of you. It may be how he finds your Donald Duck impression completely off but equally funny because of the expressions you make while doing it. This is him reminiscing about all the good laughs you both had together. It is evident from such conversations that he really does miss being with you.
5. He Gets Nostalgic
This is somewhat related to the previous point. When he talks about all the good times you both had together, be it during concerts, movies, or even something as mundane as grocery shopping, he clearly misses doing it all with someone he shared deep feelings with.
6. He Sends You Pictures Of Things That Remind Him Of You
He sends you snaps or videos of things that remind him of you. It could be the picture of that famous actress that he always claimed looked like you. Or it may be the lyrics of a certain romantic song. It could even be a dress at a store that you once pointed out to him. Whatever it may be, such actions make it clear that you are on his mind constantly. He is finding the most random things to connect with the memory of you, so he definitely misses you a lot.
7. He Feels Hurt When You Are Cold Towards Him
Of course, this is something you cannot put the finger on when you are conversing over text. But by the tone of his messages, you can tell he is upset. After all, you know how he is when he feels sad because of the past experiences you share with him. And for any reason, if he still gets upset because of your actions, it is obvious it is because he still wants to be a part of your life.
8. He Stays In Contact With Your Family Or Friends
Many may find this to be intrusive, but if he shared a healthy relationship with your family and friends, he might use it as an excuse to get closer to you. Sure, he might actually enjoy their company, but his real focus will be to get closer to you. After all, you are the main reason he even got to know them – and he still wants you to be the reason he is close to them.
9. He Is Always Happy To See You
If you ever bump into him anywhere, he is delighted to see you and does not miss a chance to compliment you. He is all smiles, and his body language clearly states that he cannot get enough of you. You can observe this by the way he laughs with you and how close he stands when he is next to you. He might even try to offer you a ride or a scoop of your favorite ice cream. Anyone who is not into you would not go the extra mile to make you feel special by making such gestures.
10. He Tries To Get Touchy With You
No, we do not mean in a sexual or uncomfortable way. He may offer to hug you and hold your hand a little longer if you decide to shake hands. He might lightly place his arm around your waist if the ambiance of the place is right. Of course, he is taking a bit of a risk by doing this, but it shows that he is still interested in you and is not afraid to show it.
11. He Still Remembers Small Details About You
Whenever you meet him and have a conversation, he may bring up the little things he still remembers about you. It could be trivial things, like the fact that you love the smell of rain. Or it could be that specific type of footwear you really hate. It is basically all these little things that he wants you to know he still remembers about you to grab your attention. Because let’s face it, we all love hearing about ourselves, and he is playing into this to subtly let you know that he can never forget you or all the little things that make you unique.
12. He Is Rebounding – Hard
Right after your split, if you notice that he already has a new boo in record time, it may be a sign that he is trying really hard to fill the empty void your absence has created in his life. Or he might be hanging out with way too many women than he usually did. Either way, this gives you a clearer hint that he may be miserable without you and is trying to find someone to replace you.
Trying to find a replacement is something you both know will not work out. Such a situation does either of these two things – it completely erases your residing feelings for him, or you might want to reach out to him and sort things out once he has realized how good he had things with you. Both choices are completely valid. You just have to ask yourself what your heart wants.
13. He Tries To Make You Jealous
If he has suddenly started to post stories and videos on social media more often than he usually used to, right after your breakup, it is a sign that he wants to grab your attention. He may post stories of him having a blast at a spontaneous vacation or about his crazy Friday night with some new lady he started hanging out with. Either way, he is waiting for you to respond so that he can have a chance to talk to you one more time.
14. He Isn’t Dating Anyone New
This point may contradict a previous point, but hey! No two men react in the same way. If he was known to be a guy who never stayed single before you dated him, and he hasn’t dated anyone for a while even though you both broke up, it shows that he still hopes to work things out with you and is trying to win you back. This may come as a surprise to you and many people who know him personally, so don’t be surprised if one of his friends casually tells you that he still misses you.
15. The Thought That You Might End Up With Someone Else Scares Him
Sure, he might think it is okay for him to move on with another woman fast. But when you try to do the same and start going on dates with other guys, things might start to get strange with him. He might start to get extremely jealous and salty about the fact that you are moving on. Always remember, ladies, if he did not love you, he would be indifferent towards the idea of you dating someone else. But if he shows his disapproval of any kind, be it jealousy or criticizing the guy you have chosen, he clearly still has unresolved feelings towards you.
16. He Shared About His True Feelings Towards You With A Common Friend
If you both have spent a significant amount of time together, people around you may know about the bond the two of you shared. If he still loves you, there is a chance that he opened up about his truest feelings towards you with his friends to ask for their advice. Those friends, in turn, might share it with you.
17. He Is Actively Trying To Be A Better Person
Nobody is perfect. There might have been times in your relationship when both of you pointed out and realized each other’s flaws. Certain aspects about his (or your) personality may even have been the reason for the breakup.
These could be things like how lazy and inactive he was, which completely annoyed you as you may like living an active, healthy life. Or the fact that he smoked didn’t completely sit well with you. If he realizes his discrepancies and starts to be a better person for himself (and you), it is clear that he is trying his best to win you back because he still loves you.
18. He Is Trying To Correct The Mistakes He Made With You
While dating you, he might have made some huge blunders in the way he treated you. For instance, he must have forgotten your one-year anniversary or that you completed two years at your job. If he correctly remembers all the important dates of your life now and wishes and greets you without hesitation, he clearly wants to share all those special days with you.
19. You Just Have A Really Strong Gut Feeling About It
This one goes without saying. It might even be the reason you clicked and read this article so far. It is because you are looking for signs to tell you what your gut might already know. Do what you will with this information. You might have a feeling that he still loves you. Who knows, it might be a fact!
20. He Has Told You That He Still Loves You
When all else fails, and he comes to terms with his deepest, truest feelings, he might reach out and stop beating around the bush. He is tired of living without you and wants to express the raw feelings he has for you. He may do this not just to express his love for you but also to have a proper closure if you decide not to get back together with him.
21. He Truly Wants You To Have A Happy Life – Even If It’s Without Him
In the end, when someone truly loves you with all their heart, all they would want is the best for you. If he realizes that the relationship is not in your best interests, he will take his step back, no matter how difficult it may be for him. If he has the courage to let go of his most beautiful moments with you, knowing he would never be able to recreate them with you, he truly loves you.
Trying to evaluate an ex’s actions to figure out if he still loves you can work successfully for some. But many may find a dead end when they try to look for such signs, which is totally okay! Every now and then, you need to realize that if you had the picture-perfect relationship, you probably would never go through the breakup. One must always come to terms with their past, be it the good, the bad, and the dirty. If you truly feel that you can make things work by getting back together with your ex, we hope our article helped you get an idea of what may be going on in his mind.