9 Signs You Might Be Falling Out of Love With Your Partner

by Annie Jangam

Falling in love and staying in love are two very different things. It takes a lot of effort, commitment, and patience to stay together. However, it is fairly normal for the initial attraction to fade and for people to fall out of love with each other. So, what are the signs that indicate you may be falling out of love? Keep reading to find out!

9 Signs You Might Be Falling Out of Love

1. You Are Apathetic To Your Partner

It does not mean you do not have any feelings for your partner, but there is something amiss. You do not want to initiate any conversation or express your feelings – even anger or jealousy. You stop caring about them and distance yourself from them emotionally. When we love someone, we deeply care about them. So, when indifference sets in, it is a sign that you are falling out of love with your partner.

2. You Stop Spending Time With Your Partner

You are no longer excited to spend time with them. A lack of interest and unwillingness to resolve conflicts can be few possible reasons for such behavior. Limited interaction and stonewalling are a couple of ways that you are avoiding your partner because you no longer feel affection for them.

The spark between you is dim, and it takes a lot of effort to communicate with each other. And, you usually end up disagreeing and fighting. So, you are disinterested in spending time with them.

3. You Are No Longer Attracted To Your Partner

If there is no chemistry between you both, it is a sure shot sign that you are not in love with each other. It is important to feel attracted to your partner to keep the relationship alive. A lack of attraction points to the fading connection between you and your partner.

4. You Do Not Respect Your Partner

If you do not show respect to your partner, then the relationship will go downhill. It is important to have trust, love, and respect in a healthy relationship. Lack of respect is indicative of underlying trust issues and problems. Being overly critical of your partner is also a red flag.

5. You Do Not Miss Your Partner

Another giveaway of falling out of love is when you stop thinking about your partner as often as you used to. This shows that they are not on your mind and, hence, no longer so important. If you go about your day and do not have a desire to share it with your partner, it is a sign that you are falling out of love.

6. You Do Not Want To Work It Out

Unwillingness to resolve conflicts is a red flag. It signals that you do not want to be in this relationship. Disagreements are part and parcel of any relationship. However, if you no longer want to solve the issue, it indicates that you no longer care about or love your partner.

7. You Are Turned Off By Your Partner

If spending time with your partner seems like a chore or a burden, it means that you are no longer invested in the relationship. If you have to put in too much effort to be around them, it is a sign that you are not interested in them. There are moments in every relationship where you are annoyed or irritated by your partner. However, if you are triggered constantly by even the tiniest things, it means you are falling out of love. Any sign of contempt for your partner does not bode well for a relationship.

8. You Do Not Communicate Genuinely With Your Partner

Lack of meaningful conversations is a sign that you may be falling out of love. You no longer invest your time, effort, or emotions into your relationship.

9.You Pretend Around Your Partner

It is important to be your genuine and authentic self with your partner. If you have to pretend or go through the motions in front of them, then the relationship is on shaky ground. Just staying together for the kids, convenience, familiarity, or societal pressure are some reasons why people maintain a facade of a normal relationship.

It is natural to experience some of the above signs when you are in a relationship. Keep reading to find out how to rekindle your relationship when you start noticing any of these signs.

What To Do When You Are Falling Out Of Love With Your Partner?

  • Both the partners should be on the same page regarding getting back together. That willingness on both ends is important to fix a relationship.
  •  Be open to each other’s feedback. Open and authentic communication is absolutely essential for talking about your problems and finding solutions for them.
  •  Listen to each other and work on breaking the old toxic habits. When you have been in a relationship for a while, you start taking your partner for granted. It is important to break those toxic habits that are destroying your relationship and replace them with new, healthy habits.
  •  Be genuine – about your problems and about how much you love them. This is the only way to move forward with fixing any relationship.
  •  Do not make promises you can’t keep. Be realistic about the things you both can do to reignite your spark and fall back in love with each other.
  •  Prioritize each other and be emotionally available. When you are in a relationship, your partner must take precedence in your life.
  •  Spend quality time together. This could be as simple as making sure you have at least one meal a day together.
  •  Have meaningful conversations. Talk about the mundane as well as interesting parts of your day. This will help you connect with your partner daily.
  •  Communicate with honesty and transparency.
  •  Even when you disagree, be gracious and respect each other’s opinions. This will prevent any resentment on either side.
  •  Do new things (hobbies, activities, and dates) together to revive the spark.
  •  Start wooing each other. Go on dates and flirt with each other to rekindle your love.
  •  Be passionate and enjoy each other’s company.
  •  At any point during this process if you feel unauthentic or if the relationship feels forced, it’s time you rethink your relationship. Express your feelings to your partner and make a feasible decision together.


It is important to have love, trust, and commitment in a healthy relationship. If you show any of the above signs, there is a strong probability that you are falling out of love with your partner. Look out for these signs and work on your relationship before it is too late.

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Annie Jangam

Annie Jangam is a Molecular Biologist with 7 years of research experience in Rice Functional Genomics and Nutrient Signalling with International Publications in Abiotic stress, Nitrogen, and G-protein signaling. She specializes in writing on Health and Wellness. She has been an avid reader since childhood and is passionate about stories that help decipher life and its meaning. She believes in Human Rights for all and that one should "love others like we love ourselves."