Signs You Are A Hopeless Romantic And How To Stop

Written by Harini Natarajan , Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner

We have all worn our hearts on the sleeves at some point, i.e., been a hopeless romantic. While many say it is worthless being a hopeless romantic, it has its charms and benefits. Although the person has a fairy tale-esque relationship scenario playing on repeat in their heads, they surely love beyond boundaries and limits. A hopeless romantic gives their all to the relationship, wanting to be loved the same way.

However, the real world is not quite as it exists in their minds, so there are many downsides to being driven by romantic ideology. Let us find out what they are and if you should be or not be a hopeless romantic. Keep scrolling.

What It Means To Be A Hopeless Romantic

What It Means To Be A Hopeless Romantic


There are two sides to being a hopeless romantic; they are often wanted but also criticized. A hopeless romantic is the one who is always head-over-heels in love. Nobody loves as they do. Being a hopeless romantic, you will always find joy and contentment in the little things of your relationship. You will be seen romanticizing good over bad most of the time, imagining scenarios, surprises, and so much more in your head.

Against all negative past experiences and a seemingly unhealthy present, a hopeless romantic embraces love even when it is a red flag pointing straight at them, waving a hello. They get emotionally invested and attached from the very beginning without analyzing what lies ahead of them.

A hopeless romantic may sound like someone who is all gooey, chirpy, unreal, and madly in love, but they don’t always have positive experiences from their love affairs. Reality strikes hard when they face the harsh truth. And that’s when hopeless romantics hit rock bottom. However, they must learn to balance the reality and fantasy of love to enjoy their love life without getting hurt.

Hopeless romantics are eternal optimists. Whether it is a red flag or a do-or-die situation, they tend to try to make their way out of it. However, if you are wondering what makes you one, fret not. We have all the signs or symptoms covered. Scroll down to learn.

Signs You Might Be A Hopeless Romantic

Signs You Might Be A Hopeless Romantic


  • You Daydream A Lot

Are you someone who has their marriage planned even though you might be single? If you know which wedding songs you will dance to, how you will doll up for your engagement, and what your future partner looks sounds or looks like, you are one true hopeless romantic! You are often lost in thoughts, daydreaming about your future partner, already in love with the idea of love, without actually being in love.

  • You Fall In Love Fast And Easy

Most people take time to fall in love. They analyze, discover, and prepare themselves for what the relationship might look like in the future. However, hopeless romantics are more likely to fall in love hard and fast, as soon as they enter the relationship or even much before it starts. You idealize your partner, irrespective of who they really are, setting unreal expectations from the relationship. A hopeless romantic doesn’t differentiate between infatuation and love.

  • You Are Blindfolded In Love

Hopeless romantics overlook red flags until they are deep into the relationship. You dive deep into the flowery relationship with all the reasons you think made you fall in love. Even if you notice potential problems and issues, you skip those by convincing yourself it can never overpower your love. However, ignoring a problem doesn’t make it disappear. When you are done with honeymooning in the relationship, you discover potential differences that may be roadblocks in your bond.

  • You Face Love-Bombing

Hopeless romantics get into relationships easily and imagine their partners to be a certain way. As a result, you may find yourself in toxic relationships. The realizations dawn upon hopeless romantics when the spark is lost. You fall prey to manipulative decisions, dramatic explanations lacking logic, and even false promises. Once the fairy tale love runs out of the reel, toxicity plays on repeat.

  • You End Up In One-Sided Relationships

Not every relationship is based on a 50:50 ratio. Sometimes, they are 70:30, and sometimes, 60:40. However, a balance is maintained. But, hopeless romantics are more on the giving side, as they invest more unlikely of their partners. You end up feeling too much to bring alive your imaginary vision into the picture. Due to this, you end up receiving less and ending up in a one-sided relationship.

There is nothing fundamentally wrong with being a hopeless romantic. However, such people live far away from reality, investing in their imaginary world to the extent of losing themselves. Even when they realize the reality doesn’t align with their vision, they leave the relationship incomplete and premature. Hopeless romantics also have challenging breakups where they lose confidence in themselves.

Well, why fall for hopelessness when you can be a hopeful romantic? Let’s find out how to stop being a hopeless romantic.

How To Stop Being A Hopeless Romantic?

How To Stop Being A Hopeless Romantic?


  • Be Practical

Have your set of expectations and ideologies about love and relationships but keep them in check when you pursue someone. Do not blindly indulge in dating without analyzing your and the to-be partner’s expectations. Align your possibilities and disadvantages, think about the hiccups, and don’t ignore the red flags.

  • Communicate

Communication is the key to every unopened door. Talk about every minute detail that you think matters or will come into play in the longer run. Open communication will help you understand and analyze better. You can identify the issues and, most likely, find a way to deal with them, too. Have a rational mind while communicating.

  • Be Aware Of The Post-Honeymoon Period

Relationships are interesting and a lot more joyful in the initial days. Don’t be scared or lose hope as soon as you see the spark fading away. Hold your ground and believe in your partner and the relationship. Be ready to face some challenges with faith and practicality. Don’t be scared of the reality that walks in.

  • Be Optimistic

Do not be terrified by the red flags or seeing relationships fall out. On the contrary, be optimistic that you can always find love. That said, you should also be alert to the flood of emotions relationships bring. Don’t overthink or romanticize drama and emotions. Take feelings as they come but think them through very rationally. Do not let overindulgence ruin your sense of self.

  • Don’t Settle For Less

A hopeless romantic often settles for less. Instead, remind yourself how worthy you are of better things. Do not settle for less thinking love will always find a way to happiness. Set boundaries and draw milestones for yourself and your relationship. If you don’t feel safe, sound, and secure in a relationship, gather the courage to walk out. Do not sit back, hoping things will get better. Try to make things better but never at the cost of your sanity.

The Takeaway

Being a hopeless romantic doesn’t have only the negatives. It is great because nobody loves people as you do. It is wonderful how you appreciate and acknowledge every little thing, and your empathy outshines all the issues. However, always being so lost in love, kindness, and emotions will cost you later in your dating life. Hence, it is always better to be a romantic full of hope. Minus the hopelessness, what do you have to lose when you understand everything with love but enough maturity? Exactly! Keep your hopeless romantic self in check and make wise use of your senses when and as you fall in love. Everything else must fall into place eventually.

Expert’s Answers For Readers’ Questions

Is being a hopeless romantic a good thing?

Hopeless romantics harm nobody but themselves. It is not wrong or bad to be one. But it is always better to be a hopeless romantic with all the awareness. Be open to the hiccups, the good vibes, the roadblocks, and everything else. This way, you will be less hurt and more aware and responsible of your actions and decisions.

Do hopeless romantics fall in love fast?

Yes. Hopeless romantics fall in love faster than anybody else. They jump into a relationship without thinking of the negatives. It is often seen that hopeless romantics overlook all red flags and hiccups, idealizing their romanticized version of love and a relationship.

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