How To Be A Good Mother – 25 Qualities

With the right amount of discipline and adoration, every mother can be her child's idol.

Reviewed by Sarah KenvilleSarah Kenville, MA (Marriage and Family Therapy)
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Every mother follows the parenting style she thinks is best for her children, but there are certain general qualities you can adopt to win the title of ‘best mother’. Innumerable innate traits are considered here, and many of these characteristics and styles can be acquired to ensure your child grows into a capable individual. From providing adequate breathing space and privacy to trusting your coaching and allowing them to follow their paths and ideals, here are the top 25 qualities you need to ensure you are the best version of yourself for your beloved children and family.

How To Be A Good Mother – 25 Qualities

1. Be The Ultimate Idol

You are the first person your child will look up to, so ensure you are strong enough to guide them. Always put on a brave face to give them strength, even in difficult situations.

2. Give Unconditional Love

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There will always be times when our children don’t meet our expectations or we instantly feel disappointed in them for whatever trivial reason. Don’t let this hinder showing your love for them. Empathize with your children and bestow them with ultimate support and compassion in all their decisions.

3. Always Be Patient

Being patient is one of the top traits to adopt if you are a new mother. Always stay patient with your child and be accepting of their behavior. Try to understand where they are coming from before bursting out in anger.

4. Maintain Respect

Every individual deserves respect regardless of their age. You might end up clashing on various topics and beliefs but don’t let that abstain you from giving respect to your child and hearing their opinions.

5. Be Stern

There will be times when you must be slightly strict with your children, which is necessary to guide them. Don’t mindlessly give in to their desires and requests in the name of love. Overpampering can negatively affect your child by making them unnecessarily demanding and hindering their potential and capabilities.

6. Emphasize Self-Care

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While being a mother is a 24-hour job, it doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself. Make sure to take time for yourself and take adequate breaks; after all, a happy mom equals happy kids.

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As a natural motherly instinct, women tend to give their all when caring for their children, but this can be detrimental to their physical and mental health. So, ask for help when needed. You can request a family member to babysit for a day or divide the chores to reduce the burden.

7. Spread Positivity

A positive and lively environment helps nurture children and promotes qualities like resilience and optimism. Take part in their interests and always cheer them on in their hobbies.

8. Open Communication

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Always maintain a transparent relationship with your children and allow them to share their opinions and ideals. Don’t hesitate to discuss various taboo topics like sex with them and ensure they are aware of the outside world to be able to make rational decisions on their own.

9. Be Supportive

Regardless of their personality and gender, always be supportive of their dreams and decisions. While you can offer your opinion, never demotivate them or give negative criticism.

10. Be Approachable

Children should never hesitate to approach their parents, especially their mothers. Present yourself as a warm and approachable person and allow your children to come to you whenever in doubt or trouble instead of hiding their mistakes and feeling a sense of fear towards you.

11. Build Trust

Build unshakable trust with your children to maintain a happy and healthy relationship. Guiding them in the right direction is essential, but building trust makes them more independent and better decision makers.

12. Be Concise In Your Speech

Children, especially younger children, find it easier to grasp and understand crisp instructions. Guide them with short, clear steps and do not over-explain.

13. Follow Your Intuition

Sometimes, it’s best to follow your heart and gut feeling before making any decision regarding your child. No mother is handed parenting guidelines or a book to swear by, so act on what you think would be ideal and suitable for your child.

14. Show Empathy

Being empathic plays a vital role in proper parenting. You can emphasize in various ways: for instance, respecting their unique personalities and showing genuine interest in their activities and likings.

15. Be Attentive

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While taking breaks is non-negotiable, don’t let this turn into complete negligence. You shouldn’t compromise your child for work and let them roam around without parental supervision. Be attentive to your child’s behavior to ensure they aren’t following wrong patterns and adopting rebellious behavior.

16. Be Authentic

Every mother is different and knows what’s best for her children. Don’t compare yourself with others, and be your genuine self. Be confident in yourself, focus on your strengths as a mother, and truly believe in your decision.

17. Stay Humble

If you ever find yourself on the wrong side of the situation and need to apologize, don’t hesitate. Teaching your children that it is crucial to apologize when you are wrong is extremely important and is only obeyed when done by their ultimate role model – their mother.

18. Make Children Independent

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Constantly catering to their needs and wants will only result in extreme dependency and promote separation anxiety in your absence. Instead, don’t always be around them and even give minimal tasks they can carry out effortlessly.

19. Give Personal Space

Everyone requires privacy, and surely no one appreciates toxic intruding behavior. Ensure you don’t fall into that category just because you wish to guarantee your child’s safety and keep them away from delinquency. Your child might feel uncomfortable with your hovering or helicopter parenting style. It might also hinder them from being completely independent.

20. Avoid Negative Thoughts

With parenting comes immense responsibilities and pressure, so don’t be too hard on yourself and enjoy the whole process. Along with children, we also learn many things ourselves. You will often find yourself making mistakes but don’t let them create self-doubt, overwhelm you, and question your parenting style.

21. Maintain A Routine

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Staying consistent and following a daily routine will help the children fall into proper discipline and understand the value of time. Prepare a weekly or daily schedule for your child beforehand. For instance, wake them up at a fixed time, do not let homework or screen time overlap, and introduce some mother and child special bonding sessions.

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While daily routine is important, a strict mundane schedule can easily bore children. Make sure to spice things up occasionally and incorporate fun activities like finger painting or building blocks.

22. Be Forgiving

As the adult in the situation, you have to act like one, so don’t hold any grudges or be stubborn in your ideals. Children will make mistakes, which is a given, but you must be forgiving and gently make them understand their faults.

23. Give Compliments

A big self-esteem and confidence booster is to simply shower your kids with compliments. It will not only positively impact them but also make them understand the importance of self-love.

24. Be Reliable

A quality we don’t stress enough is being reliable, which is the number one characteristic every mother should have. Children tend to be more open and honest when they see their mother as a reliable figure who they can lean on in difficult times.

25. Be Interactive

Spending time with your children to help them complete their homework may not be enough. It is important to help them learn social skills. Spend quality time with them and connect through interactive and fun play sessions. These activities promote real bonding and creativity and help them develop self-control.

Infographic: 5 Good Qualities Every Mother Should Have

From being a constant pillar for the children to catering to their needs day and night, there are some qualities that come naturally to women, and these maternal instincts double when one becomes a mother. Despite carrying certain qualities that make every mother great, there are a few ways to become a better and, indeed, the best mother to one’s children.

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5 good qualities every mother should have (infographic)

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To Conclude

While all mothers are innately good, there are opportunities for you to hone your parenting skills and qualities. Parenting, in general, is a new and alien experience for every mother every time she gives birth. Even if this is not your first time being a mom, you can always adopt new qualities to be the best mother for your children. For a joyful and meaningful journey as your children grow into capable adults, don’t hesitate to try the above-mentioned tips and experience the true beauty of motherhood.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are some of the hardest things about being a mom?

Being a mother can take a toll on your physical health and be highly emotionally draining, so give yourself enough breaks and try to divide the work with your partner where possible.

How can I be a calm mom?

Five tips you can keep in mind to be a calm mom:

  • Find the reason behind your anger.
  • Leave the situation and give yourself a timeout.
  • Listen to your child first before sharing your opinion.
  • Consider the negative impact your anger can have on your children.
  • Ensure you are getting enough sleep, lack of sleep can make you irritable.

Key Takeaways

  • Being authoritative while also having a relaxed routine helps maintain a balanced lifestyle.
  • Building confidence and self-esteem from an early age is important.
  • Minimizing parent codependency is important to allow the child to grow into a self-reliant adult.
  • Being patient is the key to dealing with hyperactive and restless children.
  • Adequate breaks and self-care are also important and contribute to good parenting.

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