Cuddling is an art. And, like with any art form, the technique is very important. However, once you are past the honeymoon stage, cuddling can sometimes take a backseat. This is a normal thing to happen in relationships, but it is something that you need to pay attention to and correct as soon as you can to keep the relationship fresh.
You may be wondering, what is the best way to snuggle up with your bae and share some warmth? Which positions will not leave your arm tingly and asleep after 10 minutes? Here are cuddling positions to try when you want to snuggle up close to your partner.
12 Types Of Cuddles
Cuddling is amazing for de-stressing and creating intimacy. However, there is more to cuddling than just wrapping your arms around a person and holding on tight. Cuddling is a language of love. Some people love to cuddle and latch on to their partners at every chance they get. Others, not so much. They treat cuddling as a precursor for the “main event.” There is no right or wrong method of cuddling, but these cuddling positions do have an edge over the general ways. Take a peek.
1. The Spoon
Spooning is a great cuddling position. And, let’s be real – it can be a bit sexual as well. Whoever is the “big spoon” wraps their arms around their partner while lying close to them on the side. If you are the “little spoon,” your bae will wrap his arms around you, and your back will rest against his stomach.
2. The Half Spoon
If the traditional spooning technique leaves you feeling hot and uncomfortable, consider the half-spoon cuddle. It lets you be close to your partner and gets you all warm and fuzzy, but gives you enough space so that you don’t feel claustrophobic.
3. The Honeymoon
Cuddling is an all-time thing when your relationship is in the honeymoon stage, and you and your boo just can’t get enough of each other. You want to be entwined all the time, even when sleeping. In the honeymoon cuddle position, you and your partner face each other and entangle your limbs. You are so close that you can actually smell each other’s morning breath. But those things don’t matter because you both are absolutely wild for each other.
4. The Sweetheart Cradle
This position is often sought by couples when they feel the need to be nurtured. In this position, your partner lies on their back and holds you while your head rests on their chest. It is an extremely comforting form of cuddling that generates feelings of well-being and trust.
5. The Lap Pillow
Laying your head on your partner’s lap is amazing for bonding. It also builds trust as it leaves you feeling vulnerable. This position also makes it easy to steal a kiss or two. It is the perfect cuddling position for binge-watching your favorite shows.
6. The Butt Pillow
If you like to use your bae’s butt as a pillow, it could mean that you are feeling submissive and they can “have their way” with you. It also serves as a great cushion to rest your head on.
7. The Butt Cheek-To-Cheek
In this cuddling position, you and your partner face opposite directions but are close enough to let your butt cheeks and lower backs touch. Knees are often in the bent position, although you can stretch a leg and play footsie if you want. This cuddle implies that you want to have a physical connection with your boo, but you also value your space and sleep quality.
8. The Leg Hug
Like the butt cheek-to-cheek cuddle, this position is opted for by couples when sleep is the priority, but both of you still want physical contact. After finding a comfortable position, put a leg on top of your SO’s leg. (You may need to keep adjusting your legs if you feel uncomfortable after a while.)
10. The Arm Draper
For this cuddling position, you and your boo will need to face each other and drape your arms around each other. You will be eye to eye, which is awesome if you both are in a romantic mood, but super distracting if you want to just sleep. I mean, have you ever tried to sleep while someone is staring at you?
11. Pancake Cuddle
This is perfect for when you are feeling playful. In the pancake cuddle, one of you lies on top of the other. It is not the best cuddle position, but it does feel pretty good to get compressed completely!
12. Sitting Spoon
In this classic cuddle, you and your partner both sit up with your arms draped around each other. Fold your legs and turn towards your SO. Fit them on his lap while his legs are positioned below yours.
Not only does cuddling make you feel good, but it is also amazing for your health. Here’s why you need to cuddle more.
Why You Should Cuddle More
1. It Creates Intimacy And Sexual Satisfaction
Cuddling most often leads to making love, but cuddling after sex is important too. According to a study done in 2014, couples who cuddled after having sex reported better sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction (1).
2. It Increases Bonding
Oxytocin is also called the cuddle hormone. It is released when you cuddle with a loved one and makes you feel connected and loved (2). In other words, the more you cuddle, the closer your bond will be.
3. It Helps You Communicate Better
Touch is an excellent way to communicate emotions such as gratitude, sympathy, and love between you and your partner. Sadness or happiness can be expressed through touch as well.
4. It Lowers Blood Pressure
Cuddling has a calming effect on the body, which may lower blood pressure effectively. Research states that even short periods of hugging and hand holding lower diastolic and systolic blood pressure (3).
6. It Relieves Stress And Anxiety
According to a research done in 2004, stroking, squeezing, and stretching can relieve anxiety and stress by increasing serotonin and dopamine levels in the body (4). These neurotransmitters regulate your mood effectively. Dopamine is also known to regulate the pleasure center in your brain.
7. It Relieves Pain
Cuddling may even have the power to reduce pain to a great extent. It balances energy and promotes natural healing.
Cuddling is simply awesome. When you are done cuddling with your partner, give them a smile and a kiss to show them how happy they make you. Tell them how much you love them and stroke their hair. Don’t feel embarrassed to show them how much they mean to you.
In today’s busy life, it is easy to forget intimacy and super hard to find time to chill and recharge. Cuddling helps you do that and also stay connected to the people you adore. Hence, snuggle, kiss, hug, and stroke at every chance you get. Find the perfect cuddling positions for you and your partner, and enjoy the experience. It is great for the body and soul.
- Post sex affectionate exchanges promote sexual and relationship satisfaction, Archives of Sexual Behavior, US National Library of Medicine, National Institutes of Health.
- The orgasmic history of oxytocin: Love, lust, and labor, Indian Journal of Endocrinology and Metabolism, US National Library of Medicine, National Institutes of Health.
- More frequent partner hugs and higher oxytocin levels are linked to lower blood pressure and heart rate in premenopausal women, Biological Psychology, US National Library of Medicine, National Institutes of Health.
- Cortisol Decreases And Serotonin And Dopamine Increase Following Massage Therapy, International Journal of Neuroscience, Taylor & Francis Online.