4 Steps To Find Your Soulmate & Signs You Have Found Yours

Here are a few pointers to help you narrow down your search for your better half.

By Shivani Chandel, Certified Relationship Coach

We all want to find that special someone who will love us unconditionally. We hope they are out there somewhere, waiting to reveal themselves at the perfect moment. But how to find your soulmate or get ready to welcome them with open arms when they finally show up?

The answer lies partly within yourself and partly within your partner. First, you must take a close look inside yourself to see what kind of person would make a good match for you, and then consider whether any potential partners meet those criteria. And, of course, it helps if your partner is compatible with you on intellectual and emotional levels.

When you find someone who checks all these boxes, they are likely to be your soulmate. This article lists more ways to find and recognize your soulmate. Keep scrolling!

What Makes A Person Your Soulmate?

Choose your soulmate wisely


There is no definitive answer to this question as there are different kinds of relationships. For example, you might consider someone your soulmate if they fulfill all your needs and make you happy when no one else can. You might also consider a person from your past to be your soulmate if they came into your life at a time when you needed them the most, even though they may not fulfill all the qualifications that you were previously looking for in a companion.

The point is, there are different kinds of relationships and different ways in which people can be your soulmate. Whether someone is your soulmate depends on how they make you feel. If they bring happiness, peace, a sense of fulfillment, and security, they can be the one!

If you are actively looking for your soulmate, the next section lists some pointers you can follow. Remember, introspection is as important as evaluating your prospective partner.

4 Steps To Find A Soulmate

Steps to find out your ultimate soulmate


1. Prioritize What Is Truly Important

You may find that some qualities in your partner naturally align with the qualities you need. For example, they have good communication skills and give thoughtful responses. If they also have a positive attitude and are fun to be around, they are more likely to make good conversation when you need it most.

If you think your partner might be your ideal match, focus on getting to know them better by learning more about who they are and how they behave in various situations.

2. Get Out There And Meet People

If your friends tell you that you are putting too much pressure on yourself to find ‘the one,’ they may be right. It is impossible to know if someone is your soulmate until you have spent enough time with them. So, don’t expect to land on a decision in the first five minutes of knowing them or even after the first date.

An excellent way to make sure is to meet new people through activities that you enjoy. For example, join a hiking group or join a local book club. Not only will you meet new people, but you will also get to know them better by learning about the things that they enjoy.

3. Focus On What You Have In Common

When it comes to potential soulmates, you should keep an open mind even if you are not interested in them at first. If they continue to display the same positive qualities as before and improve on the ones that you feel need work, there is a chance that they could be your suitable companion.

Consider how you would want to spend your life with someone and what you enjoy doing together. Make it a point to discuss your thoughts and feelings with your companion, as it will help you both stay on the same page.

4. Live In The Moment

If you are too caught up on what you think your soulmate should be, it is easy to become disillusioned when you realize that no one person can meet all your expectations. Your friends and family might tell you that having high standards is good because it means the person who does end up being your ideal match will be perfect for you, but it isn’t always the case.

You should consider changing your expectations by focusing less on the future and enjoying each date for what it is. Even if the person you are currently dating does not fit your criteria for a soulmate, there is still a chance that they could be the right person for you.

If you have someone you feel might make a good partner, head to the next section for some common signs to know if you have found your soulmate.

Signs You Have Already Found Your Soulmate

Signs to look out for in your relationship to determine if your current partner is your soulmate


  • They Get You

You may feel that the person you are dating right now is all you will ever need in a partner. They are someone you have been looking for all your life. While there is no telling what could happen in the future, don’t be too quick to assume that your current companion is your one and only soulmate because it might not end up being true.

  • They Are All Positive

You will know if you have found your soulmate by taking note of the good qualities they have and the negative ones that you can help them improve. If your companion possesses all the positive traits, it might be a sign for you to start thinking about getting serious with each other.

  • You Don’t Desire For More

You should also try thinking about how you would feel if the person you were dating was no longer a part of your life. It can help determine whether they are a good fit for you. If you feel your life will be incomplete without them, it is a sign they may be your soulmate.

  • Compromise Comes Naturally

While it may not be easy to find out whether someone is your soulmate, if you are willing to compromise, work together with your companion, and keep an open mind, there is a good chance that you may hit it off. Take things one step at a time and enjoy each moment for what it has to offer instead of focusing on who your soulmate might turn out to be.

It is important to be with someone who matches you on intellectual and emotional levels. While the idea of a soulmate differs from person to person, there are some qualities shared by all soulmates. If you want to know how to find a soulmate, check out the pointers written in this article. Meet different people and see what you have in common. If your partner understands you and is willing to work with you, chances are you have found your soulmate. However, do not get too wrapped up in the search and cherish every moment with your beloved.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can you have 2 soulmates?

Yes, you can have soulmates in different aspects of your life, not just romantically.

What are the 4 types of soulmates?

Soul partners, past-life soulmates, soulmate friends, and romantic soulmates.

Do soulmates break up?

While that is highly unlikely given the high compatibility and understanding levels, still you should not take your person for granted. Just because they know you in and out, you should not talk rudely or misbehave with them in any way. It is important to keep nurturing your mutual love and companionship with genuine interest and efforts.

Can soulmates be toxic?

You should not allow or encourage any toxic behaviour even if you consider someone your soulmate.

Key Takeaways

  • You can consider a person your soulmate when they understand you like nobody else and make you feel happy and secure.
  • Make efforts to come out of the shell and socialize with new people to improve your chances of finding a soulmate.
  • Also, do not be in a hurry to brand someone as your soulmate. Instead, spend a good amount of time to get an idea about the person and their intentions.

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Shivani Chandel is a postgraduate in English literature from Panjab University, Chandigarh and a certified relationship coach. She has over... more