20 Tips To Learn To Forget Someone You Love Deeply

It could be the hardest thing you'll ever do, but you may have to do it for your own good.

Reviewed by Mira MasukawaMira Masukawa, Licensed Marriage Family Therapist
By Sneha TeteSneha Tete  • 

Loving someone and letting them go is the hardest thing you can ever do. Learning how to forget someone you love? That is even more difficult. When you are in love, you devote your entire self to your partner. It is difficult to adjust to their absence after a breakup because you have grown accustomed to their company. The emotional agony it causes can be excruciating. You may become lonesome and believe that this is how you will always feel.

Read this post to learn how to forget someone you love and what you can do to make this process easier. Keep scrolling.

Ways To Forget Someone You Love

1. Accept That You Are Not Together

Life is not a fairy tale, and a ’happily ever after’ is not as easy as depicted in fiction. When you have spent considerable time with your partner, your heart may not be ready to accept that it is all over. You may still have hope that things will get better and you will be together once again.

However, the first step to forget someone you love is to accept that it is over and you have separated for good. It may be harsh, but accepting the reality will help ease the pain.

2. Mourn The Loss

A breakup involves shock and sadness, and the process of separation is painful. Allow yourself to absorb what has happened and mourn the loss. Some people try to jump into another relationship to forget someone, but such rebounds can result in an emotional mess. Take your time and resolve to get over it. Do not keep wallowing in your miseries, as they can get addictive.

3. Do Not Seek Answers

You may think everything was going well, and the breakup came out of the blue. You keep wishing if you can go back to the past and correct what went wrong. You wish you could have seen those signs earlier and saved you this heartache.

If you keep re-imagining past incidents, you will find it challenging to move on. What you need right now is to look ahead and let bygones be bygones.

The best way to forget someone is to stop thinking of the past. Tell your mind that you will think about it only at a fixed time of the day. It will help you push away those thoughts and do something productive.

4. Get Your Closure

Do you have something left unsaid when you parted ways? Do you imagine yourself having those conversations with your ex? If yes, it means you did not get a proper closure. When certain issues are left unaddressed, it may become more difficult to overcome the separation. An effective solution is to write down those feelings and throw the paper away.

Or better yet, start journaling your feelings so that you can process them, and it will also help you remember why you need the distance, in case you are tempted to go back.

5. Stop Stalking Your Ex

Are you still tracking what your ex is doing? Do you know who they are currently dating? Are you checking their social media profiles? There is no better proof that you have not moved on.

Unless you stop chasing your ex, you cannot get over your breakup. The best way to forget about someone is to go cold turkey. Delete their contact number and unfriend them on social media. If you have common friends, ask them not to bring up your ex in conversations.

6. Erase Old Memories

It is easier said than done. However, you have to make a fresh start someday. Let go of physical memories like pictures and videos. Get rid of anything that reminds you of your former partner. It doesn’t imply you are bitter. You are only trying to give yourself the space you deserve.

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It’s natural to have an attachment to objects. Discarding them can help you break that pattern. If you can’t throw them right away, pack them and store them elsewhere, away from your sight.

7. Do Not Fight Your Feelings

You cannot expect to stop loving the love of your life overnight. You may try hard to fight your feelings, but it will only end up increasing your pain. You do not have to stop loving the person – accept that the person is no longer in your life. Eventually, your love will turn into self-care. There will come a time where you will accept your past and move on.

8. Indulge In Physical Activity

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You may not want to leave your bed and face the world and the reality that your ex is no longer in your life. The best way to push yourself out of this state is to get some physical activity. Go out for a run or join your friend for a session of yoga.

Exercising releases feel-good hormones and can help channel your negative energy. You will feel a renewed sense of self and heightened confidence.

9. Ask Your Support System For Help

Your self-esteem might take a hit after a breakup. You end up questioning yourself why and how it happened. However, that is the last thing you need right now. So, move out of your shell and lean on your support system. Do not be all by yourself.

Being in the company of people who love and care about you will help you forget your love. Talk to them and let your feelings out. They may help you look at the brighter side of life and make you will feel light.

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If you are away from your friends and family, ensure you stay in touch with them. You can also make new friends and create new memories during this period.

10. Step Out

You need to create new, happy memories, and this isn’t possible unless you step out. It may take all the strength you have but gather yourself today and go out. Even if it means going to the supermarket for your weekly fill of groceries, do that.

11. Pick Up A Hobby

Join a cooking class to allow yourself to heal

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Pick up a paintbrush, join a cooking class, or refresh that old hobby of knitting. Do anything that gives your mind a break and lets you feel good about yourself. You can utilize this time to become a better version of yourself. All you need is a little determination, and you can be on a healthy path of moving on.

12. Avoid Any Chance Of Meeting Your Ex

When you are trying to move on, a chance encounter with your ex can ruin all the progress you have made so far. It may remind you of everything that you have tried so hard to leave behind. If the two of you live nearby, avoid the supermarket you know they visit frequently. You may be tempted to catch a glimpse of your ex, but it is best that you avoid any meeting.

13. Be Confident That You Can Do It

Be gentle with yourself and accept that forgetting someone you love takes time. You will get over it one day, and the fact that you are reading this is a testimony that you want to leave it behind. You are already on the right path. You may not erase that person from your memory, but you will get a better hold of your emotions.

14. Practice Mindfulness

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Practice mindfulness to feel more connected and be in the present. You will get a better grip over your emotions and stop your mind from swaying away.  When you feel that your emotions are getting the better of you, try to practice this simple technique. Make a note of five things you see, four things you hear, three things you smell, and two things you can touch. In the end, say something positive to yourself. This will help bring your attention to the moment.

15. Have Faith That Life Will Be Good Again

Perhaps you have spent the best years of your life with your ex. You may feel that you will never have this kind of bond with anybody else. You may think that you will be lonely all your life. You may feel engulfed in a storm of negative emotions. However, try to have faith that life will be good again. Trust that love will again find its way to you.

16. Change Your Environment

If you and your ex shared a house, every small thing might remind you of your time together. The curtains that you picked together or the way your ex preferred to keep toiletries in the washroom.

While it may not be possible to change your house or sell your belongings, try to make a few changes around. Rearrange your furniture and paint your walls to give it a fresh. Get fresh cushion covers, a new lamp, or a few plants to change the decor. You will be surprised how these little changes can make a world of difference in your life.

17. Meet New People

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What you need the most is a refreshing change. And meeting new and inspiring people can do just that for you. It will take off your mind from your breakup and give you hope about new possibilities. So, get out of your shell today and get going.

18. Organize Your Life

We tend to discredit the impact organization and decluttering can have on our life. Removing clutter from your home, wardrobe, or desktop can fill your life with the freshness you need. Moreover, cleaning activities can take your mind off your current issues. Also, try to focus your energies on achieving your career and financial goals. It can be the right time to renew your ambitions and dreams and start afresh.

19. Travel

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There is nothing better than traveling to forget someone. So pack your bags and set off to a place that you had always wanted to visit. It will widen your perspective, and when you see what the world holds, you may feel your problems are too small.

To make the most out of this trip, take your friends or family along. Be in the company of people you love. They will help you reset your life and develop renewed self-esteem.

20. Express Yourself

Bottling up your feelings is not healthy for your emotional well-being. Talking about it will help you accept what is over. Take your time if you are finding it difficult to express yourself in words. However, give yourself a timeline after which you will open up to someone.

If you are an introvert, try to express yourself in another way. Write your feelings in a journal or express them through your art. Do whatever you feel can help you get over this difficult time. 

It can be tough to share a huge part of yourself with someone, and suddenly things start falling apart. It feels like the end of the world because that love felt like it was the only real thing you knew. It isn’t easy to forget someone you love, but it isn’t impossible either. Life goes on, and so must you. Be grateful for the memories but acknowledge that they could only go so far. Step back and reflect on your self-worth and look around yourself. You will find an abundance of people who love you and care for you. Take some time to reconnect with your support system, forge new connections, and work on building yourself up. Slowly but surely, you will realize that the end of something only accommodates the beginning of new and more beautiful things.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you fully forget someone?

The hard truth is that you may never completely forget someone you once loved deeply. You may think of them now and then and remember the good and bad times. You can, however, move on from them.

How do I move on if I still love him?

You have to force yourself to let your partner go. Think of the reason you wanted to move on in the first place. Then do everything in your power to stay distant from your ex. Find a new hobby, stay off social media, stop stalking them, take a solo trip, go for an adventure trip with friends, focus on your career, and set a list of personal goals to accomplish.

Key Takeaways

  • Forgetting someone you love is the hardest thing you can ever do.
  • Accepting that it has ended and that you have parted for good is the first step in forgetting someone you love.
  • All you need to do is love yourself and surround yourself with people who love you.

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