Getting over a breakup is hard, and moving forward seems impossible. While you try to bury your feelings deep within, you seek ways to forget your ex. Remembering all the commitments you made now feels like looking at a pile of broken pieces. You probably feel like the only one dealing with this kind of sadness and are upset with yourself for being so naive. We have all been in your shoes.
Breakups are difficult to handle. Broken hearts don’t heal, ex-partners aren’t forgotten, and the pain is unbearable. But we can tell you this: it gets easier after a while. You can still be the loving person you used to be even after the breakup. Here are 25 ways to make it happen!
1. Give Yourself Some Time To Heal
The biggest mistake people make when trying to move on is indulging in self-destructive activities like aggressive partying, uncontrolled drinking, and crazy makeovers. Though there is no point sulking over what is already done, sometimes, it is good to open up and cry over it.
Give yourself time to heal. Start working out and eating healthy. The positive impact it has on your mental health is almost magical. Also, go back to the hobbies that you stopped indulging in because all your time was split between your work schedule and relationship.
2. Do Not Stalk Him
After a breakup, you may probably keep wondering what your ex is doing at any given time of the day. It is always at the back of your mind.
With the help of social media, it is extremely easy to find out about their whereabouts. But, stalking him will only make you sadder and make you anxious. The best way to deal with a breakup is to steer clear of their social media accounts until you are ready.
3. Do Not Spend Time Re-living Those Memories
What you had was wonderful. It is good – even healthy – to cherish the good memories. However, that is not a good idea when you have just gotten out of a relationship.
When it comes to a toxic relationship, remembering the good bits will only keep you trapped in the past and inhibit your growth.
4. Try To See The Reality
While the dark gray clouds cover your head with sadness, try to find the silver lining. What seems like the end of the world is just a person exiting your life.
Things may look like they are at their worst, but now that you see the reality, know that you can do better. A bad phase creates the opportunity for you to build a better, happier future.
5. Learn Your Lesson From The Ending
Everyone makes mistakes, and it is very important to learn from them and prevent them from reoccurring.
People come in your life to teach you a lesson, and a person who wants to leave will leave no matter what you do to hold them back. You may give a hundred percent of yourself to someone, but never lose yourself completely to them.
6. Do Not Find Excuses To Meet Them Again
Resisting the urge to “accidentally” bump into your ex can be challenging. You may think that a single meeting can get you both back together. However, darling, it’s time you realize what could not be mended in the full course of a relationship can never be settled in just one meeting.
A relationship is all about effort from both sides, and after it has died a painful death, there is no point trying to resuscitate it.
7. Do Not Be Harsh On Yourself
Stop blaming the whole world for your breakup. Face the fact that the person you are the most furious with is yourself. You hate yourself for trusting them so much, for being stupid enough not to understand their intentions.
You may want to find ways to punish yourself by indulging in self-destructive behaviors (like excessive drinking). However, you need to remember that everyone makes mistakes. All you need to do is wipe your tears and prevent your tiara from falling off, princess. You are more powerful than you know.
8. Do Not Try To Be Friends If You Still Have Feelings For Them
It is said that if you are friends with your ex after a breakup, you were never really in love then.
If you are trying to be friends with them just to keep seeing them after the breakup, it will hurt you more than you think. After a ship has sailed, it is pointless trying to turn it around. Friendship is a very special relationship and should not be used for ulterior motives.
9. Know What You Are Capable Of
You realize what you are actually made of only when you get the opportunity to prove yourself. Let the breakup help you grow, discover your inner self, and explore your potential. You will be surprised to know what you are capable of when you start living life to the fullest.
10. Try To Stay Positive And Indulge In A Healthy Activity
A situation like a breakup can make you weak at heart and unstable in mind, making you think of self-destruction. However, realizing that whatever happens, happens for the best can help you start a new beginning. Try to stay away from any negative thoughts that creep into your head. Practice yoga, exercise regularly, and eat healthy to keep your mind fresh for a new beginning.
Being alone at home may cause stress and anxiety. How about doing something you like? Shopping is the way to go! Make a list of all the things you have always wanted to buy and pamper yourself. It could act as a reward for staying strong after the breakup.
12. Re-Decorate Your Space
An idle mind is a devil’s workshop. All that time you spend thinking of all the memories you shared with your ex Put it to good use. Re-decorate your room/home to create a new environment that you do not associate with them.
13. Go Out And See The World
Now is the perfect time to plan that solo trip you have always longed for. Traveling alone to new destinations can be the change of scenery your mind needs. It will make you realize that you don’t need anyone to make you happy except yourself.
14. Get Rid Of The Things That Remind You Of Him
Maybe you’ve saved the bus ticket from the first time you both traveled together, or his shirt that you snuggled with when you missed him. Well, now is the time to let go of not only his belongings but also the memories that you keep revisiting.
15. Cut All Communication Lines
If you think messaging him once in a while or drunk dialing him will do no harm, you are mistaken. Staying in touch with him will keep you trapped in the past and never let you move on. It is also a good idea to block his number, delete all his mails/texts, and burn his letters.
16. Avoid Asking About Them From Friends
Once you cut off all contact with your ex, you may try to get information about him from your mutual friends. Resist that urge. The idea is to stay away from him – physically, emotionally, and mentally.
17. Realize That Reel Life And Real Life Are Very Different
The entertainment industry makes us build castles in the air. Reel life and real life are often confused, and we expect things in our life to function as efficiently as in the books and movies.
When your life and – and more importantly, your relationship – does not work out that way, you tend to get depressed. It is important, especially after a breakup, to keep a realistic perspective and accept that sometimes things just don’t work out, and that’s okay! Because the ending of a bad relationship creates the space for new and better things to grow.
18. Spend Time With Your Family And Friends
Being alone after a breakup can lead to depression. In times like these, you stop trusting people. However, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the people in your life who will actually stick around no matter what. Spending time with your family and close friends can help you clear your mind and push the dark clouds away.
19. Take Time Out For Your Hobbies
Now is the ideal time to do all the things you did not have time for earlier because you were busy with your significant other. Be it pottery, softball, or coding – it will do you a whole lot of good to finally take time out for yourself and execute the projects that you have always had on your mind.
20. Accept It As A Part Of Your Life
This may feel like the end of the world, but know that you will rise again. A breakup makes you lose hope and retreat into your shell, never wanting to move on. However, it’s time to accept that heartbreak is a part of life. No matter how bad a situation feels today, nothing lasts forever. Eventually, everything goes back to normal. You just need to stay strong and withstand the storm.
21. Enjoy Your Own Company
Just because you love spending time with someone does not mean that you stop spending quality-time doing the things that you love. It is very important to pamper yourself and respect your free time. Charity begins at home, and loving yourself creates the foundation for loving others.
22. Do Not Hurt Yourself In Any Way
The easiest way to express your anger is to hurt yourself. Most people do so by cutting themselves or consuming copious amounts of alcohol or drugs. But, no pain seems to match the pain of your heartbreak. However, hurting yourself can make damage your self-esteem.
In times like these, you need to remember that you are an independent spirit who does not need to depend on anyone except yourself to survive. Being in a toxic relationship does not change who you are or diminish your worth. Believe in yourself and gather the strength to start afresh.
23. Forgive Yourself And Forget Your Ex
It is easy to say forgive and forget, especially when it comes to the person who broke your trust and dreams. However, forgiving your ex might be the key to letting go completely and being happy on your own. It may hurt you to see him with someone else. But, if you just focus on your life and creating a better future for yourself, you will end up wishing only happiness for your ex. It won’t even bother you if your paths cross again!
24. Do Not Date Until You Are Ready
Trying to move on forcefully may result in dating the wrong person again. Love is special, and a rebound should not be mistaken for love. The day you are able to love yourself for the person you are and forgive your ex is the day that you can open up your heart to love again and start dating.
25. Fall In Love With Yourself
You are more special than anyone can ever make you feel. Make up for all the time that you ignored yourself to pay attention to your ex and pamper yourself to the fullest. A healthy relationship with yourself will make it easier to move forward in life.
A very crucial part of being human is making mistakes and learning from them. You stumbled. Now get up, dust off, get on track, and start moving again. You are worth every happiness, and if someone is unable to make you feel loved, do it yourself. Be your own queen. Hope you fall in love with yourself all over again.
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