12 Tips On How To Make Him Chase You Like Never Before

Be yourself and maintain your personality and charisma to have a man chasing after you.

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Man is often praised for the perseverance they demonstrate to chase the woman he likes. And it would be a lie if we say there is no thrill in being chased by a man we like. So, how to make him chase you?

If it is not stalkerish, and you too like to know how much he loves you, it is fun to add some thrill to your romantic life. Also, if you wish to watch him go to any lengths to get you, you may try the tips discussed in the article. These tips will help you make a man chase after your love in a healthy manner. Scroll down.

12 Tips On How To Make Him Chase You

1. Make Him Step Up His Game

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Just because a guy gives you flowers or chocolates does not mean you have to say him ‘yes immediately’. Make him go the distance to show how important you are to him. If he wants to be with you, he has to up his game. He has to do better and be better. Do not make it easy for him and give in.

When you do not say yes to a man, they are smitten with you and might chase after you. Do not settle for anything less. No, you are a prized person, and if he wants you, he has to earn your respect and love.

2. Let Him Know What Doesn’t Work For You

You are out with him, and he does something you don’t like? Instead of adjusting, call it out. This shows that you are not afraid to own who you are and what you dislike. It also reflects honesty, and men appreciate such qualities. They will not repeat things you are uncomfortable with and chase after you to figure out your likes.

3. Don’t Settle For Anything Less

Don’t settle for your partner if they are not committing to you. Giving in to everything they want can make your relationship toxic. Do not be complacent when they fail to show up on time or get angry and yell at you. Have a list of qualities you want in your partner and stick to it. Before long, you’ll notice them trying to be better for you.

4. Set Your Boundaries

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Having boundaries will show your partner that you have standards and unwilling to compromise on them. They will respect your boundaries and try to figure out in other ways what makes you tick. Your man might try to do better instead of forcing you to adhere to their rules. It is a subtle way of chasing someone.

5. Exclusivity

Until you are sure that this is the man you want to be with and he lives up to your expectations, do not go exclusive with him. If you want to see other people, go for it. Show him that other men are interested in going out with you. If he genuinely wants to be with you, he will try his best and up to his game.

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Avoid posting pictures with him on social media or taking him as a plus 1 to weddings or family or friends gatherings to control exclusivity.

This might backfire, and your partner might break up with you. But if they could not go the distance to prove they want you, was it even worth it?

6. Have Sexual Boundaries

To make them chase you, don't succumb to all their demands right away
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Taking things slow sexually can make a man chase after you. Just give him a taste of things – give him a little pleasure and then cut it off. This will drive him wild. It can be a seduction game or prolonged foreplay. You can make him chase you by being vocal about what you want in physical activities. However, if you are not comfortable being intimate with him, don’t push yourself to it.

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It is okay to delay sexual contact in a relationship. All you need to do is be honest with your partner and tell them that you are not ready yet.

7. Be Yourself

If you become someone else so that he chases you, it is not you whom he is after. It will only break your chance of being with him once he realizes that the person he was chasing was not really who you are.

8. Take Your Time

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Don’t divulge all your secrets in a day to make him stay with you. Take your time to open up with him. Men will go to extreme lengths to make the women they like to open up to them. Let your partner work at peeling your layers before you let him in on your secrets and dreams. Allow him to show you that these secrets and fantasies are equally important to him.

9. Be Confident

Confidence is key when it comes to flirting and attraction. Men chase after confidence. If they feel the person they are dating is confident about themselves, they like it. Show them that you are confident in your work, life choices, personal growth, self-improvement, or any other area you decide to pursue.

10. Don’t Be Afraid To Let Go

If he is not stepping up his game, just let go of him and walk away. Men find it boring when a woman is willing to forsake her beliefs and opinions for him. They find such women clingy and make them want space. Men want to chase after women who are not afraid to dump them. Cut him loose and watch the wheels turn in his head.

Moreover, you have to prioritize yourself. Michelle Marie Warner, a blogger, writes about how she let go of her true love because they wanted different things in life. This doesn’t mean that the love was any less real, she says, “I love him enough to let him go. Not only on this trip but entirely. I’ve never been able to let go of anyone like this before. I’ve held on too tightly in the past, and it only pushed others away. Now I’m letting go with ease (i).”

11. Be Dramatic

If you want to step out of your comfort zone and have fun, being a little theatrical might help. But make sure that you do not go overboard. Whatever you do should not be a contrast to who you really are. The aim is not to create a different you and fool him. The aim is to have fun with a tad bit of exaggeration. Show him your good and bad side while staying true to who you are.

12. Let Him Miss You

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If you feel underappreciated, step back. Maybe you are doing everything for your partner without any acknowledgment. In such a scenario, let the man miss you. Do not reply to his texts immediately or be willing to show up when it works for him. Take a beat and time for yourself.

Is It Important That A Man Chases After You?

All through mythologies, history, movies, songs, and books, we find epic sagas of men going through great lengths to chase after a woman. While it may be beautiful, there is a lot of pressure on men to walk the extra mile and show a woman he loves her. However, a man does not have to chase after his partner to show love. He only needs to be caring, understanding, and loving.

If you want to be chased, you might not be happy once you’re caught. Things may seem too docile or simple for you. Also, if you are pushing your man to chase you, he might lose interest once he has you. The chase might be thrilling, but the relationship may sink.

Infographic: 7 Ways To Make Him Pursue You

There is something thrilling about being chased by the man you like. But that does not mean you settle for anything less than what you deserve. If you want him to go the extra mile but don’t know how, don’t worry. We have got you covered. Check out the infographic below to learn about the 7 simple ways to make him chase you.

7 ways to make him persue you (infographic)

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Who doesn’t want to be desired by their partners? Naturally, you want your man to chase after you to feel how much they want and love you. However, you should also be careful not to overdo it, as your partner might lose interest if they feel you are making them run after you. Some easy ways to keep him on his toes and try to come closer to you are being dramatic, taking your time, having sexual boundaries, and letting him know what doesn’t work for you. Follow the tips discussed in the article on how to get a guy to chase you.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you know if a guy wants you to chase him?

If a guy wants you to chase him, he will leave subtle hints. He will be playful with you and teases you in a way that doesn’t hurt you. Also, he plays mind games with you that make you think about him more often.

What to text a guy to make him chase you?

Try asking him thoughtful questions about himself, give him heartfelt compliments, share a few funny memes with him, and share with him the song you are listening to that gives him subtle signs. Make sure you do not reveal too much about yourself in text. Let him cope with the little mysteries around you, which may eventually make him chase you.

How long should a man chase a woman?

A man should try to court a woman until it becomes clear that she is not interested. Usually, 3 to 6 months is considered to be the courtship period.

How can you maintain your own independence and interests while making time for a man and nurturing a relationship?

You should continue engaging in activities that interest you, go out with your friends and give some time to yourselves to grow outside of the relationship rather than making each other the center of your existence. Follow your passion and set goals for yourself while you also work on your relationship without constricting yourself and your partner.

Is it possible to make a man chase me, or is that an outdated dating tactic?

It might seem a bit outdated but a chase certainly adds to the appeal and passion right before the relationship begins. A chase allows you to give him a little teaser of what he should look forward to without giving away everything.

Key Takeaways

  • Be yourself and maintain self-worth and self-confidence at all times and you will have a man chasing after you.
  • Do not adjust too much and call out when you dislike something the man has done.
  • Take it slow and steady instead of sharing everything all at once or being physically intimate right at the start.
12 Tips On How To Make Him Chase You Like Never Before

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Darrell Reese is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate with 20 years of experience. He helps couples rekindle their love and create a loving and happy relationship through Darrell Reese Counseling. He employs various modalities for these sessions, including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Collaborative Language Systems, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, and The Gottman Method, to help deal...read full bio

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