How To Make New Friends As An Adult – Helpful Tips

Leave your worries behind with simple tips to help you find your tribe for life.

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Friends make up a comfortable part of everyone’s life, but not everyone is good at initiating friendly connections. So, how to make new friends without being nervous or shying away. This question is often asked by introverts, who find it tough to initiate conversations and end up having fewer friends.

You will always feel at home with friends around, and such healthy relationships can positively impact your mental health. Good friends help us unwind our true potential, have our back, and are always there in the face of adversities. Moreover, they are a source of motivation and inspiration. In this article, we have shared some tips that may help you make new friends quickly. So, let us get started.

How To Make New Friends

The 20s are when you meet new people, find your place in the world, and learn more about everything around you. Here are some tips to make new friends in your 20s.

Here in this blog, the blogger, Hanna Muth, candidly shares her journey of making new friends as an introverted 20-something. Facing the challenges of friends moving away due to life changes, Hanna realizes the need for local friends and sets it as her goal. In her pursuit of a larger community, Hanna reflects on the vulnerability and courage required to form new friendships, ultimately highlighting the common desire for connection in a society plagued by loneliness. (i)

How To Make New Friends In Your 20s

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  • Join clubs or start your local group to connect with others who share similar interests. Clubs are one of the best ways to meet potential friends with common interests in books, arts, games, and other hobbies.
  • Be genuine and try to open yourself up to new experiences. Try to be as honest as possible.
  • Focus on others rather than yourself. The key to connecting to others is showing interest in them and not getting people interested in you.
  • Invite your peers, classmates, or neighbors for lunch. Food is an excellent way to start a friendship and nurture new connections.
  • Participate in study groups, alumni meets, or volunteering. It provides an opportunity to develop your social skills and make buddies.
  • Be confident and speak your mind. Pay attention to your friends’ thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Avoid distractions and genuinely make an effort to listen to the other person.

You are neither a middle-aged person nor a young individual in your 30s. It is a confusing place to be in, and making new friends might seem challenging. While developing and maintaining healthy friendships take time and sincere effort, here are a few ways to go about it.

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To make new friends, it is important to step outside your comfort zone and say “yes” to trying new things and making new connections.

How To Make New Friends In Your 30s

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  • Initiate uninterrupted, deeper conversations with people around you – colleagues, neighbors, and other acquaintances.
  • Try to attend social gatherings, be it office events or school reunions.
  • Mingle with friends of friends. Be open to meeting new people and take the first step to break the ice.
  • Invite a casual acquaintance out for a drink or to a movie.
  • Try to reconnect with old friends and meet them up for coffee instead of chatting on social media platforms.

With the onset of middle age, you are a little more settled in your life and don’t have to run to catch up with others around you. Scroll down for tips to make friends in your 40s.

How To Make New Friends In Your 40s

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  • Volunteer at local community centers to socialize and meet others with common interests.
  • Attend and host neighborhood parties. You will love having people at your house for food, drinks, and games. Even a casual get-together with friends or neighbors can keep you stress-free.
  • Business dinners and official events are also ways where you can meet like-minded people.
  • Attend group getaways hosted by your workplace friends or neighbors. Spending time together will make you feel less isolated and help create a bond organically.

While most people would assume that you have reached your life’s goals after 50, we’d say it is the perfect time to focus on yourself and develop more connections. Here’s how you can do it.

How To Make New Friends After 50

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  • Find ways to reconnect with past friends and acquaintances that you have lost contact with.
  • Don’t be afraid to approach or talk to people at the gym or the grocers.
  • Join a community club and try to take a shot at it. You will find people with similar hobbies and interests.
  • Travel the world. Strike up a conversation with whoever (young or old) turns out to be your companion in this journey.

Being unable to meet your friends in person (of course, you must have tagged along up virtually) due to the Covid crisis has surely been a bummer. But who says you can’t still make new friends? Scroll down to find out a few tips on how to build friendship during Covid

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How To Make New Friends During Covid

  • Register on social media platforms or chat groups to connect with new people and old friends that you have lost contact with.
  • Join online forums to develop a connection and feel inclusive with people who share the same interests.
  • Use apps such as Bumble BFF and Wink that can help you find friends.
  • Stay up to date on trends, attend webinars or talks, and participate in virtual events to recharge your social life.

Many of us get stuck making new friends in school, but developing new friendships doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Here are a few ideas to get friends in high school.

How To Make New Friends In High School

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  • Approach people using conversation starters and get them chatting. You can strike a conversation by asking, “Which school have you been to previously?”, “How do you like this place?”
  • Find people with common interests and open up things both of you are passionate about.
  • When you find a classmate in a pinch, help them out. It is a great way to start a conversation, eventually leading to friendship.
  • Try to speak to someone who is on their own. You might come across people experiencing a similar situation like you, which will feel easier to approach them further.
  • Volunteer or participate in school events, fests, and cultural programs. This is an opportunity to expose yourself to more people and help make new connections.

Wondering how to improve your social life as part of your college experience? Check the section below.

How To Make New Friends In College

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Making new friends in college does not have to be daunting. Here are some strategies to help you connect with new people:

  • Look out for campus events, such as welcome parties and club fairs, where you can meet a diverse group of students.
  • Do not be shy about chatting with classmates or dorm neighbors. Simple hellos can lead to meaningful friendships.
  • Invite people to study together or to grab lunch. Initiating plans can show your interest in building friendships.
  • Getting involved in student organizations, such as student government or cultural groups, can expand your social network.

If you have just moved to a new city and are missing your old friends, worry not. Here are some ways you can make new friends in a new place.

How To Make New Friends In A New City

  • Join faith community associations. You will meet new people who resonate with you and promote better connections or even potential friends.
  • Take part in residential and community events to mingle with neighbors and expand your social circle.
  • Find the local ‘It’ place. Be it a park, a pub, or a simple eatery, if it is the place where locals gather, get yourself there.
  • Check out coffee shop flyers that advertise interest-based meet-up groups, local events, and clubs and organizations.
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You can take initiative and host a party, inviting all your neighbors, acquaintances, and coworkers for a casual get-together at your place or organize an outing to strengthen interpersonal relationships within your communities.

Making new friends might feel intimidating, but it is certainly rewarding. After all, friends can help you realize the wonderful nature of your world (even if it seems gruesome more often than not). They are the ones who share the ups and downs and stay through thick and thin, no matter what. If you are looking to establish new friendships, the tips on our list will help you expand your social circle and find sincere friendships over time.

Key Takeaways

  • You can make friends in your 20s by meeting places such as clubs.
  • Initiating deeper conversations is just one way to make new friends in your 30s.
  • If you want to meet people in your 40s, think about organizing get-togethers like parties, galas, or dinner nights.
  • One of the best ways to make friends in your 50s is to travel or reconnect with old friends.

Making new friends can be very tough when you are an introvert. But building positive and healthy relationships is good for you. You have someone to laugh with and share your worries and troubles. Take this opportunity to put yourself out there, despite how scary it might seem to you. Try joining clubs that focus on things you like, such as reading, painting, or fitness. There are mobile apps on which you can connect with new people. Take time to discover things about them, and open up. Trust us; practicing the points mentioned above will make it easier for you to make new friends.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why is it so hard to make friends?

Making friends as an adult can seem challenging due to a lack of trust in people, busyness and personal responsibilities, introversion and lack of opportunities for meeting like-minded people.

How do you make real friends?

You make real friends by having genuine and vulnerable conversations, expressing genuine care and concern and keeping in touch with those you want to be friends with through good times and bad.


Making new friends can be easy for some and hard for others. Here is a video embracing the art of making friends with humor and lighthearted graphics. Delve into the nuances of building new connections and widening your social circle. Click play now!

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    (i) How I’m Making New Friends as an Introverted 20-Something
    https://medium.com/@hannakroeger/how-im-making-new-friends-as-an-introverted-20-something-67372b91eddf

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