Make Your Ex Miss After A Breakup: A Few Secret Tips

Trying to get him back could be a struggle, but what if it's worth it?

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If you have just gone through a breakup, you are probably wondering how to make your ex miss you. People break up for a variety of reasons. A typical disagreement may turn into a sudden breakup. If you had been together for a long time, it is only normal that you miss your ex and want to see them again. But, you may be hesitant to take the first move since you are uncertain about your ex’s mental state.

If you want your ex to miss you, there are a few things you can do to make them crave you even more and try to reconnect. Read this article to learn more.

What Makes Your Ex Miss You?

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Before you get into the whole process of finding answers to your question of making your ex miss you, it is important to understand what will make them miss you. Getting over a breakup is exceptionally hard, and it is normal for couples to go through withdrawal symptoms post-breakup. Some major factors which might make your ex miss you are:

1. Constant Reminders From Friends And Family

A relationship does not involve just two people; it also involves two families or a common circle of friends. If you were together for a long time and in a serious relationship, it is natural that you have become a part of each other’s families and have a common friend circle. From Thanksgiving dinners and family picnics to your best friend’s baby shower – both of you are a part of everything.

However, it can be difficult to maintain distance from friends and family post-breakup. Their involvement in your life can be a constant reminder of the breakup and the distance between the partners. Whenever you come face to face or get a call from any of them, you are bound to think of your ex.

2. The Memories Of Good Times Flood Your Mind

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Post-breakup, the memories of the relationship can flood your mind through minor triggers. The tune of their favorite song, a whiff of the fragrance they used to wear, the sight of their favorite café every time you walk past it – you have loved everything about them and knew them in and out. While coping with the heartbreak, all these triggers will take you back in time and to those beautiful memories you created and the laughs you shared. You cannot erase them from your mind, thereby making it an emotional healing process.

3. Photos In The Phone Gallery

Your gallery is flooded with their photographs. From your intimate pictures to silly forwards – they are constant reminders of what you have lost and are missing from your life. These photographs are a reminder of the time when your hearts were not broken.

4. Physical Intimacy And The Consistent Sex

When couples are in a serious relationship, physical intimacy and sex are constants. Immediately after a breakup, you might miss not only seeing your partner but also their touch, warmth, and physical affection. A sudden lack of it can be difficult to deal with and make partners miss each other terribly.

Yes, the feeling is terrible. And now that you know that your ex might be equally missing you, there are several things you can do to make them want you back. However, it is not as simple as it sounds.

You can want your ex to miss you and want to get back together, but you cannot force anyone in love and relationships. It is a gradual process, and you must give them time to fully realize their feelings and emotions. Once they begin to recognize their true feelings for you, your absence will bother them. Read on for some relationship advice to help you reconcile with your ex, not just temporarily but for the long haul.

How To Make Your Ex Miss You After A Breakup

1. Do Not Try To Contact Them

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder. Calling or texting your ex continuously after the breakup can be annoying and damaging for reconciliation prospects. Your ex is still trying to come to terms with the breakup and may not be in the frame of mind to think and process your messages correctly. So, whatever you try to say will be futile and may confuse and agitate them further.

Do not try to employ your communication skills, no matter how good you might be, as it will worsen the situation. Give them their space and let them realize the repercussions of your absence from their life. If you and your partner are meant to be, everything will fall in place.

2. Do Not Receive Their Calls And Respond To Their Texts

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Do not give in to the temptation for the time being. You might feel an urge to check up on them and asking them how they are doing. But do not! Even if they call you or text you, do not respond. This will not help either of you heal and only provide momentary satisfaction.

Both of you need time to refresh your minds and clear your thoughts. Think over whatever has happened. Without your response, your ex will be bound to analyze their action and think over what went wrong. This will also make them realize how much you are hurt and feel your need in their life.

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Do not stalk your ex during this period. If you are stalking them, you are not taking the space you need to refresh and clear your mind.

3. Reinvent Yourself

You can invest all that negative energy post-breakup in bringing about a positive change. Now is the time to work on yourself and try all those things you have been planning to do for years: focusing on self-improvement and personal growth. Hit the gym, get a new haircut or get it colored, restyle your wardrobe, or maybe get some new piercings. These simple things will boost your confidence and give your ex an impression that you are doing fine without them. This will force them to think more about you, and maybe then they will express their true feelings for you.

Bella, a blogger, shares her experience of making her ex miss her and come back to her in her personal blog. She realized that her self-doubt and insecurities were holding her back and she decided to get over them. She says, “I worked on this through acts of self-care, affirmations, and subliminals.” Making it about yourself proves to be fruitful in the long run as Bella further adds, “Yes, my ex came back, but even better — I made MASSIVE improvements in myself (i).”

4. Meet New People And Make New Friends

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Step out of your comfort zone and try out new things like poetry sessions, theater plays, guitar classes, swimming sessions, yoga classes, cooking or baking classes, etc. These experiences will help you meet new people and get a fresh perspective on things.

Once your ex knows that you are trying to expand your social circle and are busy ticking off things on your social calendar, they will be bothered. The idea of not knowing your new friends and your exact whereabouts will make them miss you and the comfort they shared with you.

5. Talk To Their Friends

If you bump into their friends or get a chance to catch up with them on social media, tell them you are doing great. Do not talk to them about your ex, the breakup, and how difficult it has been for you to cope. Because you are talking to their friends, they will update them on everything about you.

Play it cool, calm, and composed. If possible, invite them for a drink or a party and enjoy yourself with them. Let them believe that you are handling the breakup just fine. If they bring up the topic, be calm and listen to them. Once your ex knows this, they might try to reconnect with you and mend the relationship.

6. Check Out The Outside Dating World

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If you are emotionally and mentally prepared, go out on a few dates. This will not only make your ex jealous but will also help you heal and boost your confidence. If you were dating them for a few months and your relationship was not that deep, you can try this dating tip.

You cannot spend your time waiting for them to come back. Even if you are eagerly waiting for them, do not let them know this. Knowing you are ready to let someone new in your life will not be easy for your ex. This will make them think of you, miss you, and help them realize that they are not over you and want to share their life with you.

7. Take A Vacation

Do not give yourself a hard time grieving over your ex. Pamper yourself and go on a vacation. Take a break, clear your head, meet new people, try out new things and come back with a fresh mind. This will let you take control of your life and give you time a heal.

Pick a location according to your mood. You can go to a beach if you want a lazy, laid-back holiday. If you want to challenge yourself, you can go to the mountains and try hiking and trekking. You can go with your friends, and if you want to spend time with yourself and gather your thoughts, take a solo trip. It will help rejuvenate your soul.

Also, remember to click pictures and post them on social media for your ex to see and believe that you can handle yourself greatly with or without them.

8. Be Active On Social Media

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You do not have to spend your time drowning in sadness and unhappiness. Keep your social media active – not by posting sad messages and images, but by posting about your activities. For instance, if you have taken up a new hobby, traveled somewhere, or have hit the gym – post the updates. Let your ex see how you transform yourself in and out and handle the breakup maturely.

Self-love is the greatest love. Unless you love yourself, you cannot love someone else deeply. Once your ex realizes that by seeing your updates, they will understand what they are missing from their lives.

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Focus more on your health and do not let yourself cave into emotional eating. Eat healthy food and exercise regularly for a healthier body and mind.

9. Act Cool If You See Them

If you and your ex work in the same office or stay in the same locality, there are chances you will bump into each other often. When you see your ex, smile, act calm, and talk to them politely. This will suggest that you are no longer affected by the separation, which can be a hard truth for your ex to deal with. Post this meeting, it will be okay to initiate contact again. And who knows, your ex might call you up!

10. Make Sure You Are Not Awkward Once You Resume Talking

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Once you resume talking after having ignored your ex for a while, make sure you are not acting weird and uncomfortable. These conversations will be crucial and decide your fate. Like you, your ex will not easily accept how much they miss you. You will have to read between the lines in your conversation.

Ask them how they have been doing or update them about what has been happening in your life. Do not give out too much information, leave some things unsaid, and give them a reason to talk to you again. After talking for a few days, you can begin talking about the good old days and the beautiful bond you shared. This will bring memories flooding back in both of your minds and make you and your ex miss each other more than ever before.

11. Be The Person Your Ex Fell For

While you are steering the conversations to the good old days or occasionally meeting with each other, be the old you. Be the person your ex fell for and remind them you are still you and have not changed. Maybe your ex would be trying to do the same. This will help you both rekindle the lost spark and the initial chemistry you both had when you started dating.

12. Wish Them On Special Occasions

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Do not pretend to forget their birthday. Make sure you wish them on their birthday and other special occasions like Christmas or for their important achievements. This will make them realize that you still remember them even if you do not express it. This can be your chance to show affection subtly post-breakup.

Do not overwhelm them with grand gestures like sending gifts, flowers, chocolates, etc. Keep it simple and maintain a good balance while waiting patiently for the good to resume.

On the other hand, if you are your ex have moved cities post-breakup or stay in different places, and there is no chance of bumping into each other, you can also make them miss you over text messages. How? Read on.

6 Ways To Make Your Ex Miss You Over Text

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1. Hide Your Last Seen On WhatsApp

All couples use the last seen feature on WhatsApp to keep a tab on their partners. This feature allows you to view the time the user was active last. Most of us have the habit, but post-breakup, it definitely hurts.

If you want your ex to miss you, make sure they are not aware of your activity status. Hiding your last seen will not let them keep a check on you, and they will be curious about what you are up to. This way, you will never leave their minds, and they will miss you.

2. Switch Off The Read Receipts

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The read receipt feature on WhatsApp enables a blue tick for the sender once the receiver has read the message. If you switch off your read receipt feature, the sender will not see a blue tick even after reading the message. This mystery of whether you have or have not read their message will drive them crazy.

3. Change Your Profile Picture

Although jealousy is a negative emotion and commonly associated with anger, frustration, resentment but a little jealousy between lovers harms no one. If you had a couple-picture on your display, replace it. You can put your single picture instead.

No, this is not to make them feel insecure, but just to imply that you have moved on with life and have accepted your single status.

4. Be Cold And Non-responsive Over Text

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It is better to avoid texting for a while until your mind has cleared or you have calmed down. However, if you cannot resist the urge, keep the responses short and brief. Do not reply immediately. Take your time. Introspect what to say, how much to reveal, and then choose your words carefully.

5. Ignore Them In Group Chats

If you both have common friends and have shared WhatsApp groups, remember to ignore your ex in these chat groups. Reply to everybody else, except them. Talk only when needed but again, stick to brief responses.

In case you are online, and your ex has sent you a message, ignore the message. You may be responsive in the group chat. This will make them realize that you have moved on and are unwilling to invest time in them.

6. Refrain From Using Emoticons

Refrain from using emoticons during texting to make your ex miss you
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Emoticons in a text message often give out playful vibes. There have been times when people hide the anger behind a serious message by adding an emoticon. Hence, refrain from doing that.

Do not let them catch your emotions through the emoticons. This may make them feel that you are already in the process of detaching yourself from them and are moving on. This may make them think it over, analyze the situation, and get back to you.

By creating a space between you and your ex, you can give them a chance to miss you. Read the next section to learn how to get your ex obsessed with you.

How To Make My Ex Think About Me Constantly?

The best way to get your ex thinking about you is to concentrate on yourself Instead of obsessing over them.

Step 1- No Contact: Give them space to think, miss you, and spark their interest.
Step 2- Glow Up: Follow your interests; be happy in-person and online.
Step 3- New Chapters: Date others to show that you are moving forward.
Step 4- Limited Glimpses: Occasionally post positive updates on social media with no interaction.

Remember, you cannot really control what your ex thinks. Focus on progress, not manipulation. Your best revenge is your happiness. By focusing on your well-being and growth, you naturally become more appealing. And if it is meant to be, things will fall into place.

Key Takeaways

  • If you want your ex to miss you, there are a few things you can do to make them crave you even more and try to reconnect.
  • Give them their space and let them realize the repercussions of your absence from their life.
  • Step out of your comfort zone and try out new things like poetry sessions, theater plays, and so on.
  • Remember to take your time and not rush the entire process.

Follow these 6 simple steps and get your ex back in no time! Watch this video to learn how to make your ex misses you after a breakup!

Infographic: Signs Your Ex Is Missing You After A Breakup

Breakups are tough to deal with. After sharing beautiful memories with someone special, the absence of that particular someone is challenging to handle. While the tips shared in the article will help you make him miss you and think about you, how do you know if your ways are effective or not? Are there any signs you should look out for? Thinking of this, we have curated a list of these signs in the infographic that should ease your anticipation greatly. Scroll down and check out the infographic.

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It is important to maintain distance from your ex after a breakup until both of you have healed and moved on. Maintaining the space is also important if you want to get back with them. If you are in constant touch with your ex, they will never get a chance to miss you.

To make your ex feel your absence, you should maintain a no-contact policy with them. Rest assured, if you are destined to cross paths again, it will surely happen someday. So, give it some time. Go out and meet new people, plan a solo trip, and relax. Make sure you are feeling alright. Trying too hard will only complicate things. Let the relationship take its course naturally. The point is to be happy and not bother yourself too much.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long will it take my ex to miss me?

It depends on the person and how your relationship was with them. An ex may start missing you the next day after the breakup, while another one may take weeks, months, or even years.

Does no contact make your ex miss you?

It may help. The no-contact rule may increase the chances of your ex missing you, but it depends on what caused the breakup and their present feelings.

Is it better to block or ignore an ex?

It depends on your goal. For example, it may help to ignore an ex if you want to get back with them eventually, but blocking them is the best way to move on.

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