How To Respect Your Wife
Treat her with the same esteem you expect to be treated with - that's the simple secret.
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Mutual respect is a key element for a successful marriage. Without giving your wife the respect deserves in your bond, you cannot expect the same from her. But how to respect your wife? Give importance to her feelings, opinions, and thoughts. Show her your true feelings, be understanding, and respect her decisions. This way, you can make her feel secure, happy, and special in your relationship. Read on to know why you should respect your wife and 16 wonderful ways to do it.
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Why Should You Respect Your Wife?
Mutual respect is important in a marriage as it signifies trust, support, love, and appreciation. Lack of mutual respect causes conflicts, misunderstandings, and friction between couples. It also fades the intimacy, and eventually, both end up falling out of love. That is why both the husband and the wife must respect each other. Respect brings stability, security, love, contentment, trust, and faith.
Respect begets respect. If you want to know ways of respecting your wife, you need to know how to develop mutual love and respect. Here are some ways to show your better half that you respect her.
16 Ways To Respect Your Wife
1. Never Raise Your Voice At Her
Yelling at your wife is a sign of contempt and disrespect. Arguing, shouting, and yelling cannot resolve conflicts but fuel them. If you want to show respect to your wife, instead of yelling at her, communicate. If there is an issue, listen to her and try to understand her perspective. No matter how angry you feel, be sure to speak in a calm and contained manner.
2. Do Not Hurt Her Intentionally
You cannot hurt the people you love and respect. If you have done so unintentionally, let her know that it was a mistake, and you will not repeat it. Try to be sensitive to your partner’s feelings. Be aware of her likes and dislikes and respect her choices. Avoiding doing things that you know will hurt or upset her.
3. Don’t Fight With Her In Front Of Your Kids Or Family
Make it a secret rule in your marriage – never let your kids or any other member of your family see you both fight. Fighting in front of the kids and other family members will hamper her respect and authority in their eyes. It will also affect how others treat her. Resolve your issues and conflicts in private.
4. Don’t Be Rude To Her
Be super gentle with your wife. It is not just about not shouting at her. Avoid being mean or rude to your wife even through your actions and words. Treat her with kindness and patience.
5. Be Honest With Her
Another necessary element for a happy marriage is honesty. If you love your wife, you will not be deceptive or lie to her. Lying to your spouse means you do not trust her and have faith in her. Be honest and transparent about everything. This will build trust and respect over time.
6. Treat Your Wife As An Equal
Treat your better half the way you want to be treated as a human being. Give her all your love and support. Respect her desires, wishes, and interests. There should not be an imbalance of power in the relationship but equality.
Quick Tip7. Don’t Embarrass Her In Public
There may be times when both of you may not agree on an issue. If you happen to be in a public place, control yourself from having a full-blown conflict. Even during gatherings, avoid poking fun at your wife for her mistakes. You may do it in humor, but there is a thin line between humor and insult. Most of the time, the chances are high that you will cross that line, which is disrespectful.
8. Never Lay Hands On Her
Of course, physically abusing someone is criminal, and you would never do that to someone you respect. It doesn’t matter what your wife has done, never lay hands on her.
9. Always Allow Her To Speak Her Mind
You may have different perspectives or opinions about things – and that’s ok! Be willing to hear your better half out. Try to understand and acknowledge her perspective and views.
10. Do Not Impose Your Principles And Beliefs On Her
Your wife may have different beliefs and principles, which may not match with yours.
Do not push your beliefs and principles on her. While it is great when both have the same beliefs and values, having differences does not necessarily mean you cannot be together. If you respect each other, you will push aside your differences and stick to a common ground.
11. Do Not Use Degrading Words
Respect means honoring a person. If you respect your better half, you will honor her and never use statements that are insulting, offensive, or discouraging. Words have the power to do irreparable harm. If you respect her, avoid using degrading words towards her.
12. Do Not Badmouth Her
When you are married, you two are partners. A way to respect your partner is by protecting her dignity, especially in front of other people. Stop discussing your wife’s flaws with your friends. If you truly love her, you will respect her even when she is not around.
13. Don’t Cheat On Her
Cheating on your spouse means disrespecting them and the relationship you share.
This holds true even if she has no way of ever finding out. You would honor the sanctity of your marriage, and your commitment and fidelity to your wife are among the best proof of respect for your wife.
A wife and blogger, who has experienced betrayal, shares on her blog, “The hurt is unlike any other. It penetrates your soul and consumes you like a parasite, sucking any joy and light out as it goes. You cannot breathe. You cannot eat. Your mind races with hundreds of questions. You cannot concentrate. You cannot think about anything else. It’s exhausting (i).”
14. Don’t Try To Change Her
When you love and respect a person, you accept them for who they are. Your wife may have her quirks and opinions – that’s what makes her the person she is. Remember, falling in love with a person means falling in love with their character, thoughts, ideas, and everything that shapes them.
15. Consult Her Before Making A Decision
When you are married, you are a team, and you should include her in all major decisions. Communication is a key element in a marriage. From moving cities for a job, getting a new house, managing debts to deciding the best school for your kids and getting a pet – your wife should be your partner in every step of life. If you respect your partner, you will also respect her opinion.
16. Give Her Space
While including her in every important decision is important, it is also important that you give her space to do her own thing and live her own life. Doing so ensures she can pursue her own interests, hobbies, friendships, and maintain her sense of self while enjoying being with you. Giving her the necessary space to thrive means that you respect her enough to let her be her own person, and it also helps keep the relationship exciting as it brings novelty to the partnership. Giving space in a relationship also shows that you respect your partner’s boundaries and enhances the level of trust between the two of you.
Key Takeaways
- Mutual respect is the foundation of trust, love, care, and stability in a marriage.
- Respecting your wife is valuing her for the person she is and honoring her feelings, opinions, and decisions.
- Physical and emotional abuse or infidelity has no place in a respectful partnership.
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Respect your wife and show her the love she deserves. Learn various tips in the video below to truly appreciate her and motivate her to be the best version of herself!
Infographic: 8 Simple Ways To Respect Your Wife
A lack of respect towards your wife can cause conflicts and create distrust in your marriage. So, if you want to learn how to make her feel loved and appreciated but do not know how, you have come to the right place. Check out this infographic for simple ways to respect your wife for a strong, healthy, and fulfilling marriage.
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Respect is one of the most important aspects of a successful marriage. If husband and wife do not respect one another, the relationship will be chaotic, with each doing their own thing without regard for the other. Naturally, this will lead to confrontations.
Quick TipIf you want your spouse to respect you, you must first show her how by respecting her. Respect breeds respect, as the saying goes. Therefore, start treating your partner with respect. Your wife will reciprocate with respect and love if she sees how much you appreciate and honor her. Follow the tips in this article, and you will see her face light up with pride and gratitude for you!
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Frequently Asked Questions
What does a wife expect from her husband?
All expectations that wives have from their husbands boil down to a single need: to have a reliable partner. Honesty, responsibility, trust, partnership, love – on all these accounts, wives want husbands they can always look to for physical and emotional support and know that their partners have their backs.
How do you know your wife is happy?
Look for the physical signs of happiness. For instance, the twinkle in her eyes, the openness in her smiles and laughter, and her relaxed body language may indicate she is at ease. Many women grow up in environments where their opinions are not valued or their voices go unheard. As a result, they learn to keep their opinions to themselves or pretend they are fine. It is understandable not to know if your wife is happy or feigning happiness. However, where words are deceptive, body language is not.
What is disrespect in a marriage?
Some common cases of disrespect in marriage include lying, yelling, nagging, not valuing the other person’s opinions, disloyalty, and threatening to end the relationship. Putting down your partner’s efforts and degrading them in front of others can also be considered disrespect in a marriage.
How do I get my wife’s respect back?
The first and foremost step is to respect her. Following the points discussed above can help you improve your behavior and earn respect. However, if you still find it hard to get her respect, communicate with her and let her know how you feel. You may also consult a marriage counselor to help with the situation.
Personal Experience: Source
StyleCraze's articles are interwoven with authentic personal narratives that provide depth and resonance to our content. Below are the sources of the personal accounts referenced in this article.
i. Discovering My Husband’s Affair, or ‘D-Day’https://shatteredbyaffair.wordpress.com/2014/01/10/discovering-my-husbands-affair-or-d-day/
