26 Best Ways To Spice Up A Long-Distance Relationship

Don't let distance get in the way of romance; keep things hot and happening.

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Many people feel that long-distance relationships never work. Are you one of them? Well, you just need to learn how to spice up a long-distance relationship. Contrary to popular belief, an LDR can set the groundwork for a more caring and dynamic bond in which the couple adores each other. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, after all.

On the other hand, such relationships are prone to boredom, emotional unavailability, intimacy issues, and miscommunication. If you are worried about the same, here are some ways to spice up a long-distance relationship. Keep reading!

26 Ways To Spice Up A Long-Distance Relationship

1. Kick-Off A New Series Together

Luckily, video streaming platforms have unlocked some fun features to spice up a long-distance relationship. You can use them to watch a new series and create shared experiences.

Use tools like the Teleparty Chrome Extension to sync your video playback across multiple video streaming platforms – Netflix, Hulu, HBO, and Disney. This way, you can keep up with each other second by second.

2. Surprise Each Other With Gifts

Surprise each other with gifts to spice up your long distance relationship
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No matter how cool one might try to play it off, everyone LOVES surprises.  This can be anything, from a handpicked care package, pleasure toys to a pizza that is as cheesy as your love. You know your partner better, so send them a gift that speaks to them. There’s nothing like sending a romantic meal to a mate and ordering yourself the same meal so you both can eat together.

3. Send Love Notes And Packages

Even if you cannot send surprises, there are several ways to show that you love and care about your partner. Go old school and send your significant other a love letter or a postcard. You can go to the Dollar Store and get a package of cards and write a special note in each. Then, mail a card each day.

You can take it a step ahead and send cute packages with your favorite books, some snacks, or a keepsake of your time together. If you are fond of DIY projects, create something special and send it across. Your partner will appreciate the effort and the gesture.

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You can also send pictures you’ve clicked with your packages. They could be nice or naughty, depending on the kind of gifts you are sending.

4. Download A Couple’s App

Couple’s apps are the one-stop answer to all your questions. You can connect with your long-distance partner easily and rekindle the sexual or emotional spark. Apps like Lovedays, Lasting, or Nujj can help you build stronger relationships.

5. Hit Them With An Occasional Saucy Text

A little saucy message can go a long way in igniting passion. It becomes all the more effective when it is least expected! While there may not be much that you can do about the situation, a naughty message can surely reserve the top spot in your partner’s heart and mind. Be sure to add seductive pictures that match your words. If you decide to send pictures of yourself, make sure you cover up anything that may reveal your identity if your phone is lost.

6. Plan Out Your Dates

The anticipation of meeting each other can be exhilarating in a long-distance relationship. And when you have a long list of things planned out for the D-day, it is a race against time to tick all the boxes while enjoying those micro-moments of love. Therefore, a little planning can help you feel sorted and enjoy your time together to the fullest.

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You can set up a virtual countdown timer that both of you can customize. Browse through the app store to find a countdown app that suits your taste.

7. Play Co-Op Games

If you and your partner are already into gaming, you may have already tried this. From Fortnite to Animal Crossing, these thrilling games are bringing long-distance couples closer. And even if you are not a hardcore gamer, online games like Scrabble, Pictionary, and Monopoly can promise hours of fun.

In her blog, Hannah Murphy shares insights about maintaining her long-distance relationship with her boyfriend through playing online games. She highlights, “You don’t have to physically be there to do things with each other. For example, me and my boyfriend play League of Legends together online. There are also game apps like QuizUp or Draw Something which allow you to add friends and play against each other (i).”

8. Set Up Skype Dates

Where you can work-work through video conferencing, how can you not make your relationship work using the same? Log off your Zoom and move to Skype for those 3 AM face-to-face conversations. You can even turn your regular talks into dates. Just dress up and aerate the wine, and you are ready to wine and dine with your loved one. You can also have video dates that include cooking together or virtual games. Be as creative as possible. And make sure to have a strong internet connection so your date isn’t interrupted!

9. Get To Know Each Other

Couples in long-distance relationships can miss out on effective communication. Hence, getting to know your partner and exploring each other as individuals is essential. You can start with simple questions like “What attracted you to me?” and go all the way to quirky things like “Would you rather have eight arms or eight legs?”

10. Have A Fitness Challenge 

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Do you and your partner share a common passion for fitness? If yes, set up long and short-term health goals and turn them into a fun competition. It can help cultivate a team spirit as you motivate and help each other overcome challenges.

11. Go On An Adventure

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How about dialing down the screen time and exploring the great outdoors? Get yourself out there and stream your adventure to spice up your long-distance relationship. Give your partner a tour of the town or show them your quiet place –  either way, an adventure awaits.

12. Get Bold With Sexting

Try anything from sharing fantasies to heavy foreplay, and you can have intense moments with your partner through words. All it takes is a spark of imagination, and the possibilities are endless.

13. Get On That Hotline Bling

If you are not very good with words, phone sex can do the trick. Get your love hormones pumping by speaking about your fantasies and what you would do to your partner if they were physically present with you. Use your sultry, husky voice to seduce them further through the alleys of dirty talking.

14. Set Aside Some “We Time”

Spending quality time together is a great way to spice up your long-distance relationship. Watch a movie or read a book on the genre you prefer. Use culture as a medium to add value to your life and relationship.

15. Let Creativity Tie You Together

With enough creativity, you will never face any dull moment in your long-distance relationship. Use it wisely to send each other cryptic texts or quizzes, and discover ways to let them know what you feel about them. Flexing those grey cells can be one of the fun ways to create a spark in your relationship.

16. Share Your Hobbies

When you share a life, sharing hobbies should be one of the first steps. If you already share common interests, you can hone those skills or pick something at random to view your partner in a whole new light. With online courses, your options are virtually limitless.

17. Get Nostalgic With A Throwback Thursday

The distance can amplify regular relationship blues. So if you and your partner are experiencing a rough patch, going down memory lane can be an excellent strategy.

Recall the initial phase of your relationship and relive those moments when every exchange would set free the butterflies in your stomach. It also lets you evaluate how much you have grown together, which can help rekindle the warm and fuzzy feelings.

18. Dedicate Sappy Social Media Posts

Spice up your long-distance relationship with some good, old-fashioned PDA. Dedicate a sappy message for your partner on social media. Tag them in the post and show off how deeply committed you are to each other to make this work.

19. Hop Aboard Viral Couple Trends

If gushing about your partner is not cheesy enough, give into viral couple challenges on TikTok or Instagram. They can be silly but fun to make memories along the way.

20. Cook (Or At Least Eat) Together

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Cooking together or sharing a meal can be highly effective in forming a secured bond with your partner. Have an ultimate bake-off, or quietly work your way through dinner. The sense of routine and sharing it with your loved one can help make the distance more bearable.

21. Start Journaling

Journaling or scrapbooking can help you record and cherish the memories you both have shared. Apart from refilling your jar of nostalgia or acting as a pick-me-up on the bad days, they make for perfect gifts at anniversaries and other love occasions. Do a couples’ journaling exchange. Each person will have their own journal while they are apart, and when they see each other, they exchange the books. It gives you a chance to reread what your mate wrote about you.

22. Create A Playlist

Do you have a song that’s “yours?” Or has any love song got you thinking of your partner? Well, compile them into a Spotify playlist and share them with your significant other. The number of songs on #LDR will leave you surprised. Trust us, “Kiss me through the phone” is just the tip of the iceberg.

23. Play A Drinking Game

Are you watching a movie together and want to make it more exciting? Try a few whacky drinking games! Use this as an excuse to get to know your partner better through a grueling “Never Have I Ever” session. You will be tipsy enough to unwind and ease into some pillow talk.

24. Be Spontaneous

Spontaneity is the key to spice up a long-distance relationship sexually and emotionally. It breaks the monotony and helps you discover new ways of trying out old things.

25. Plan A Surprise Visit

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You can drop in and surprise your partner after a long day at work. However, avoid inconvenience by going over your partner’s schedule and involving their friends and family in the plan. When you stand beaming in front of your partner, nothing can make them happier than that very moment.

26. Long-Distance Scavenger Hunt

A scavenger hunt idea is the best way to surprise your partner. It may need months of planning and help from your partner’s friends or people who live close to them, but it is achievable and very satisfying to pull off. The first step is to create a list of items or clues for your partner to find in their location, set up by your confidant on the other end; use video recordings for hints and real-time guidance. Maintain a time limit to keep the excitement intact, and collaborate by asking your confidant to help your partner solve the challenges. Celebrate the experience at the end with a virtual debrief, sharing stories and laughter. Turn the physical distance into a fun, shared adventure that strengthens your connection and creates lasting memories involving your partner’s friends as well.

Infographic: 6 Tips To Keep The Romance Alive In A Long-Distance Relationship

Are you in a long-distance relationship? It is a matter of immense concern to couples to keep the romance alive when partners are far apart. Here are a few quick tips to consider to add more love and care to your relationship, even when you are miles apart. Check out the infographic below.

6 tips to keep romance alive in a long distance relationship (infographic)

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Long-distance relationships need not be as difficult as people make them out to be. Of course, it may require a little bit of extra effort, but if your partner matters to you, you would not mind it. A long-distance relationship requires commitment, communication, and devotion. Due to advanced technology, you can now easily express your affection on various apps and social media platforms. It provides you with an opportunity to put your creative hat on and come up with innovative ways to make your partner feel special. If you have hit a creative roadblock, take cues from this article on how to spice up a long-distance relationship, and keep your partner happy despite the distance.

Frequently Asked Questions

Should LDR couples talk every day?

There is no universal answer to this. Some LDR couples love talking to each other every day. Others may not have time to do so, but that does not affect their relationship because they understand each other. You may not find anything to talk to each other about every day, and that is alright. If you both do not talk every day, make an attempt to at least text to let the other person know that you are thinking about them.

What does a man want in a long-distance relationship?

When it comes to long-distance relationships, men look for someone they can talk to easily and someone they connect with. They want someone with whom conversation flows easily, and it is clearly not just about physical attraction. They may also look for a secure partner who trusts them and does not bombard them with texts and calls. That being said, some men want attention, just like women, and love to feel needed. You have to figure out your man to know how much and/or how little attention to give him to feel satisfied.

How do I make my long-distance boyfriend crazy about me?

Stay in touch by exchanging messages frequently, delight him with thoughtful gifts and surprises, and maintain the romance by organizing virtual dates and exchanging seductive texts.

How do I pamper my long distance boyfriend?

Consider sending him care packages with his favorite treats and items, scheduling surprise virtual game nights or movie screenings, and sending thoughtful messages and photos to remind him how much you miss him.

How can we make the most of the limited time we have together in person?

Make the most of your limited time together in person by planning ahead. Create a list of activities and experiences you want to share, prioritize quality time and intimacy, and make the most of every moment by staying present and engaged.

How can we maintain intimacy in a long distance relationship?

Prioritize regular communication through phone calls, video chats, and text messages, and schedule virtual date nights to keep the romance alive.

How can we overcome feelings of loneliness and isolation in a long distance relationship?

Stay connected through frequent communication, pursue hobbies and interests to stay busy and engaged, and make plans for future visits and shared experiences.


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Key Takeaways

  • Long-distance relationships may necessitate a little extra effort and imagination to bridge the communication gap and lack of physical proximity, but it’s not impossible.
  • You may spice up your romance by giving each other gifts, scheduling skype dates, playing co-op games, and more.
  • However, if you sense a feeling of detachment, it is probably time for you to reassess your relationship.

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LaTonya MeChelle is not your typical love and relationship coach. Her matchmaking skills are unique, and she is the type of life coach that makes you appreciate looking in the mirror. Her coaching techniques are far from traditional but as effective as they come. With over 10 years of experience, her creative mind, love for people, professional expertise, and past...read full bio

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