How To Spice Up Your Relationship: 15 Ways That Will Work

Written by Harini Natarajan, Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner

As you grow in your relationship, things begin to feel stale. The feeling you used to get when your fingers brushed against your partner’s, those butterflies you felt, may not be there anymore. If you are wondering how to spice up your relationship, keep reading!

Relationships consist of the honeymoon phase, where everything feels fresh and incredible. But as you grow more comfortable with each other, you may feel that things are becoming monotonous. You both don’t leave love notes for each other anymore, date nights have become take-out nights, and you have stopped experimenting in the bedroom. To keep the relationship from becoming stagnant, here are a few ways you can bring the heat back and spice things up!

Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship

1. Prioritize Your Relationship

Prioritize your relationship to spice it up


After a couple of years, the relationship between you and your partner unknowingly takes a back seat. Work, friends, and social associations take up most of your time, and your relationship tends to become a little blurred.

While everything else is important, your relationship is what holds you together, and that should ideally be your priority. Do not let anything take over the space and time of you and your partner. Invest your time in your relationship and help rebuild the communication gap that is usually lost amidst a busy life.

2. Reminisce The Good Old Days

If you are wondering how to spice up a marriage after 25 years, the key is to reminisce. It is important to spend quality time without any distractions or interruptions. Walk down memory lane, talk about your first date, and other special days. Whether you decide to get cozy, intimate, or spend time talking, make sure it’s worthwhile.

3. Show Some PDA

Show some PDA to spice up your relationship


If your partner likes it, go ahead and indulge in some PDA. Nowadays, PDA is not limited to being physically close in public but also includes social media. Post a picture of you two on social media and give your partner a surprise shout-out with a flirty quote.

4. Show Gratitude

There might be numerous things, gestures, or acts of love that your partner does for you silently. Show some gratitude – appreciate and acknowledge the things your partner does for you out of love.

Rather than pointing out the things they haven’t done or done wrongly, focus on the positives. This little gesture of gratitude will make them feel special and important. This will also change your and your partner’s mood and help spice up the relationship.

5. Express Your Feelings Or Leave Notes

Express your feelings or leave notes to spice up your relationship


The charm of a new relationship is in the little things you do for each other, which you stop doing eventually. You can start reigniting that spark in your relationship by expressing your feelings. No matter how long you have been in a relationship, do not stop expressing your love for your partner.

You can leave some love notes on your partner’s wardrobe or side table. Take it up a notch – be playful by sending romantic, flirty, or sexy emails or texts throughout the day. Your partner will be taken aback and thoroughly enjoy the anticipation of what is waiting when he gets home from work.

6. Do More Of Couple Stuff

Indulge in couple spas or take a luxurious and steamy bath together surrounded by candles and a glass of wine. You can also do other activities like watching a movie together or dining at your partner’s favorite restaurant. You can also play the game of ‘we just met’ and act as if you are strangers, build up a conversation, and see where the night takes you.

7. Dress Up For No Reason – Look Good, Dress A Lil Sexier

Dress up for no reason to spice up your relationship


Do you often find yourself hanging around in your pajamas or sweatpants? It’s ok to dress down when you are at home, but it’s important to strike a balance because what you wear has a huge impact on how you feel. Try wearing something sexy during the weekends to surprise your partner. Wear an erotic perfume or try a fancy hairstyle.

Remember how you made an effort to dress up for your partner while you first started dating? Bring back that phase, and you might feel different and in a better mood. Dressing up a little sexier is a trick to add spark to your relationship instantly.

8. Practice Physical Touch

Physical touch does not always mean sexual. Sex is great, but all the things that lead up to it are equally good. If you are not an overly affectionate couple, it is time to introduce touch into your relationship for spicing up things.

Hugging, cuddling, making out, or simply holding each other’s hands are a few ways to spice up a relationship. Make sure your hugs or kisses last a little longer, or give your partner a quick neck massage. Do not underestimate the power of touch and watch how the magic unfolds.

9. Make Your Partner Feel Special

Make your partner feel special to spice up your relationship


We often skip doing special things for each other amid our monotonous life, except for the anniversaries. But try to put in a little effort and plan a surprise for your partner. You could either cook your partner’s favorite dish, bake a cake, get flowers, snuggle longer in bed, gift something he/she is waiting to buy, or show some care and pampering with an extensive massage session. When your partner notices all these little gestures, he/she will shower you with something special as a thank you!

10. Set Up A Surprise Date

Clear your schedule and make arrangements to have your house to yourself. Set up a romantic date at home or plan out a spontaneous date at your favorite restaurant. Make a habit of planning regular date nights to maintain the spark between you and your partner. Whether it is a fancy candlelight dinner, a movie night, or ordering pizza and sitting on your balcony – make sure you both get that uninterrupted time for yourselves.

11. Plan A Vacation Together

Plan a vacation together to spice up your relationship


There is nothing as good as a getaway from the busy routine with your partner. Plan a romantic vacation and relive your honeymoon days at an exotic destination. Book a nice fancy place with romantic things that you both could indulge in for reigniting the spark.

Make sure your room has a hot bathtub or a jacuzzi to spice things up. Enjoy peaceful snuggling or cuddling time without the stress of someone walking into your bedroom or having to run an errand.

12. Get Intimate Again

Most of the time, just bringing back the thrill of being glued to each other constantly is exciting and exhilarating. The anticipation of longing for each other and the extensive rush of adrenaline can be super fun and will definitely help in adding a little bit of spark to your romance.

Try to bring back that honeymoon phase where you just could not keep your hands off each other. Indulge in a little makeout session, dress up, or dress down into something sexy, or learn new moves to entice your partner.

13. Do Things Your Partner Likes

Do things your partner likes to spice up your relationship


There must be a few things that your partner loved when you did it in the initial days of your relationship. It’s time to do it all again! Wear a dress he loved, apply his favorite cologne, prepare his favorite dish, or play the music track you both once danced to.

Recreate those moments and look how surprised your partner gets. You can also opt for couple games, challenge each other while playing, and have some fun bets. Use these ideas to spice up your relationship in a fun and exciting way.

14. Spend Some Time Apart

There is certainly a truth about the saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder.’ Depending on each other for every small thing leads to taking each other for granted. Therefore, respect each other’s space and freedom. Spend some time apart, go out with your friends, or take separate vacations once in a while.

A little distance will make your partner miss you and realize all the things you secretly do for their convenience. And while you are away, take your passion to a new level by flirting over texts or sexting.

15. Let Go Of Little Things

Let go of little things to spice up your relationship


If your partner is having a bad day at work and ends up taking out the frustration on you, let it go and let them calm down. Do not retaliate instantly. Calm yourself down and let time pass as immediate retaliation can lead up to a useless, petty argument. Talk it out and deal with the issue together.

Remember, you need to be consistent if you want to reignite the spark between you both and have a relationship that remains steady and fresh as new. We hope that these ideas to spice up your relationship help in strengthening your bond with your partner. Good luck!

Key Takeaways

  • Once the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over, you may feel it has lost the spark and become stagnant.
  • Feeling stagnant is a reminder that you need to take a step back, slow down, and give your relationship a breather.
  • Take time to spend with each other, indulge in PDAs, compliment each other, and try out things in a new way to spice up the marriage.

If you are in a long-term relationship, you know what it is like to feel the initial spark and excitement give way to routine and monotonous existence. And would you not do anything in your power to feel those butterflies again and see your partner blush every time they see you? The above tips to spice up your relationship can be just the thing you need. Indulge in some public display of affection, dress up for meeting them, and set up a surprise date to breathe new life into your relationship.

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