How To Talk To A Guy – 10 Simple And Useful Tips

Written by Harini Natarajan

There is that cute guy you have been eyeing for a while now, but he seems oblivious to your swooning heart. You are itching to talk to him, but your shy self is making you sit tight and steal glances at him? Worry not, sweetie pie, we are here to help you out. Want to know how to talk to that guy you like and win him over? We know all the tricks of the trade.

Most women wonder about what to say to a man in a conversation, especially if they have to initiate the conversation. Knowing how to hold a conversation is important as it helps you build a rapport with the guy and get to know him better. But, there’s a lot more to a good conversation than just words. Your chemistry becomes all the more important when you are trying to get the guy to like you back. Here are some pearls of wisdom to help you out. Now, get out there and see if your guy can resist your newfound charm.

How To Talk To A Guy

1. Smile More Often

Smile More Often


A simple smile can work wonders when you are trying to impress someone. The next time you are initiating a conversation or talking to a guy you are crushing on, flash your pearly whites. Subtly, of course. Laugh at his jokes, smile every now and then while looking into his eyes, and don’t hide that mischievous glint in your eyes. When you are happy, it shows. And everyone likes being around someone cheerful and fun.

2. Make Physical Contact

Guys have always been attracted to the gentle, tender touch of a woman. Men involuntarily tend to flirt more and show more interest in girls who touch them during conversations (1). Touch his forearm occasionally or place your hand on his shoulder when you are having a conversation. Do this, and you will see his interest in you grow in no time.

3. Be Coy And Graceful

Women have always loved chivalrous men, and men have always adored graceful, coy women. However, there is a big difference between being demure and elegant and just plain shy. Find that sweet spot that works for you. Work your charm on him. Make eye contact when you talk to him. Don’t be too shy or awkward about your own unique quirks. Be comfortable in your own skin, and he will find your confidence and grace irresistible.

4. Don’t Be Rude Or Mean

We all swear occasionally; nobody’s a saint.  Swearing once in a while is fine – we all need to blow off some steam. But in general, try to avoid cursing or using bad language too often. It makes you come across as an inconsiderate person who doesn’t care about others’ feelings. Also, don’t bitch about other people or speak nastily about others. If you are always complaining or mean to others, you may come across as rude.

5. Seek His Protection

Seek His Protection


It doesn’t hurt to make him feel important. Give him some opportunities to help you out, and he will appreciate the chance of being your protector. Reach out and hold his hand while crossing the street. Smile shyly and ask him if he can help you to carry something heavy. You know the drill – make him feel like you are thankful for his support, and he will want to be by your side all the time.

6. Be Mysterious

Guys may find mysterious girls a bit annoying, but they also can’t help but fall in love with them. You don’t have to tell a man about every single emotion that is going through you. If you are feeling lost or he catches you smiling to yourself, and enquires about it, you can simply tell him it is nothing. Don’t reveal each and everything that goes on inside your mind, or you will just become boring to him. A word of caution here: Don’t do this to your boyfriend, though – he may think you are having an affair!

7. Be Nice And Polite

Everybody wants to spend their lives with someone who is warm, kind-hearted, and caring. If you want to win someone’s heart, always keep this in mind. Be good-natured, nice, and polite. Be courteous and sweet, not just to him, but to all the people around you. You can try to pretend to be polite when you are with him, but it is neither easy nor believable. Instead, learn to be a genuinely gracious human being – not only to impress him but also to be happier in your own life.

8. Appreciate Him

It feels good to get noticed for your efforts. Don’t you agree? Often, when someone is kind to us, we may take it for granted. Pay attention to the little things he may be doing for you. Don’t hold back on the compliments. Knowing that you notice his efforts and praise him for it will make him feel more attracted to you.

9. Be Naughty And Mischievous

Be Naughty And Mischievous


There is nothing as sexy as a girl who is shy and coy, yet has a streak of mischievousness in her. It is always cool to have fun now and then with a couple of pranks. Tease him, tell him a few jokes, nudge him by the shoulder, or do all of the above. Guys love girls who are all sweet, cute, and nice, but admittedly, it can get boring after a while. Show him that you have a naughty side too!

10. Play Hard To Get

Now, where have we heard this one before? It is a bit of a cliché that everyone loves a good challenge. It is an oft-repeated piece of relationship advice that if you are easy to get, he will lose interest in you. Being friendly and approachable while still keeping him on his toes is a delicate balancing act, so tread tactfully. Speak to him in a sweet manner, but don’t ever let him take you for granted. Don’t be too easily accessible or always available either. That only makes him take you lightly. Make him work for your attention.

Talking to a guy is never easy, especially if you are shy. As a first step, try and find out more about him. If you know more about his interests and his likes and dislikes, you will have something to talk about. Initiating a conversation with him will feel less daunting if you know a little bit about him and have something to talk about.

Introduce topics that interest you both, or talk about shared experiences, such as going to the same workplace or liking the same kind of music. Encourage him to share his thoughts and reciprocate by sharing your own ideas. Be yourself and let the conversation flow naturally. Once you feel more comfortable around him, try the tips that we have listed here. Here’s wishing you all the luck!

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As Chief Editor, Harini sets the tone and editorial direction for StyleCraze to deliver engaging, interesting, and authentic content revolving around women's health, wellness, and beauty. She has over 14 years of experience in content writing and editing for online media. She specializes in the areas of Beauty, Lifestyle, and Health & Wellness and is proficient in Medical Sciences (Biology, Human Anatomy and Physiology, and Biochemistry). Her background in Biomedical Engineering helps her decode and interpret the finer nuances of scientific research for her team. Harini is a certified bibliophile and a closet poet. She also loves dancing and traveling to offbeat destinations.