They like me, they like me not – have you been plucking petals off until you get the answer? While the last flower petal may or may not reveal the truth (based on assumptions), but we know a host of surefire cues that may signal they are very much into you! How do you tell if someone really likes you? Keep reading to discover the physical and behavioral signs of attraction and unravel the mystery of feelings.
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Signs That Someone Likes You (Even If They Do Not Say It)
When someone is attracted to you, they are likely to behave in a certain way and exhibit physical signs. Pay close attention and look out for the nonverbal cues discussed in the following sections.
Physical Signs Of Attraction You Should Look For
1. Maintaining Eye Contact
Eye contact signifies interest and attraction. Is the person staring at you when they talk to you? Is that a meaningful and deep gaze as if they are trying to speak to you through their eyes? If your person of interest is locking gazes with you, it is not without reason – it is a sign they are attracted to you.
You should, however, understand that a nervous or shy person may have trouble maintaining eye contact. It can be unnerving for them, and they might avert their gaze. However, if you often catch them stealing glances at you, that’s a sign they are into you!
2. Blushing When You Meet
Blushing is an involuntary response. It is an honest reaction of your body when caught being excited about others. We blush due to a rush of emotions like embarrassment, attraction, or feeling shy.
If you notice the other person blushing when talking to you, they might be excited to meet you and spend time with you.
3. Change In The Tone Of Voice
The tonal change in voice is one of the subconscious traits that could signify attraction. People often change their tone to engage their partner’s attention. A husky and deep male voice appears more dominant, while the high-pitched tone in females can stand out and grab your attention.
If you notice a change in your partner’s voice around you, it can signify their interest in you. And if both of your tones differ around each other, it may suggest mutual attraction.
4. Leaning Towards You When Talking
Someone who is attracted to you will want to be close to you. The way they sit or stand – leaning or tilting their body towards you – is a strong indicator of interest. So if your person is turning away from you, they are probably not interested in you the way you are.
5. Mimicking Your Body Posture
If the person mimics your posture and facial expressions or adopts your slang terms, there is a good chance they are into you. When people feel comfortable, they often mimic each other’s body posture, movements, and gestures. Watch closely – do they run fingers through their hair after you do? Do they pick up their coffee cup right after you take a sip? If your partner changes their body language to match yours – gotcha!
6. Increased Breathing And Body Temperature
The terms ‘hot’ and ‘steamy’ exist for a reason, especially regarding matters of passion. Being in love and attracted to someone is like an addiction, and your body often reacts to it. The physiological changes, like increased body temperature and heart rate and deep and faster breathing, suggest excitement due to emotional or physical attraction. These may make you feel nervous in front of the person you like and give you flushed cheeks!
7. Being Clumsy Around You
You may “go weak in your knees” when you meet the person you admire. This happens when you are self-conscious and feel like your nerves have become super sensitive. If you notice the signs of clumsiness in the person (like stumbling over words), it is a clear sign that they are into you.
Is the person particularly so in your company? If yes, it may be because they cannot maintain their balance in your presence, tripping head over heels for you.
8. Tries To Make You Laugh
When we are attracted to someone, we try to do everything to make them laugh. Is your partner trying to joke a lot and make you smile? Are they always like this with other people, or are they treating you differently? If it differs for you, maybe there is some attraction.
9. Walks Matching Your Pace
When a person likes you, they will ensure to walk at the same pace as you. They will try to walk beside you and keep you safe from people and traffic. They will also be more attentive to what you say and stay closer to you.
Behavioral Signs Of Attraction
1. Keeps Checking On You
One of the few things that can tell you if a person is interested in you is their intention to know all about you. See if they exhibit the following behaviors:
- Asking you about your likes and dislikes.
- Remembering the tiniest details and dates that concern the two of you.
- Attempting to do something special on such occasions.
- Trying to talk to you or constantly staying in touch.
- These are all signs of attraction and attentiveness.
2. Removes Physical Barriers Between You
Does your special person keep clearing obstacles between you, such as removing centerpieces off the table or pillows on the couch? Removing physical barriers is a psychological response to initiating intimacy. It can indicate an interest in you.
3. Does Things To Impress You
This is a no-brainer. If they like you, they will do everything to impress you and grab your attention. If you have noticed that they are dressing up extra carefully, grooming themselves, and doing things with the sole purpose of dazzling you – maybe it is mutual attraction.
4. Follows You On Social Media
Social media has given us quite the platform for interactions and building relationships. It can also give us a peek into the other person’s life, interests, and dreams. If the one you like is a loyal follower on your social media – liking and commenting on your posts – it may mean affinity.
5. Treats You As A Confidant
One of the best ways to tell if someone likes you is to notice what they talk about to you. They may share more things about themselves and try to open up about their life. Does it look like they try to keep talking to you? Do they dive into the most trivial things in their lives in an attempt to strike a meaningful conversation? Do they confide in you? If yes, they rely on you and are interested in building a close relationship with you.
Still not sure whether they like you or not? Check some more signs to get a clear idea.
Signs To Look For If You Are Still Not Sure If Someone Likes You
An open body language can give off a strong vibe when it comes to intimacy. A wide stance and open arms angled towards you suggest an inviting body posture. Conversely, if someone crosses their arms over the chest, crosses their legs, sits with a slouched posture, or has their feet and pelvis directed away from you, it could signify disinterest.
For a guy, you will find the following signs:
- He will constantly find excuses to brush your skin as he talks to you.
- He will keep stealing glances at you, especially when you look away.
- He may jumble his words trying to impress you.
- He will do his best to remove any other distracting factors and can be a bit overprotective towards you.
For a girl, you will find the following signs:
- She will keep playing and fiddling with her hair while talking to you.
- She will always giggle and laugh at your jokes, no matter how bad they may be.
- She will keep attempting to touch you when she talks to you.
- She will always try to dress up and appear her best around you.
- So now we know how to tell if someone likes you. But these signs do not always stand true. Are they being flirty or friendly? Is there
- any way to find out? Scroll down to the next section for the answer.
Flirty Or Friendly?
The line between friendly and flirty is thin. The subtle differences between these two can save you from embarrassment. Friendly contacts do involve maintaining eye contact and casual touches. They will also include open body language. The difference lies in the intent behind these gestures. Friendly gazes, touches, and body language will lack intensity. A friendly person will be courteous and stay attentive to you as a sign of respect. They will not try to impress you or grab your attention.
On the other hand, a flirty person will take interest in you, find ways to strike a conversation, may try to steal a hug or a touch. He will do everything to get your attention.
Finding out if someone likes you is only the tip of the iceberg. Discerning body language and learning the actual meaning behind them is a skill. It is better to communicate with your partner directly. But until then, look out for the signs discussed in the article and taste the sweet possibility of the unknown.
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