Humans don’t just want to fall in love – they want to be a part of a “once in a lifetime” love story. As we are changing with the times, so are our relationships. We are no longer satisfied by relationships that are based on convenience or that fulfill ideals that are decided by our families or society. We are all searching for that “crazy for you” kind of love. But what really is the difference between twin flames, soulmates, and karmic soulmates?
The truth is, none of these relationships is better than the other. It simply depends on what lifetime we are living here on this planet and what lessons we are currently learning. Some people may never get to experience any of these relationships in their lifetime, and others may experience all three.
Wondering how to differentiate between a soulmate, a karmic soulmate, and a twin flame? Don’t worry, we have it sorted for you.
“Soulmates aren’t the ones who make you happiest, no. They’re instead the ones who make you feel the most. Burning edges and scars and stars. Old pains and pangs, captivation and beauty. Strain and shadows and worry and yearning. Sweetness and madness and dreamlike surrender. They hurl you into the abyss. They taste like hope.” – V. Erickson
A. Karmic Relationships
Generally, the first relationship we get into is a karmic relationship. They often teach us the lessons that we were unable to grasp in our previous lifetime. Karmic relationships are not meant to be easy. The partners assigned to us are not meant to make things easy for us. They are meant to teach us a hard lesson and change our way of thinking and living.
The strange thing about karmic relationships is that no matter how much effort you put into them, they just don’t seem to work. But this is because these relationships are NOT supposed to work out. You were never meant to live a happy life with your karmic soulmate. Yes, it is hard to accept, especially because it is usually not a lack of love or compatibility that these relationships suffer through. Things just seem off and don’t work, no matter how hard you try. Be that as it may, the worst decision you could make in this situation is to not let go.
These relationships are passionate and hot and may seem intoxicating at times, but they are never meant to last. Karmic soulmates come into our life, teach us a lesson, change us for the better, and then leave. People who get married early and divorce young have most certainly married their karmic partner. The lesson here is to be strong enough to let go and move on when the time comes.
B. Soulmate Relationships
Although most of us experience several karmic relationships in our life, the next lesson to learn is most often from our soulmate partner. Soulmates can give us the best kind of love. They can be sweet and simple, yet intensely complex. We often choose to build a life with and marry our soulmate partners because we share a unique connection with them.
These are the people who make us feel good and affect us on a different level. However, as wonderful as these partners are, they don’t always take it easy on us either. No matter what kind of relationship you are in, there will always be challenges. That is why it is so hard to distinguish between them. These relationships are not meant to appease us or make our ego feel comfortable.
A soulmate relationship differs from a karmic relationship in the type of lesson it teaches and the way in which the learning is presented. Karmic relationships often teach us about how we view the world and other people. Soulmate relationships teach us internal lessons that involve fears, societal pressures, self-worth, and love. We attract our soulmates at whatever frequency we are currently vibrating on.
Soulmate partners are those with whom we feel a deep connection. You may get this weird feeling that you knew one another in a previous life. Soulmate love makes us feel that it is us that needs to change, not them, to solve the issues in the relationship. Sometimes, we may even feel that we don’t deserve the other person.
Certain soulmates are assigned to us to help us realize our greatness. They to assist us in solving those big questions that involve the self. Soulmates care about us, unlike karmic lovers who are only concerned about themselves and their needs. In fact, soulmate relationships don’t even need to be romantic. More often than not, we are born into similar soul circles in each lifetime. Those who are our real family are not necessarily those we have a blood connection with.
C. Twin Flame Relationships
As out-of-this-world a romantic relationship can feel with a soulmate, it is not as mesmerizing as the experience of being with a twin flame. Twin flame partners are a combination of both karmic and soulmate connections. However, they challenge our sense of self and ego further. We don’t just connect with our twin flames on a soul level, but we share the same soul with them.
The theory states that twin flames got separated from a single soul at the beginning of time and placed into two physical bodies. In fact, there is a mirror-like connection when we come into contact with them. We suddenly feel the need to confront all the things we spent all our lives denying or running away from. They teach us about our fears and ego-driven desires. Not all humans get reunited with their twin flames, but when they do, it creates that “once in a lifetime” kind of love. Yes, there will be fears and challenges, but it will be an intensely fulfilling relationship.
How can you figure out whether you are in a karmic relationship or not? Check if the following signs apply to you and your partner.
1. Karmic Partners Are Selfish
Karmic partners do not have healthy boundaries in the relationship. Often, they only care about their own needs and self-interest. They often form abusive or co-dependent relationships. While one of you may be very invested, the other one may view it as a relationship of convenience.
2. Karmic Partners Repeat Patterns
If you are in an on-and-off relationship with someone, it is a major sign that it is a karmic relationship. If you keep on experiencing the same type of relationship issues, you need to be aware that it is just a lesson in disguise. Karmic relationships remain stagnant and repeat the same patterns. The only way you can move forward is by growing from the experience and letting go of that person.
3. Karmic PartnersAre Controlling
Karmic partners are obsessive and overly jealous. It is all about owning the other person. Also, the other person often becomes the center of the universe for those in a karmic relationship. They are the only reason you smile and the main cause of your happiness. Those in a karmic relationship often put their partners on a pedestal and refuse to see their flaws until it is too late. They fall hard when the truth comes knocking.
4. Karmic PartnersAre Addictive
Karmic relationships are often intensely passionate. Both partners are obsessed with the idea of being in love and are often attracted to superficial things like popularity, good looks, finances, and professional or social status.
5. Karmic Relationships Feel Destined
You believe from the depth of your soul that you cannot live without your partner and feel like you both are destined to be together, no matter how miserable you are in the relationship. You cannot understand why the relationship keeps falling apart, and you keep going out of your way to get it right and keep it together. The appeal your partner has is extremely hard to resist. You keep getting drawn in until you learn the lesson you need to from it.
6. Karmic Partners Create Dependency
You get consumed by the relationship. You lose your personal identity, and the relationship begins to occupy your mind ALL the time. You hand your partner all the power in the relationship. You become emotionally, mentally, and physically dependent on this person for everything.
7. Karmic Partners Feel An Instant Connection
This kind of relationship is often marked by immediate attraction. You keep obsessing about the person. You overlook their flaws and make excuses for their mistakes. You feel that this person is perfect for you, and there is nobody like them. It just feels like you have known them from another life, and you become intensely attached to them.
8. Karmic Relationships Bring Out Your Worst Fears
Your karmic partner will bring all the things you are deathly afraid of to the surface. Whether it is fear of commitment, abandonment, rejection, emotional attachment or loss, you will face all of them and more when you get tied up in a karmic relationship.
9. Karmic Relationships Reveal Your Dark Side
Karmic relationships bring out your most difficult and undesirable characteristics. You may not even be aware of them – intense jealousy, maddening hatred, uncontrollable anger…you name it. They break you down as a person and remind you how weak you actually are.
10. Karmic Relationships Are Irrational
Karmic relationships hold up a mirror to your ugly insecurities and worst vulnerabilities. You stop acting like yourself and do stuff that you normally wouldn’t do. You lose your sense of right and wrong and give excuses for your irrational behavior.
11. Karmic Partners Push Your Buttons In A Negative Way
These relationships happen because you need to learn how to love yourself. You need to learn that you cannot control your circumstances. You can only escape from this endless cycle when you focus on yourself and learn to master your ego.
12. Karmic Relationships Are Tumultuous In Nature
These relationships are incredibly volatile. They are erratic, unpredictable, and unhealthy. The best favor you can do for yourself is to realize that you are in a karmic relationship and learn to let go. You need to put yourself first for your own good. If you can’t, you will keep on repeating the same pattern until you learn how to detach yourself and get out of it.
13. Karmic Relationships Do Not Last
This is NOT your forever person. No matter how much you hope, wish, pray, and believe, this is not your fairytale ending. Do not believe what you see on TV and in the movies – this kind of relationship never works. They are created out of conflict and always end in conflict and heartbreak. They are very unhealthy for your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being and usually do not last.
No matter what kind of romantic relationship you get in, there will always be problems and challenges. However, these obstacles assist you in learning some important lessons and growing. The most important thing to remember is that if your partner wants to get out and move on, it is a MUST that you let them go, and do so gracefully.
Whether it is a karmic relationship and their only purpose is to come into your life and change it, or they are your soulmate who is here to help you become the best person we possibly can, or if they are simply your better half – there is no kind of love that you should ever have to beg for.
The love you deserve is the love that wants to love you as much you love them. The truth of the universe is, if you love someone, the best thing you can do for them is set them free. If it is meant to be yours, they will return on their own. And if they don’t, it will be a lesson that you need to learn.
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