286 Long-Distance Relationship Questions To Ask Your Partner

Because a long-distance relationship needs more frequent nurturing to ensure it lasts forever.

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In a long-distance relationship, you lack the thrill of touch and the happiness of basking in your partner’s presence. Communication, time management, and trust become keys to keeping the relationship alive. Jealousy, lack of intimacy, and loneliness can be common issues in a long-distance relationship, which is why patience is essential. But apart from sending each other text messages and poems, there are some long-distance relationship questions you can ask your partner and get to know them a little deeper.

Conversations can close the distance between you two. Apart from catching up on the happenings of everyday life, there are some crucial relationship questions that you can ask your partner to grow emotionally and find out wonderful and quirky things about each other. It is like rediscovering your partner, all over again, in a different way. If you aren’t sure how to get the ball rolling, we have you covered. Swipe up and check out 286 incredibly fun relationship questions to ask your partner.

Movies, Series, And Ads

Questions to ask your long-distance partner about movies, series, and ads
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  1. Do you prefer watching movies alone or with others?
  2. What is the last movie you watched?
  3. Who is your favorite actor/actress?
  4. Which is your favorite classic?
  5. Which series are you following on Prime or Netflix?
  6. What is your favorite category of shows?
  7. Do you prefer crime thrillers or rom-coms?
  8. Which is the worst movie you have seen lately?
  9. Which series would you not recommend?
  10. What category do you like to watch on TV? Sports/News/Wildlife, etc.?
  11. Which is your favorite ad?
  12. Which ads do you find nonsensical?
  13. Which movies have the strongest impact on you?
  14. Which actor do you think is severely overrated?
  15. Are there any flop movies you have loved?
  16. Which movie do you think is overhyped?
  17. Who is your favorite director?
  18. What’s the next movie you are planning to watch in the theater?
  19. Do you like animated films?
  20. Do you like watching documentaries?
  21. Which ad reminds you of your childhood?
  22. Do you prefer watching movies at home or in a theater?
  23. What’s your favorite movie dialogue?


Questions to ask your long-distance partner about food
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  1. Which meal, when traveling, did you find to be the best?
  2. What did you eat today? Breakfast/lunch/dinner?
  3. What did you cook today?
  4. Do you prefer takeaways or homemade meals?
  5. If you were a Master Chef, what would be your signature dish?
  6. What is your comfort food?
  7. What would you like me to cook for you next time we meet?
  8. Which cuisine would you prefer for a candlelight dinner?
  9. What’s your favorite dessert other than mine?
  10. What is your favorite junk food?
  11. What’s your favorite cuisine?
  12. Which sandwich topping do you identify with?
  13. What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
  14. What food reminds you of your childhood?
  15. What is the most exotic dish you have had?
  16. Do you like pineapple on your pizza?
  17. What do you prefer- dark chocolate or milk chocolate?
  18. What’s your favorite breakfast meal?
  19. If you could have anything in the world right now, what would you have?
  20. Where’s your favorite restaurant?
  21. Can you tolerate spicy foods?
  22. What is your favorite midnight snack?
  23. Have you ever tried replicating any dish and failed?
  24. What’s the weirdest food combination you have had?
  25. What are some of the worst dishes you have tried?


Questions to ask your long-distance partner about their personality
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  1. Do you have any fears regarding our relationship based on any past experiences?
  2. What superpowers would you like to have?
  3. What do you love most about me?
  4. What do you think is your worst trait?
  5. What would you change in me if you could?
  6. What can you argue about endlessly?
  7. What scares you the most?
  8.  Do you enjoy sports? Playing or watching?
  9. What are the three things you never leave home without?
  10. Are you egoistic when it comes to friends?
  11. Would you have a problem apologizing or owning up to a mistake?
  12. What’s one personality trait you are proud of?
  13. Would you like to live with our parents or visit them often?
  14. What is the one change you would bring about in your country if you could?
  15. What are the three things you would like to tell the next generation?
  16. Do you prefer a small, quiet wedding with just your close ones or a large, lavish affair with all your friends, family, and colleagues?
  17. What personality traits do you admire the most in a person?
  18. How would you describe your ideal evening at home?
  19. Do you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or an ambivert?
  20. Who do you go to for advice while making important decisions?
  21. What are the major life events that have shaped you as a person?
  22. Is there any bad habit that you have successfully gotten rid of?
  23. What is your love language?
  24. What are the habits that have significantly improved your life?
  25. What is your way of dealing with disagreement – do you need time to gather your thoughts or do you prefer giving your opinion straight away?
  26. Do you avoid confrontation or do you prefer settling the matter in person as soon as possible?
  27. Who is your role model? How have they affected your personality?
  28. Do you believe in go-with-the-flow or do you make calculated decisions?
  29. Do you have a philosophy or mantra to guide you through life?
  30. What is one thing that brings peace and calmness in your life?
  31. Do you believe in fate or destiny?

protip_icon Quick Tip
1You can also ask questions related to similarities between your personalities or how both of you have changed (or evolved) since the beginning of the relationship.


Questions to ask your long-distance partner about music
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  1. What’s your favorite music genre?
  2. Who is your all-time favorite musician?
  3. What instrument would you like to learn to play?
  4. Name three favorite songs from your school/college day.
  5. Which song on the radio reminds you of me?
  6. If we had a fight and you had to make up, what song would you sing for me?
  7. Does music destress you?
  8. Which is the one band you would give anything to watch or perform live?
  9. Do you like a song for its lyrics or the music?
  10. Do you prefer slow, soft songs or party rock and pop?
  11. Which concert have you had the most fun at?
  12. Which song do you think describes our relationship the best?
  13. What’s your favorite music album?
  14. What kind of music can instantly lift your mood?
  15. If you had to describe your current situation in life through a song, which one would it be?
  16. Do you have a favorite music era or decade that you keep going back to?
  17. Do you have a guilty pleasure playlist?
  18. What is the last song that made you cry?
  19. What songs inspire you?
  20. Do you believe in music therapy?


Questions to ask your long-distance partner about in general
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  1. Do you like animals?
  2. What would be your favorite pet?
  3.  Do you like kids?
  4.  What’s your favorite childhood memory?
  5.  Mention three things on your bucket list.
  6. What’s your favorite color on me?
  7. What’s the strangest dream you have had and remember?
  8. Do you have deja vu moments?
  9. As a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  10. Where would you like to go with me on a holiday?
  11. If you had to relive one day of your life, which would it be?
  12. What’s your dream car?
  13. Are you superstitious?
  14. What’s the most ridiculous fashion fad you have ever seen?
  15. Do you enjoy amusement parks?
  16. Which is your favorite ride in an amusement park?
  17. Are there any movies or Broadway shows you would like to see only with me?
  18. Would you like to read a book first, then see the movie version, or the other way around?
  19. What is the most public place you have made out in your earlier days?
  20. Which social media platform are you hooked on to?
  21. What do you do when you are homesick?
  22. Which celebrity would you like to spend a day with?
  23.  Are you religious or spiritual?
  24. What’s your goofiest knock-knock joke?
  25. What’s the best prank you have ever played on anyone?
  26. Which is your favorite season?
  27. What scents or aromas make you feel most at home?
  28. Have you ever fractured any part of of your body?
  29. Which family member are you closest to?
  30. What is your proudest moment in life so far?
  31. What would your ideal vacation look like?
  32. What is your one dream that you have stopped pursuing?
  33. What is your current biggest fear in your life?
  34. What is your way to unwind after a long and tiring day?
  35. Which family vacation have you enjoyed the most?
  36. How do you like to celebrate special occasions?
  37. What makes you laugh the most?
  38. What family tradition do you enjoy the most?
  39. What is your favorite festival?
  40. If money was not an issue, what would you do?
  41. What is the most important life lesson that you learned along the way?
  42. What is one thing you would like to change about your life?
  43. How do you define success?
  44. Are you a feminist?
  45. Do you think women should work after marriage?
  46. Who should take care of the house when both partners are working?
  47. How do you deal with difficult situations at work?
  48. Do you like going on long rides?
  49. What advice would you give your 16-year-old self?
  50. Do you enjoy cooking?
  51. What is the toughest decision you have had to make?

protip_icon Quick Tip
Avoid asking questions about your boyfriend’s insecurities and choosing between his friends and you. These may make him uncomfortable and hurt your feelings if you are not ready to handle the truth.


Questions to ask your long-distance partner about preferences
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  1. Mountains or beaches?
  2. Coffee or tea?
  3. Tourist places or camping trips?
  4. Black or white?
  5. Wine or whiskey?
  6. Sweet or savory?
  7. Adventure sports or indoor games?
  8. Football or cricket?
  9. Walk in the rain or movie under a blanket?
  10. Summer or winter?
  11. Spending or saving?
  12. Long hair or short?
  13. Tattoos or piercings?
  14. Makeup or natural?
  15. Surprises or known plans?
  16. Photographs or paintings?
  17. Long letters or short texts?
  18. Bike rides or car drives?
  19. Shower or bathtub?
  20. Video games or TV shows?
  21. A night out with the girls/boys or date night with your girlfriend/boyfriend?
  22. Friends for life or casual acquaintances?
  23. Magazines or novels?
  24. Flowers or chocolates?
  25. Live shows or recordings?
  26. Outdoors or indoors?
  27. Heels or flats?
  28. Formal or casual outfits?
  29. Breakfast date or dinner date?
  30. Shopping or walking in the park?
  31. Cafes or restaurants?
  32. Hot coffee or cold coffee?
  33. Pancakes or waffles?
  34. Pizza or burger?
  35. Early bird or night owl?
  36. Cats or dogs?
  37. Paperback or Ebook?
  38. Comedy or drama?
  39. Black tea or milk tea?
  40. Cakes or cookies?
  41. Sunsets or sunrises?
  42. Board games or card games?
  43. Salty popcorn or caramel popcorn?
  44. Train or flight?
  45. Instagram or Snapchat?
  46. Dine-in or dine-out?
  47. Movies or plays?
  48. Singing or dancing?
  49. Classic novel or contemporary novel?
  50. Superhero movies or anime?
  51. Sneakers or loafers?
  52. Puzzles or crossword?
  53. Binge-watching or one episode at a time?
  54. Sunflowers or roses?
  55. Red sauce pasta or white sauce pasta?
  56. Small getaways or long vacations?
  57. Breakfast in bed or out of bed?

Us – The Relationship

  1. Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
  2. What is the one thing you think could change in our relationship?
  3. Where do you see us five years from now?
  4. Would you want to get married someday?
  5. What song would you dedicate to me if you had to?
  6. What do you think couples need to do to keep the romance alive?
  7. What’s the first thing you would want to do when we meet next?
  8. What is the one thing that is special between us that you have never done or will not do with anyone else?
  9. If we ever broke up, would you still be friends with me?
  10. If you ever cheated on me, would you tell me? Or would you want me to tell you if I did the same?
  11. Do you have names picked out for your kids?
  12. What are the most valuable things in a relationship for you?
  13. What challenge are you facing right now and how can I help you?
  14. What can I do to make you feel loved?
  15. What do I do that makes you angry or sad?
  16. How many of your friends know that we are in a relationship?
  17. What would you do if you started feeling you don’t love me anymore? And what would you want me to do?
  18. What kind of relationship do you want me to have with your family?
  19. Would you want us to have similar hobbies to spend time pursuing together?
  20. How important is space in a relationship for you?
  21. When did you realize that you loved me?
  22. What else do you think we can do to make our relationship stronger?
  23. Do you think we would have a better relationship if we were not a long-distance couple?


Questions to ask your long-distance partner about fantasies they have
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  1. What is your pet peeve?
  2. Tell me three sexual fantasies you have and what’s the ultimate one?
  3. Do you prefer video or phone sex?
  4. Would you like to see me do a striptease?
  5. In a game of Truth or Dare, would you want me to tell you the truth, or would you dare me to do something kinky?
  6. What kind of lingerie/underwear turns you on?
  7. Do you use sex toys?
  8. Would you prefer pole dancing or a lap dance?
  9. Would you fancy a threesome?
  10. Do you believe in partner-swapping?
  11. What is your favorite thing for me to wear in bed?
  12. Would you enjoy making out under open skies, maybe on a beach?
  13. What are you wearing?
  14. Do you want to know what I am wearing?
  15. Do you like sleeping naked?
  16. What turns you off the most?
  17. How long should foreplay last?
  18. What are the things you are not open to trying in bed?
  19. Are you comfortable sharing your sexual fantasies with me?
  20. What’s one surface you like to make love on?
  21. Would you be open to using blindfolds in bed?
  22. Do you prefer being tied up or tying me up?
  23. How do you feel about being intimate in a public place?
  24. Do you like the idea of someone watching while you have sex?
  25. Do you like roleplay in the bedroom?
  26. What is a bedroom surprise you would love?
  27. Would you like to plan or be spontaneous in the bedroom?
  28. Would you like to visit an adult club?

Bonus Questions

  1. What was the highlight of your day?
  2. What are you grateful for?
  3. What is your worst memory? (for this one choose the timing wisely and be ready to listen)
  4. When do you feel more connected with me?
  5. What are your goals for next year?
  6. What habit do you want to quit?
  7. What would I be surprised to know about you?
  8. When did you last cry about something?
  9. What is your biggest fear?
  10. What do you consider to be the best part of being together?
  11. Is there anything that keeps you awake at night that you haven’t shared with me?
  12. Why do you love me and when did you feel most loved by me?
  13. What do you consider unforgivable and why?
  14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing but have not yet done? What’s keeping you from accomplishing it?
  15. Of your family and friends, who do you think has the best relationship and why?
  16. What are your three biggest needs and how can I help you fulfill them?
  17. When do you miss me the most?
  18. Do you think taking risks is necessary for growth?
  19. What is one skill that you would like to learn next?
  20. What is one continuous problem in your family for which you want to get a permanent solution?
  21. What is your favorite memory involving a stranger?
  22. How important is it for you to stay connected with your friends and family?
  23. Who has inspired you the most in your life?
  24. What is the most embarrassing memory you have?
  25. Do you think you can handle constructive criticism about your work or personality?
  26. What is one good thing you have done and never told anyone?
  27. Which material possession carries the most significance for you?
  28. How do you overcome self-doubt or lack of confidence?

Infographic: Long-Distance Relationship Date Ideas

There is no denying that long-distance relationships can be challenging. But if the couple is invested wholeheartedly and willing to make efforts to keep the relationship afloat, every hurdle will seem small. Especially in today’s digital world, it has become quite easy to maintain a long-distance relationship. Below is an infographic on some date ideas you can try if your beau is in another city, country, or even continent. Check it out!

long distance relationship date ideas (infographic)

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What is the thread that keeps two people in a long-distance relationship together? Yes, you guessed it right! It is their conversations. You feel their presence, share your love, and know about each other by communicating obsessively over texts, calls, and video chats. However, you might feel an occasional lull in your talks as both struggle to find the next topic of discussion. Fret not; the above questions ensure that you get in-depth knowledge about each other and keep the conversation flowing with the tangents that arise from your replies.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you make a long-distance relationship feel real?

It is important to honestly and openly communicate with one another. Set ground rules so that both partners are on the same page. But more important than that, create shared meaning by setting mutual goals and dreams as a couple. Do fun and creative activities together. Send care packages to your partner. Visit each other as much as possible. Live and cherish each moment together.

Should you talk every day in a long-distance relationship?

You can talk to each other every day about how your day went. Understand and process the day together. Every conversation need not revolve around something serious. You can have fun and flirty conversations. However, if you cannot talk to each other every day, both partners should have a conversation around this and get on the same page.

How do you know a man loves you in a long-distance relationship?

If your man treats you respectfully, gives you time, and makes you feel special, these are signs that your man loves you.

Key Takeaways

  • Communication is the key to keeping a long-distance relationship alive.
  • You can ask some interesting personality-related questions to learn more about your partner.
  • You can ask some ‘this or that’ questions to find out your partner’s preferences.
  • Spice up your everyday conversations with a handful of fantasies-related questions.

Spice up your conversations with your boyfriend using the adorable and romantic questions listed in the video below. Whether you’re texting or looking to combat boredom, use these perfect prompts to deepen your connection and keep the spark alive.

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Brian Tavizón

Brian TavizónPsychologist & Couples Therapist

Brian Tavizón is a bilingual clinical therapist specializing in couples therapy and has 3 years of experience. He has also undergone rigorous training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) from the International Centre of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT). He graduated in social psychology with honors from the National Autonomous University of Mexico (UNAM) and is an academic researcher in...read full bio

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