Everything You Need To Know About Micro-Cheating

Written by Harini Natarajan

When it comes to your relationship, how would you define cheating? You may think about a kiss, an intimate touch, or maybe certain sexual advances. But, what about those times when your partner gets involved in something subtler?

Micro-cheating is a new concept for most of us. Surprisingly, there is a gray area between fidelity and infidelity. This is where micro-cheating exists. Learn how micro-cheating affects your relationship and what you can do to deal with it in this article.

What Is Micro Cheating?

If there was a word for “almost cheating” while being in a relationship, then it would be micro-cheating. Since every couple can have different standards on what it means to cheat on one another, the same can happen even in this case. However, what is common between micro-cheating, flirting, and any other form of straying in a relationship is that any of them can result in outright infidelity. Therefore, micro-cheating is not something that you can completely overlook in a relationship.

Micro-cheating may not be bound by a definition, which is why it can be hard to understand what it means. Are you still wondering why it is a problem in your relationship? Read the next section to understand why you are better off without a partner who indulges in micro-cheating while being in a relationship with you.

Is Micro-Cheating A Problem?

Many people believe that a bit of flirting outside the relationship is harmless and only meant to promote their ego. Coming to human nature itself, it is not uncommon to feel drawn to an attractive person who is not your partner.

Yet, micro-cheating can be a slippery slope. It may not take much time for your partner to slip down it and find themselves doing something that could potentially destroy your relationship. This is because a simple gesture of friendship and frequent interactions may amount to something more in no time. This can happen either intentionally or unintentionally.

Your partner may not even realize it, but such outside interactions may begin to consume their energy and affect their emotional and mental connection with you. When this happens, things can get pretty serious and damaging in no time.

Micro-cheating may begin as an unintentional act of harmless communication, but it can turn into a damaging element for your relationship. This is why micro-cheating is just as much of a problem as any other form of cheating.

Explained below is how micro-cheating is somehow similar to, yet different from, emotional cheating.

Is Micro-Cheating The Same As Emotional Cheating?

When it comes to micro-cheating, it is not quite the same as emotional cheating in a relationship. On several occasions, you and your partner may not even realize that either of you is indulging in micro-cheating.

Micro-cheating does not involve an emotional connection with the other person, and yet, over time, you or your partner may become emotionally invested in someone else and fail to realize it. That is when micro-cheating progresses to emotional cheating.

When someone is emotionally cheating on their partner, they will divert their emotional attention from their partner.

Check out the signs of micro-cheating in the next section.

Signs Of Micro-Cheating In A Relationship

The definition of micro-cheating can be different for every couple. Yet, if you want to keep an eye on your partner, here are a few classic signs of micro-cheating that you can look out for.

  • Downloading a dating app only because someone recommended it or because they want to check out how it operates. No one will be comfortable with their partner checking out other people on dating apps in their presence.
  • Interacting with people they are interested in on social media. This includes liking or commenting on an ex’s photos, always replying to a certain person’s stories and posts, and checking their phone when a notification for a new post from a particular person pops up.
  • Frequently engaging with a co-worker at the workplace, taking them out for lunch or dinner, and spending time with them outside of work.
  • Deleting texts and call history of a specific person so that you do not discover them.
  • Sharing personal details about sexual preferences and fantasies with someone else.
  • Showing particular interest in someone and investing their time, energy, and thoughts in them.
  • Failure to mention meeting someone from their past.

Basically, micro-cheating involves anything that can be linked to an increased interest toward another person by your partner. As you may have noticed, it could be several things, as is evident from the examples listed above.

More often than not, your gut will speak clearly, telling you that your partner is indulging in behavior that is not acceptable. When you feel this happening, you will need to consider how to deal with your partner’s attempts at micro-cheating.

Here are some ways to go about it.

How To Deal With Micro-Cheating In A Relationship

Micro-cheating may not be a reason why you break up with your partner. Given its vague nature, it can be difficult to set boundaries. These steps can be of some help:

1. Talk To Your Partner

There is nothing in a relationship that cannot be solved by having an honest conversation. Express openly to your partner and tell them why you are worried about their behavior toward someone else. If you are concerned about them cheating on you through any of the ways mentioned above, bring it up with them and make them aware that you will not accept such behavior.

At the same time, encourage your partner to share their side of the story. Explore the existing space in your relationship within which the two of you can safely interact with other people and avoid indulging in micro-cheating.

2. Strengthen Your Relationship

Micro-cheating usually emerges as a result of certain elements in your relationship that may be disturbing your partner. Are you nagging them constantly over petty matters or behaving in a manner that indicates to your partner that you are subtly cheating on them? Assessing the state of your relationship regularly can save your partner from overstepping any boundaries and rekindle the lost love between you two.

3. Discuss Micro-Cheating Openly

The fact that micro-cheating is a vague territory opens the space for many loose definitions. Perhaps your partner does not consider a certain act as micro-cheating and, thus, does not realize that it may be bothering you. And even if they do, they may be reluctant to take a step back simply because they do not agree with the concept of micro-cheating.

Only by having an open conversation about this matter can you convey that you expect your partner to practice certain limitations in their behavior. Not having a direct conversation or setting certain boundaries may lead your partner to believe that you are okay with the way they are behaving with another person. If you don’t give them a reason to stop, your partner may continue to indulge in acts that amount to micro-cheating.

4. Keep Assessing Your Relationship

Surprisingly, every new day can bring a new reason for your partner to indulge in micro-cheating. This is why it is important to keep a tab on your relationship and reiterate what sort of behavior your partner is not allowed to engage in. Only by discussing your relationship can you take care of it and avoid a situation where your partner fails to recognize the consequence of their actions.


Micro-cheating is a very subtle form of cheating. Usually, one can observe the first signs of micro-cheating when their partner starts interacting too much with another person. While these small signs may not mean anything at first, over time, they can develop into a fully-loaded canon of flirtatious actions, which are bound to become a problem in any relationship.

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As Chief Editor, Harini sets the tone and editorial direction for StyleCraze to deliver engaging, interesting, and authentic content revolving around women's health, wellness, and beauty. She has over 14 years of experience in content writing and editing for online media. She specializes in the areas of Beauty, Lifestyle, and Health & Wellness and is proficient in Medical Sciences (Biology, Human Anatomy and Physiology, and Biochemistry). Her background in Biomedical Engineering helps her decode and interpret the finer nuances of scientific research for her team. Harini is a certified bibliophile and a closet poet. She also loves dancing and traveling to offbeat destinations.