10 Signs Of A Narcissist Friend & How To Deal With Them

From crossing boundaries to their need for control – here’s what to look out for.

Reviewed by Michele Waldron, Psy.D, LADC-I, CSCT
By Harini Natarajan, Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner

Friendship is all about striking the right balance and sharing the good and bad parts of your life with your friend. However, the friendship may get toxic and exhausting if you have a narcissistic friend. A narcissist always demands special treatment; every conversation with them is one-sided. There is virtually no space for you in the friendship. However, not all narcissists have a narcissistic personality disorder; it is a spectrum. But being associated with a narcissist may affect your quality of life. If you feel your friend is more into themselves, check out the signs mentioned in the article to determine if your friend is a narcissist or not. Depending on the results, you may reassess your bond with him. Read on.

10 Signs Of A Narcissist Friend

Signs of a narcissist friend

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1. Boundaries? What’s That?

Narcissistic people do not respect boundaries. They will tell you what to do, how to do, and try helping you out even if you haven’t asked for it. They do not care about your space and needs and will justify it as being a “good friend” and looking out for you.

2. Delusions Of Grandeur Is Their Signature Trait

They dream big and want all things grand – a movie star life, a huge model house, an array of the best cars, and everyone falling for them. They want all the best things and are sure they will attain them in the next few years.

3. Their Blame Game Is On Point

The blame game of a narcissist friend is on point

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A narcissistic friend will project their negative traits on you. They often say that their friend is needy, selfish, never apologizes, and has unreasonable expectations. They may belittle you in front of others. If they do something wrong, they blame it on you, and if you did something right, they don’t mind taking the credit.

4. They Look Down On Others

Narcissistic people have a sense of superiority. They tend to make you feel bad about yourself and try to compensate for their weakness by grandiosity. They try to evaluate you negatively, which often turns into insulting behavior.

5. They Need To Control Everything

Their life, style, home, shoes – everything has to be in their control. This may also include your life, style, and shoes (if possible)! They think they know best about everything and feel so excited to ‘sort’ your life as well. The best part is that they think it is completely normal!

6. I’m Right, You’re Wrong!

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Do your conversations always head this way? If yes, your friend is a narcissist. They believe they are never wrong with anything – even if they don’t know anything about the topic!

7. They Are Jealous

They get jealous about E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. They are jealous of anyone or anything that takes the focus off them. This is often because narcissistic people have low self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence. Their jealousy can often trigger their problematic behavior.

8. They Are Always The Best!

They have a positive view of themselves and always try to reflect their abilities to influence others. That is why narcissistic people perceive themselves as brutally honest, extroverted, and arrogant. Their elevated sense of self makes them feel they are likable and reliable than others.

9. They Never Return Your Favors

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Your favors for them as a friend are always unreturned. They will act like they are entitled to the ‘favors’ and always promise to return them. But promises for them seem like they were meant to be broken, so…

10. Fake It Till You Make It

Narcissistic people will try to fake everything to get their way. Some of them may live through others to boost their low self-esteem. Does your friend always push you for tasks or jobs that you are not at all interested in? And if you do as they say and receive compliments, they take the credit for everything (almost like shining in your reflection)? If yes, your friend is a narcissist.

Narcissists often treat their friends the way a movie star would treat their fans. Let’s understand in detail.

How Do Narcissists Treat Their Friends?

How do narcissists treat their friends

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A narcissist friend will always think of themselves as superior than you. To maintain that, they may often belittle you and try to make you look inferior. They always want to be the center of attention, and if you do not focus on them and follow their lead, they feel betrayed.

A narcissist friend will never be emotionally available for you. Such a relationship will leave you drained, filled with self-doubt and heartache. While it is better to stay away from such friends, if you want to try and help them, you may follow these tips.

How To Deal With A Narcissist Friend

How to deal with a narcissist friend

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The best way is to talk to them – be direct and to the point. Let them know about your feelings and how their behavior is hurting you. Help them identify the narcissistic tendencies they have. Most of the time, narcissistic people are not able to identify the triggers and behavioral traits. If possible, take them to a therapist.

However, if nothing helps and the friendship takes a toll on your life and mental health, it is better to walk away from it. Before leaving, talk to them and explain why you want to stay away from them. Block all contact with them as they may hover, and you don’t want to get into it again! Keep yourself busy and connect with new friends.

Infographic: Types Of Boundaries To Set For Self-Growth

The reason a lot of us find ourselves in difficult situations with narcissistic friends and acquaintances is due to not setting well-defined boundaries for ourselves. When you become more self-aware, you will be able to navigate such situations. Check out the infographic below to learn about the different types of boundaries you must set and be respectful of when dealing with others.

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While dealing with a narcissistic friend may seem tough, the above tips and ideas can help you manage things better. Often, a narcissistic person is oblivious of the effects of their deeds and actions on other people. If you have such a friend, you may try and help them see some light. Help them identify their toxic traits and seek help in counseling or therapy if required. That may improve their behavior and social demeanor over time. If they still refuse to change things about themselves, you may ultimately maintain a safe distance from them and their personal affairs.

Frequently Asked Questions

What happens when you ignore a narcissist friend?

If a narcissist friend is ignored, chances are high that they may become enraged and strive for more attention. They may adopt even toxic or abusive ways to grab your attention.

Do narcissists have lots of friends?

Yes, there are high chances that narcissists have lots of friends. However, these friendships don’t last long because of their narcissistic nature.

Key Takeaways

  • A narcissistic friend is highly self-centered and always feels they are superior to you.
  • They shift the blame on you when anything goes wrong and never respect your boundaries.
  • They also belittle their friends and make them feel inferior.
  • The best way to deal with a narcissistic friend is to confront them directly.

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