The beginning of a new relationship can be both exciting and tricky. Someone out there is always thinking of you. They wonder what you are up to and are the sweetest when it comes to you. They make you feel special and loved. It’s all sunshine and rainbows!
But it is also accompanied by stress and worry. You wonder if you are doing the right thing and taking the right decisions. What do you do when you are not sure of how to maneuver your way through the currents of overwhelming feelings? Worry not! Here, we have curated a list of dos and don’ts when you are in a new relationship. Take a look.
Dos In A New Relationship
1. Connect With Them
A relationship is not based on looks or feels, it is based on people. Connect with them, find out who they are, understand their fears, and support their beliefs. A relationship based on trust and respect is far better and long-lasting than one made for appearances.
2. Be Spontaneous
Allow yourself to experience new things. Routine gives you a sense of comfort, but to ensure that your relationship is moving forward, you need a dash of spontaneity. Be impulsive! Plan a road trip, go for a hike, or ask them out for a morning date. Sometimes, to kickstart a relationship, you need to do something away from the normal and into the crazy.
Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. Tell them exactly how you mean it. Communication is the foundation of any relationship. Effective communication can build your relationship and lay the base for a future together.
4. Be Positive
Be positive! Stop doubting yourself or the other person, the plans you make, or something you have decided. Trust yourself and your partner to handle everything. Your negative note may just end up getting them down as well, while your positivity may help get their spirits up.
5. Love Yourself
Any professional or non-professional will tell you, “Love yourself before you let others love you.” Only when you love and are comfortable with yourself, someone can find it easy to love you and be comfortable with you.
6. Be Yourself
Do not act like someone you are not. You have learned that your partner likes sophisticated people. That does not mean you have to change yourself and act all sophisticated. If you are a fun-loving, free-spirited person, that is the ‘you’ that you should show. There is no point if your partner loves the ‘you’ that you portray if they do not love you as you are.
7. Keep An Eye Out
Watch out for alarming signals. If your partner cancels plans at the last minute, has no interest in half the plans you make, and does not honor your commitments, you are better off without them. There is no point in pursuing a relationship where only you are trying.
Don’ts in a New Relationship
1. Do Not Assume Or Overthink
Do not overthink or assume things. Think calmly. There are more chances of the problem having a simple solution rather than it being an earth-shattering problem – only if you can keep calm. Overthinking adds to the worries and stress you already have. Talk to your partner, and maybe you will realize that things are not as bad as you think they are.
2. Do Not Try To Get Even
Your partner may have done something wrong to you, but it does not mean you go full battle mode on them.Remember, they are human, and mistakes are an all-time possibility. You are human, too, and you are also bound to make mistakes. Treat them the way you want to be treated. If you start getting even with them and try to one-up them, it is not a relationship, it’s a competition.
3. Do Not Get Intimate Until You Are 100% Confident
Appreciate each other, but do not do anything you are not ready for. If you are ready and they are not, wait. Talk to each other and get intimate only after both of you are comfortable.
4. Do Not Be Possessive/Controlling
Being in love is beautiful. You want to be with them all the time; you want to spend hours talking or chatting with them and showing them off. But you also need to understand that they need their alone time. Sometimes, a person needs to be alone to figure themself out. During these times, if you act possessive and try to control them, your relationship is heading to the Lane of Doom.
5. Do Not Put Yourself Down
“The value is always in the eye of the beholder. What is worthless to one person may be very important to someone else.” ~ Peter Ackroyd. Do not undermine yourself. Remember, no matter how you look, you are beautiful.
6. Do Not Play Mind Games
Do not play mind games with the other person. Do not act like you are hard to get, undermine them, and try to make them jealous. Someone who plays mind games is usually insecure and unconfident. Do not try to manipulate them. Treat them how you would like to be treated, and learn to trust them. A relationship is plagued by manipulation and distrust.
7. Do Not Boast About Past Relationships
Do not boast about all the relationships you have had or talk about how amazing your past relationship was. Idolizing your past relationship will not help your present relationship. Showing them that you liked someone more than you like them now is a recipe for heartbreak. Be kind and keep it simple when you both are having a conversation about past relationships. Do not get hung up on the past ,or you may just miss your present.
Remember, your relationship is based on mutual love, trust, and respect. Follow our tips to create a loving and long-lasting relationship with your partner.
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