12 Best Relationship Goals To Make Your Love Stronger

Forgiveness and intimacy are some of the essential goals to aspire to in a relationship.

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Everything seems exciting when you get into a relationship, but you start noticing its monotony after a point. That is why you need to set relationship goals. Your relationship needs equal effort from both sides, and you need to keep the spark alive by breaking the monotony and trying out new things. If you want to lead a healthy and happy relationship that keeps you both close and strong, you need to work on it constantly.

Wondering how to keep that going? Here, we have curated a list of relationship goals you both can try to retain the excitement in your relationship. These will help you make your relationship better and stronger. Keep reading!

Relationship Goals To Make Your Love Stronger

1. Friendship

One sure way to make your love grow stronger is through friendship. A strong friendship helps amplify the strength of your love, making your relationship almost unbreakable from the inside. Share your thoughts and emotions freely to build a foundation of trust and understanding. Actively listen, empathize, and be genuinely interested in your partner’s life. Create moments of joy by engaging in shared activities and laughing together a lot. Cultivate a sense of teamwork, face challenges together, support and comfort each other, and celebrate victories as a united front. Most importantly, respect each other’s individuality, allowing room for personal growth. This is how consistently investing time and effort in friendship will make your love strong and resilient.

2. Better Communication

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Communication is one of the most important aspects of a happy relationship. Open and good communication should be your first and most important goal. Talk to your partner, express your opinions freely, and allow your bae to express their opinions. Listen and try to understand what your partner means to say – don’t just assume. There will be times when you won’t agree with what your partner is saying, but you still need to listen to them respectfully.

Talking about your feelings to your partner and allowing them to talk about their feelings is very important. It will help you avoid misunderstandings, anger, and resentments. This will not only lead to healthier and happier relationships but also create a stronger emotional bond.

Make sure you understand one another. Often, people ruin beautiful relationships due to misinterpretation, misunderstanding, or not listening. Pay close attention to the tone of your partner’s voice, their body language, and obviously, to the words they say. Answer the questions they ask and ask questions yourself. Also, try to understand and respond to non-verbal cues such as body language and facial expressions. This will help boost understanding and increase closeness.

3. Always Be There For Your Partner

When your partner feels low, or faces any problem, you need to have their back and be there for them. Be understanding, emphatic, and helpful. Remind them that they can rely on you completely. You should always be there for your bae’s body, mind, and soul.

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Regularly reassess and update your relationship goals to ensure they align with your evolving needs and aspirations as a couple and individuals.

4. Avoid Arguments

It’s true that arguments and disagreements are a part of life, but you can limit the amount of arguing you both engage in by using common sense and tact. Do not let your ego egg you on because that will only escalate the fight. Arguing is a normal, and even healthy, part of a relationship. But you need to make sure you are respectful in your counterarguments and be careful not to hurt your partner. It is possible to be kind and loving even when you are having a disagreement. Moreover, conflicts, when handled healthily, can lead to growth, acceptance, and better understanding in a relationship.

A recent poll was conducted on 1,000 Americans in serious relationships to see how often they argued. The survey found that 30% argued once or more in a week, 28% argued once or more in a month, 32% argued once or multiple times a year, and 3% never argued.

5. Control Your Anger

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Avoid getting too angry or impatient. This might be easier said than done, but remember, this is your life partner that you are hurting. Your words may deeply wound them– is that really what you want?

Screaming, shouting, and saying mean things to hurt your partner can cause irreparable damage to a relationship. Controlling your anger must be one of the most important relationship goals.

When angry, you can do the following things:

  • Start counting from 1 to 10 and breathe deeply.
  • Drink a glass of cold water.
  • Change the subject for the time being.
  • Focus on your similarities, not the differences.
  • Write down why you are feeling the way you do.

These things can help you control your anger.

Also, try to understand the underlying issues behind anger. Sometimes, anger is just a surface emotion masking deeper feelings like hurt or fear, and addressing these can be key to resolving conflicts effectively.

6. Forgive

For most couples, this is a tough goal. However, they need to handle this if they want their relationship to flourish. When things get tough, it does not mean that you need to break it off and leave. On the contrary, it means you now have an opportunity to deal with it like an adult and let things go. Our partners may often say things that we don’t want to hear. We find it difficult to forgive and forget, but in the long run, holding on to our hurt serves no purpose.

7. Prioritize Your Relationship

Most of us live incredibly busy lives. It can get easy to neglect our emotional needs and the requirements of our relationship. However, this will cause the relationship to fall apart in the long run. Time and attention are absolutely essential for a healthy and happy relationship. Invest your time and attention in your partner, and show your love for them openly.

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The brain releases oxytocin, popularly known as the “love hormone,” during positive and trusting interactions between partners, contributing to a deeper emotional connection with them.

8. Take Time Out For Yourself

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No matter how much you adore your partner and enjoy their company, you just need to take some time out for yourself. You also need to let your better half spend some quality time away from you. This is a must for a healthy relationship. You and your partner need time to think, focus, read, or enjoy on their own. If not, you may get bored of each other after a while and your relationship can feel suffocating.

9. Practice Being Intimate

One of the most important relationship goals is developing intimacy. Stay loving and intimate with your partner. It is so easy to get obsessed with other things and find no time to cuddle together. A healthy intimate life requires hugging, caressing, cuddling, and kissing. These are extremely important to keep the relationship flourishing.

Besides physical intimacy, emotional intimacy may also help you connect at a deeper level with your partner. Sharing your vulnerabilities, fears, and hopes can deepen the trust and make you both feel secure in the relationship.

10. Spend Quality Time Together

It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you need to spend some quality time with your partner. Do something fun together –travel, drink coffee, go for a walk on the beach, bake a cake, solve a crossword puzzle or watch a movie or TV series together. Allow positivity and love into your life. Laughing together and participating in activities as a team strengthens the bond between couples.

11. DateYour Partner

After being together for a long time, couples often take their relationship for granted. This is one of the main reasons partners grow apart with age. To combat this situation, you should take time out to go on dates with your better half. Keep on dating your partner and make it a regular thing. Work on keeping the romance alive even after the honeymoon period is over. This will strengthen your bond and keep your relationship fresh and exciting. You can go on dates once a week or even once or twice a month.

12. Send Romantic Text Messages

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Relationship text goals – check! It is a great idea to send a loving text message to your bae once or twice a day. Send words of appreciation, a joke, a compliment, or something you know your partner will appreciate or enjoy.

Any relationship is made of many smaller things that come together in harmony, and a lot of it depends on your efforts as a couple rather than just chance. So, it is important that you actively work towards achieving the above relationship goals to make it better and healthier. For instance, you should make it a point to always be present for your partner in their time of need, be approachable and objective while dealing with a conflict, and express your love and appreciation regularly. These little things can go a long way to cement your relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are short-term goals in a relationship?

Short-term goals in relationships refer to day-to-day goals to address the needs of the relationship. Making small efforts to show affection and let your presence and involvement be felt in the relationship constitutes these short-term goals. For example, bringing flowers for your partner, having a breakfast ritual, attending regular couple workshops, etc.

What keeps a relationship alive and long-lasting?

The only thing that keeps relationships alive and long-lasting is a good balance of love, trust, respect, and effort. Just one of these is not enough. Partners in a relationship must feel cherished, respected, and prioritized. Emotional and physical intimacy should also be in an equal balance.

What are emotional needs in a relationship?

There are some core emotional needs that must be addressed for a relationship to thrive. There should be mutual respect, a sense of security, freedom of expression, individual space and freedom, spontaneous and playful excitement, and realistic boundaries. Making efforts in all these areas will ensure emotional satisfaction in your relationship.

Key Takeaways

  • If you want to have a good and happy relationship that keeps you both close and strong, you must communicate with your partner, freely express your thoughts, and enable your partner to express theirs.
  • Be patient, empathic, and supportive. Remind your bae that they can entirely rely on you.
  • A strong and successful relationship takes both time and attention. So give your sweetheart your full attention and honestly express your affection for them.

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Bayu Prihandito is a life coach, a certified psychology consultant, and an RYT 200 yoga teacher. He is also the founder of Life Architekture, a platform focusing on relationships, mindfulness, emotional Intelligence, and personal development. Bayu integrates his expertise to offer comprehensive and holistic guidance to his clients. His mission is to help them align their lives with their core...read full bio

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