Top 20 Relationship Rules To Strengthen Your Bond

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If you think relationship rules are not real, you are wrong. Every relationship has a rule book. Rules can keep any relationship healthy and strong and save it from withering, weakening, or falling apart. Rules are gentle reminders for how to maintain a good relationship while creating healthy boundaries. Intrigued? Check out these relationship rules that can make your bonds stronger than ever. Scroll down to check them out!

How To Keep A Relationship Strong: 14 Rules To Remember

Emotional Relationship Rules

Here are a few rules that help create a deep emotional connection with your partner.

1. Be True To Your Feelings

The recipe for a healthy and long-lasting relationship is to be aware of your emotions. Expressing both positive and negative emotions will help them understand you better. Being emotionally vulnerable to your partner will strengthen your bond and lay the foundation for your emotional needs to be met. Thus, it is vital to avoid camouflaging and let your emotions speak for what you feel.

2. Have Mutual Respect For Each Other

Mutual respect in a partnership is crucial. In the “book of love,” respect writes pages of togetherness and forever. Respecting your partner mirrors love and acceptance, which helps deepen bonds and understanding.

Showing respect to your partner can be in many forms – trusting them, practicing being a conscious communicator, coming to terms with both of your differences, and being accountable for your mistakes.

3. Contribute To Each Other’s Growth

Growing together as a couple is not linear progress. It requires a lot of effort, time, and patience from both parties. You can facilitate growth in your relationship by encouraging your partner, appreciating their efforts, and spending quality time with them. Moreover, channelizing and keeping pace with your inner growth is also important.

4. Show Emotional Maturity During Conflicts

Disagreements and differences of opinion are part and parcel of every relationship. Handling your conflicts in an emotionally effective manner is vital. Both parties should be calm and respectful as it helps collect your thoughts and emotions easily.

Do not avoid or overlook conflicts – it makes things messy and complicated. After you both have cooled down and are in the right headspace, address it and try to be empathetic and honest about your issues.

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5. Give Emotional Space

Asking for or giving space should not be taken personally. Space will help create balance and declutter your mind.  One of the reasons you or your partner may ask for personal space is for recollecting thoughts and reflecting on your actions. Thus, we should encourage and normalize space in our relationships for better emotional well-being.

Physical Relationship Rules

Physical factors are as vital as emotional needs to establish a happy and healthy relationship.

1. Maintain A Body Touch

It is the touch of your love that knocks your partner off their feet. Physical touch can do wonders in your relationships. Being physically involved with your partner does not always mean having sex. Holding your partner’s hands, stroking their hair, cuddling, hugging, random kisses, and resting your head on their shoulder are also forms of intimacy. Physical touch helps release love hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin that create a happy and pleasurable mood.

2. Recognize The Importance Of Sex

Sex plays a fair role in moving your relationship to the next level of trust and love. Couples who engage in consensual sex show high levels of happiness, trust, and deep bonding.

Moreover, sex also helps builds compatibility. Knowing the sexual preferences of your partner and giving sexual feedback are crucial. This will further enrich your sex life and your relationship in the long run.

3. Keep Physical Boundaries

Physical boundaries are an important sign of you knowing about yourself. Communicate to your partner if you are uncomfortable with his actions or touch. Speaking out to your partner will make them know about the physical limits and save both of you from an uncomfortable position.

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According to Dr John Goodman, marital friendship is key in creating a positive environment in a marriage (1)

New Relationship Rules

The rules mentioned below are prime factors to keep your relationship happy, healthy, and strong.

1. Check If Your Partner Is Emotionally Available

Relationships are emotionally driven, and emotional availability is essential in the life of a couple. People who are unable to find emotional availability might become possible victims of abuse, toxic relationships, and trauma. Thus, consider emotional availability as a criterion before getting into a relationship.

2. Establish A Give And Take Relationship

Learning to be a taker and giver in love is needed. When we are deeply in love, we often believe that giving more will get you more love. But the reality looks somewhat different. More effort and no returns might make you look needy. Hence, a balanced give-and-take relationship ensures that you and your partner are on the same page in a relationship.

3. Have Patience

Patience is a true virtue in relationships. Every relationship requires some time for the right communication, getting to know your partner better, and accepting them the way they are. Mastering patience can open up a path for a smooth relationship. It can be practiced by being mindful, empathetic, and present with your situation.

Impatient people can sabotage their relationship, appearing to be desperate and needy for love. Hence, working on patience during a relationship is crucial.

4. Keep It A Private Affair

Keeping your life a private affair in the world of social media seems to be near to impossible. But, having your personal life under wraps has its perks.

  • You are free from the judgment of others.
  • You remove pressure and create a non-toxic environment in the relationship.
  • You do not compare your relationship with other couples.
  • Breaking up or sliding away from your relationship becomes easier.

5. Have Healthy Arguments

Healthy arguments, grounded in respect and constructive communication, are essential in relationships. Address conflicts calmly, avoid personal attacks, and focus on the issue at hand. Embrace differing opinions as opportunities for growth, finding a middle ground together. Approaching disagreements with patience and empathy strengthens the bond and fosters mutual understanding.

6. Discuss Finances

Remember that openly discussing finances in a relationship is also important. Be transparent about each other’s income, expenses, and financial goals. Also, work together to create a budget, set priorities, and plan for the future. Shared financial responsibility and clear communication about money contribute to trust, alignment, and long-term stability in the relationship.

The following rules should be maintained for the sake of a deep and peaceful connection.

Do Not Break These Rules That Keep You Together

1. Do Not Gaslight Or Stonewall

Gaslighting and stonewalling are indicators of a toxic relationship. Gaslighting your partner to manipulate them emotionally is cruel. People engage in such strategies to have the upper hand and seek control over situations.

Stonewalling is showing no signs of communication or cooperation during conflicts. Avoiding conflicts, open conversations, and confrontation are symptoms of “stonewalling”.

2. Never Bring Up Your Past Trauma

Digging up your past trauma or triggering your partner only worsens a relationship. Even in heated moments, being respectful, honest, and open from both sides is important.

Triggering and infusing trauma in your partner’s mind might push them away from the feelings, comfort, and emotions they share with you. Hence, it is advised to stay calm and composed and give it some time when arguments get out of control.

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If you feel that your partner’s behavior is based on past trauma, consider going for couples therapy. This might make your partner feel safe and know that you are supportive of them and the relationship. However, make sure to check with them first.

3. Avoid Bottling Up Your Feelings

Bottling up your feelings leads to a lack of communication and clarity in a relationship. It might also result in anger, frustration, anxiety, and depression. People should try to acknowledge their emotions, name them, identify the triggers of suppression, and communicate them with their partner. “Transparent communication” is the key to let your partner know how you feel and lower the burden of your emotions.

4. Do Not Ignore Your Partner

Ignoring and giving silent treatment to your partner during conflicts might seem the best way to escape, but it makes the situation more difficult. Ignorance will only aggravate resentment, anger, and hurt between both of you. To establish a healthy relationship, talk it out and hunt down a solution for your issues rather than avoiding them.

5. Never Control Your Partner’s Feelings Or Actions

No healthy relationship ever involves controlling the feelings and actions of one another. A person with this trait doubts their partner’s love, overthinks, jumps to conclusions easily, and tries to impose control. This might make the relationship suffocating, resulting in a fallout. Therefore, try to maintain clear communication with your partner and handle any negative thoughts.

A relationship requires two different people to work together to build a meaningful connection. Since both people in a relationship have unique ways of doing things, setting some ground rules to work in harmony is a great idea to strengthen the relationship. For instance, neither of you should have to compromise on respect and always keep the communication channels open.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the 24-hour rule for relationships?

The 24-hour rule for relationships is not to explode on your partner if you are high on emotions. Instead, give yourself time and wait 24 hours before you discuss an issue with your partner to see if it still bothers you. It’s important to address issues or conflicts within 24 hours of them arising. The idea is to communicate with them openly and avoid letting negative feelings fester. Addressing problems promptly can prevent them from escalating and becoming more challenging to resolve.

What is the 48-hour rule in relationships?

If you are hurt or angry at your partner and unsure whether you want to bring it up, wait for 48 hours. See if it still bothers you before discussing it. The 48-hour rule might suggest a slightly extended timeframe for addressing issues. It could mean allowing a cooling-off period or giving each other some space before discussing a problem. The additional time might be intended to allow emotions to settle and provide individuals with an opportunity to reflect on the situation before engaging in a conversation.

Key Takeaways

  • Rules in any relationship make it stronger as they make the bond stronger.
  • Being supportive, honest, and respectful toward each other are the major ones.
  • Emotional stability, independence, and patience should be the rules in any relationship.
  • Avoid bringing your past. Try not to control your partner and do not ignore them.

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  1. The Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy
    https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.ajp.158.2.334
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Kuunjal Paal is a relationship coach with over four years of experience. Her passion for positively impacting lives led her to earn the prestigious ICF Certification. Through her venture 'Win at Relationships,' she provides coaching services aimed at fostering strong connections in both personal and professional spheres. She specializes in personal relationships (marriage, dating, grief, divorce) and professional relationships (leadership...read full bio

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