Top 20 Rules To Regulate A Strong Relationship

Written by Harini Natarajan , Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner

Relationships are no exception to the rule book. Every strong and healthy relationship walks on a few rules that help them grow and thrive. Rules in relationships are not restrictive. Instead, they are gentle reminders of not forgetting your individuality and forging growth with your partner. Here are a few rules essential for a strong and healthy bond. Scroll down to explore them.

How To Keep A Relationship Strong: 10 Rules To Remember

Emotional Relationship Rules

Here are a few rules that help create a deep emotional connection with your partner.

1. Be True To Your Feelings

The recipe for a healthy and long-lasting relationship is to be aware of your emotions. Expressing both positive and negative emotions will help them understand you better. Being emotionally vulnerable to your partner will strengthen your bond and lay the foundation for your emotional needs. Thus, it is vital to avoid camouflaging and let your emotions speak for what you feel.

2. Have Mutual Respect For Each Other

Mutual respect in a partnership is crucial. In the “book of love,” respect writes pages of togetherness and forever. Respecting your partner mirrors love and acceptance, which helps deepen bonds and understanding.

Showing respect to your partner can be in many forms – trusting them, practicing being a conscious communicator, coming to terms with both of your differences, and being accountable for your mistakes.

3. Contribute To Each Other’s Growth

Growing together as a couple is not linear progress. It requires a lot of effort, time, and patience from both parties. You can facilitate growth in your relationship by encouraging your partner, appreciating their efforts, and spending quality time with them. Moreover, channelizing and keeping pace with your inner growth is also important.

4. Show Emotional Maturity During Conflicts

Disagreements and differences of opinion are part and parcel of every relationship. Ruling out your conflicts in an emotionally effective manner is vital. Both parties should be calm and respectful as it helps collect your thoughts and emotions easily.

Do not avoid or overlook conflicts – it makes things messy and complicated. After you both have cooled down with the right headspace, address it and try to be empathetic and vocal about your issues.

5. Give Emotional Space

Asking for or giving space should not be taken personally. Space will help create balance and declutter your mind.  One of the reasons you or your partner may ask for personal space is for recollecting thoughts and reflecting on your actions. Thus, we should encourage and normalize space in our relationships for better emotional well-being.

Physical Relationship Rules

Physical factors are as vital as emotional needs to establish a happy and healthy relationship.

1. Maintain A Body Touch

It is the touch of your love that knocks your partner off their feet. Physical touch can do wonders in your relationships. Being physically involved with your partner does not always mean having sex. Holding your partner’s hands, stroking their hair, cuddling, hugging, random kisses, and resting your head on their shoulder are also forms of intimacy. Physical touch helps release love hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin that create a happy and pleasurable mood.

2. Recognize The Importance Of Sex

Sex plays a fair role in upgrading your relationship to the next level of trust and love. Couples who engage in consensual sex show high levels of happiness, trust, and deep bonding.

Moreover, sex also helps builds compatibility. Knowing the sexual preferences of your partner and giving sexual feedback are crucial. This will further enrich your sex life and your relationship in the long run.

3. Keep Physical Boundaries

Physical boundaries are an attractive sign of you knowing about yourself. Communicate to your partner if you are uncomfortable with his actions or touch. Speaking out to your partner will make them know about the physical limits and save both of you from an uncomfortable position.

New Relationship Rules

The rules mentioned below are prime factors to keep your relationship happy, healthy, and strong.

1. Check If Your Partner Is Emotionally Available

Relationships are emotionally driven, and emotional availability is essential in the life of a couple. People who are unable to seek emotional availability might become possible victims of abuse, toxic relationships, and trauma. Thus, consider emotional availability as a criterion before getting into a relationship.

2. Establish A Give And Take Relationship

Learning to be a taker and giver in love is needed. When we are deeply in love, we confuse ourselves that giving more will get you more love. But the reality speaks something different. More effort and no returns might make you look needy. Hence, a balanced give and take relationship ensures that you and your partner are on the same page in a relationship.

3. Have Patience

Patience is a true virtue in relationships. Every relationship requires some time for the right communication, getting to know your partner better, and accepting them the way they are. Mastering patience can open up roads for a smooth relationship. It can be practiced by being mindful, empathetic, and present with your situation.

Impatient people can sabotage their relationship, appearing to be desperate and needy for love. Hence, working on patience during a relationship is crucial.

4. Keep It A Private Affair

Keeping your life a private affair in the world of social media seems to be near to impossible. But, having your personal life under wraps has its perks.

  • You are free from the judgment of others.
  • You pressurize yourself less and create a non-toxic environment in the relationship.
  • You do not compare your relationship with other couples.
  • Breaking up or sliding away from your relationship becomes easier.

The following rules should be maintained for the sake of a deep and peaceful connection.

Do Not Break These Rules That Keep You Together

Gaslighting and stonewalling are indicators of a toxic relationship. Gaslighting your partner to manipulate them emotionally is insanity. People engage in such strategies to have the upper hand and seek control over situations.

Stonewalling is showing no signs of communication or cooperation during conflicts. Avoiding conflicts, open conversations, and confrontation are symptoms of “stonewalling”.

2. Never Bring Up Your Past Trauma

Digging up your past trauma or triggering your partner only worsens a relationship. Even in heated moments, being respectful, honest, and open from both sides is important.

Triggering and infusing trauma in your partner’s mind might push them away from the feelings, comfort, and emotions they share with you. Hence, it is advised to stay calm and composed and give it some time when arguments get out of control.

3. Avoid Bottling Up Your Feelings

Bottling up your feelings leads to a lack of communication and clarity in a relationship. It might also result in anger, frustration, anxiety, and depression. People should try to acknowledge their emotions, name them, identify the triggers of suppression, and communicate them with their partner. “Transparent communication” is the key to let your partner know how you feel and lower the burden of your emotions.

4. Do Not Ignore Your Partner

Ignoring and giving the silent treatment to your partner during conflicts might seem the best way to escape, but it makes the situation graver. Ignorance will only aggravate resentment, anger, and hurt between both of you. To establish a healthy relationship, talk it out and hunt down a solution for your issues rather than avoiding it.

5. Never Control Your Partner’s Feelings Or Actions

No healthy relationship ever strived on controlling the feelings and actions of one another. A person with this trait doubts their partner’s love, overthinks, jumps to conclusions easily, and tries to impose control. This might make the relationship suffocating, resulting in a fallout. Therefore, try to maintain clear communication with your partner and distract yourself from any negative thoughts.

Relationships are a work of time, and maintaining them is you and your partner’s equal responsibility. It is essential to regulate your relationship with a set of behaviors and rules that do not hinder your fun and help build a strong connection.

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