20 Signs A Shy Guy Likes You

Simple chivalrous acts may be a hint of how your shy partner expresses their love for you.

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Deciphering the love language of shy guys is difficult. But, it can become easier if you know the signs that a shy guy likes you. Yes, they are quiet and not outgoing, loud, straightforward, and expressive when they like someone. They are cute that way, aren’t they? Their nature shows how caring, innocent, and soft-hearted they are. But, is he ever going to ask you out? Does he even like you? What is going on in his mind? And how to unlock the secrets close to his heart? These are all the things you may be wondering. One thing is clear – shy guys are like just other guys. They are just choosy when it comes to socializing with people. Their shyness may bother them too when they like someone and can’t express it.

If a shy guy is dropping hints but his demeanor is also confusing you, we have your back! Here is a list of signs to look out for to figure out if a shy guy you have a crush on is also into you. Scroll down!

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Shyness is a common trait. According to a study, more than 40% of American students in their high school or college years describe themselves as shy (1).

How To Know If A Shy Guy Likes You

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1. You Will Find Him Always Close To You

A shy guy who has a liking for you will try to hand around you, under the weirdest of pretexts. While they cannot express their love directly to you, they will give you subtle signs without being obvious or verbal. Whether you are in the classroom, office, playground, library, or canteen, you will often find your shy guy around you. If you are up for it, try and make the first move and have a conversation with him.

2. You Find Him Often Staring At You

Whether a guy is super-shy or not, it doesn’t mean that he can’t express his feelings for you at all. Shy guys have a different way of expressing their love and adoration. They are not too obvious, boisterous, or showy about it. Most of the time, you won’t even get to know about it until a long time. They will never be able to tell you directly about it, but they will reveal it through their body language. You will be attracted to their nervous ways, and you can tell for sure that they like you.

3. You Get Gifts And Cards From Your Shy Lover

If you get some anonymous cards and gifts, be sure it is from your secret lover. He is simply too shy to write his name, but he does these cute things to convey his adoration for you. You may get very confused about this secret guy, but if you read the signs properly, you will surely figure out who your shy admirer is.

4. His Friends Tease And Nudge Him When You Enter The Room

Your shy guy would have told all his friends about his feelings for you. You will notice a group of friends nudging and teasing a guy when you walk by. You may be the last person to know about his love for you, but the entire office or class will know. Perhaps he is just scared of getting rejected or too embarrassed to speak to you directly.

5. You May Find The Guy At Your Hangout Joints

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Your shy guy will always be present at your favorite hangout places in the hope of seeing you or bumping into you. Do you notice a particular guy who is always hanging around giving you side looks whenever you go to your favorite pizza place? Gotcha!

6. He May Look Out For You

You can tell if a guy likes if you find him looking at you. He may be trying to convey their feelings through weird antics. You can make things easier for him and ask him out yourself if you like him as well.

7. He Will Try To Talk To Your Friends

A shy guy who has his eyes on you will try to find out all about you from your friends. All your favorite things, your current boyfriend, if any, and your routine will be known to him. You are practically the center of his world. While he can’t talk to you directly, he will ensure he knows all about you from trusted sources.

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To test the waters, he might ask one or more of his friends to ask you questions about yourself or about your interest in him if he doesn’t feel comfortable asking you directly.

8. He Will Blush When You Talk To Him

You can tell that a man likes you if he blushes when you speak to him. He may just not believe it that his secret crush is talking to him directly – and this will leave him blushing. If you notice his pupils dilate or find him redden, you can be sure that the guy likes you. The guy will try to make a run whenever you try to have a conversation because he is just too awkward and shy.

9. He Will Get Protective About You

If your shy guy finds any other man misbehaving with you, he will get extremely protective about you. He may even end up having a fistfight with him for you. This kind of behavior mostly comes from a feeling of protectiveness for you.

10. His Body Language Tells You That He Likes You

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You can tell by his silly body language that he likes you. He may fidget with something, drop things, or act clumsily if you come near him. He may behave just too awkwardly if you are around. This happens because he gets super-excited if you are near him, and the silly him has no control over his emotions.

11. He Will Do Small Favors For You

Your shy guy will try to please you by doing little favors for you. Fetching books, food, drinks, or reserving a seat are all little gestures he may do to convey his liking for you.

12. He Will Try To Attract You With His Actions

For a shy man, actions speak louder than any words can. They will try to do brave things just to impress you. They may be going through a tough ordeal all the time dying to talk to you, but afraid of rejection and lacking the guts for it.

In her blog, Miss Jones addresses a reader’s query about shy guys and states that one can gauge his interest by deciphering subtle cues. She states, “Oh, and I think you tell if a shy guy likes you by paying attention to body language, eye contact, and his actions. Make it SUPER easy for him to date you if he wants to and then really a shy guy isn’t much different than a non shy guy. You just have to make things a little easier for shy guys (i).” This emphasizes the significance of a comfortable setting to encourage shy people to feel less intimidated to express interest. Furthermore, it also highlights how body language and subtle cues are your tickets to deciphering interest from the shy guys.

13. He Is Nervous Around You

You can tell that a shy guy likes you if he gets extremely nervous around you. He may suddenly start behaving awkwardly or clumsily. This kind of nervousness comes from wanting to appear cool and do things right in front of you, but failing miserably at it. So cute!

14. He Might Change His Looks Often

A shy guy might change his looks to impress his crush
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You can understand whether he likes you or not by noticing his physical changes. If he changes his looks and hairstyle too often, he may have something for you. He is doing that to impress you probably, and you should get a hint from it.

15. If He Smiles A Lot, You Know He Likes You

You can tell that he has feelings for you if he smiles a lot at you. He is showing his attraction and interest by smiling because he is just too shy to do anything else. You can ease his ordeal by initiating the talk yourself or smiling back at him. That will comfort him immensely.

16. He Will Share His Secrets With You

You only share secrets with someone when you really trust or like that person. He is trying to attract your attention towards himself with this cute gesture. Maybe you can share a secret of yours, too?

17. He Hates It When You Mention Other Guys

You can tell if a shy guy has feelings for you if he gets too annoyed or irritated whenever you mention the names of other guys. This happens because he feels too possessive about you and gets jealous. He is scared that you talking about other guys means that you like them, not him. He wants you all for himself.

18. He Shows Interest In Your Actions

Whatever you achieve, you will always find him appreciative of your work or your efforts. He likes the stuff you do and shows interest in your actions. You can tell if he has feelings for you if he supports you in the things you do.

19. He Will Try To Connect Via Social Media

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He will send you a friend request and will like and comment on ALL your posts. It is way easier to connect via social media because the fear of rejection is way lesser – he may even chat with you on social media! He will talk about a lot to you online but may be too scared to have a face-to-face conversation.  He may be shy, but he wants you to know that he sees every move that you make.

20. He Will Remember Little Details About You

You can tell that a shy guy has feelings for you if he remembers your birthday and other special occasions. There may be days when even you may forget about your special occasion, but he won’t. Other than birthdays, a shy guy will also remember what you wore on a specific day, your outfit the first time he saw you, your little habits, and every little detail about you. Sighhhh, true love!

Now that you know the signs that a shy guy likes you, learn how to talk to him easily.

How To Talk To Shy Guys

Most shy guys are just uncomfortable starting a conversation. However, as you get to know them, you’ll find that they are really good at carrying a conversation. The aim is to make them feel comfortable enough around you so they don’t get anxious.

  • Choose a quiet and casual place to strike your initial interactions.
  • Try to conduct yourself in a welcoming manner, using open body language.
  • Notice if he is comfortable with eye contact or without it. Listen to him attentively and do not interrupt them.
  • Ask them questions about their interests.

Once he feels at ease with you, you will not have to worry too much about talking to him.

Infographic: Common Signs A Shy Guy Likes You

Shy people are so mysterious. While you might be obvious about your feelings toward your crush, trying to figure out if they like you is like unraveling a cryptogram. To help you notice some of the most common signs a shy guy is head-over-heels for you, we have created an infographic below. So without further ado, check it out.

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Understanding if a shy guy likes you can be tricky as they never speak about their feelings out loud and depend on covert body language and gestures. So, if you are romantically interested in someone who is not as extroverted or expressive as a usual guy, it helps you know about various ways they could drop you a hint. For instance, a shy guy will be nervous around you, blush when you talk to them, and try to stay near you as much as possible. All these gestures are an invitation for you to initiate a conversation so that they can engage with you. So, pick the hints and let your shy man heave a sigh of relief!

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take a shy guy to ask you out?

It might take some time for a shy guy to get the courage to ask you out. Most of them will only ask you out if they think you like them back. So, drop hints that you like them. Or, ask them out instead!

Do guys get shy around the girl they like?

Some men do get shy around the woman they like, especially if they think that she is out of their league.

Will a shy guy ignore a girl he likes?

A shy guy may ignore a girl he likes out of fear or nervousness, but this isn’t always the case. Some shy guys may show their interest in more subtle ways.

How can a shy guy flirt with a girl?

By making eye contact, smiling, and finding ways to be near the girl he likes. He can also try asking her open-ended questions to start a conversation.

How do you impress a shy guy?

To impress a shy guy, try to show interest in his hobbies and passions, ask him questions and show him you want to know more about him, be patient with him, and make him feel comfortable around you.

How can I make a shy guy feel comfortable enough to express his feelings to me?

To make a shy guy feel comfortable expressing his feelings, create a safe and supportive environment for him to open up in. Show empathy and be a good listener.

How can I differentiate between a shy guy’s romantic interest and his friendly nature?

It can be difficult to differentiate between a shy guy’s romantic interest and friendly nature. Look for subtle signs such as prolonged eye contact, nervousness around you, and attempts to make physical contact. However, the best way to know for sure is to have an open and honest conversation with him about his feelings.

Key Takeaways

  • Shy guys are not very expressive and don’t socialize much, so it can be difficult to figure out if they like you.
  • If you want a relationship with a shy guy, it will require oodles of patience and excellent observation powers.
  • He might exhibit subtle signs to show you that he’s interested in you, such as being around you, sending you gifts, smiling at you, or sharing his secrets with you.
  • All you need to do is draw him out and make him feel comfortable enough to open up to you.

Have you fallen for shy guy? Are you wondering if he likes you? Check out this video to learn 16 signs that indicate he might be into you!

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