21 Signs That He Is Losing Interest In You

Stop the desperate chase, keep your self-respect, and work on the reasons instead.

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If you have ever been in a relationship, you must have spent some amount of time looking for signs that he is losing interest in you.

If you are feeling that fear creeping in, we have got your back. It can’t be easy to be in this predicament, worrying about how to keep your man. There may be a few signs that he is getting bored with you. You may not notice these signs and take the next measures to repair your relationship unless you look at them carefully.

This article discusses the telltale signs that he has lost all interest in you and, more importantly, what to do about them. Keep reading!

21 Signs He Is Losing Interest In You

1. You Are Not Spending Enough Time Together

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If there is a guy who is losing interest in you, one sure sign that will bring it to your notice is his lack of presence. Is it always you who makes dinner plans or coaxes him to go out with you? If he makes excuses to bail out of a date with you and shows lack of enthusiasm to propose going out with you, it is a sure sign that your man is losing interest in you.

Coercing him to make plans with you may also invite more excuses from him if he is trying to avoid you. Sometimes, his excuses may be valid when he cites his priorities and needs to give his time to work or friends. But if that is how he is getting out of going out with you or spending time with you, it is surely something to watch out for.

2. He Is Not Romantic With You Anymore

An obvious sign of losing interest in a relationship is the absence of romance between you two. Is he showing no interest in taking things forward with you? Do you feel that he no longer makes the same effort to initiate a conversation or make things special for you?

It would not be difficult to observe changes in how he carries himself when he is with you. If the hugs, kisses, and attention that he used to shower on you are a thing of the past, it is a serious sign that he is losing interest in you.

3. You Find Him Dodging Questions About Your Relationship

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When your boyfriend loses interest in you, it may be hard for you to discuss anything about your relationship with him. You will find him avoiding questions about your relationship and making things official. You may even notice that he is not introducing you to his friends in a bid to avoid putting a label on your relationship.
If you find yourself picking fights with him frequently because he refuses to acknowledge the slow pace of your relationship, there could not be a clearer sign that he has lost interest in you.

4. He Is Ignoring Your Texts And Calls

Being busy is one thing, but if you catch your partner showing an extreme lag in responding to your calls and texts over an extended period, it could point toward the fact that he is losing interest in you. A busy schedule does not hold someone back from responding to calls and texts from their significant other, provided they are serious about their relationship.

If this is the case, you will receive more and more excuses as to why he didn’t get back to you as while tries to distance himself from you. With phones becoming more pervasive in our daily lives, there is only one reason why his responses are taking so long to come – he is losing interest in you.

5. There Is A Clear Lack Of Arguments

Not to say that arguing is a good element in a relationship, but the fact that you and your partner argue with each other indicates that you have a healthy relationship. However, when your partner doesn’t even make an effort to put up a fight, it indicates lack of emotions and could be a sign that he has lost interest in the relationship.

This is not to say that fighting is productive, but it requires energy from both partners. Lack of effort during a fight implies that your partner has lost interest in making things work. When this happens, there is little chance that you may be able to re-establish the relationship alone.

6. You Rarely Touch Each Other

At the beginning of a relationship, feeling a great urge to touch, snuggle, and have lots of sex is common. Similarly, it is common for that feeling to tone down as the relationship progresses. However, a complete lack of hugs, kisses, and sex is a clear sign of your man losing interest in you.

A blogger shared that her boyfriend of five-and-a-half years stopped initiating and having any interest in physical intimacy after a year and a half of their relationship. She mentioned that in three years, they made love only eight times. She felt lonely and abandoned in the relationship and angry with herself after he broke up with her. In her blog, she mentioned “For three years, I had felt lonely in my relationship. Like I was the only one in it. I’d lost all sense of self-worth, and when he finally left, I was angry he was the one to leave me and I hadn’t found the strength to do so myself (i).”

It is not surprising for physical affection to wane with a loss of interest in someone. You are bound to notice the shift in your partner from their usual self. This indifference in the relationship is not to be confused with the eventual dissipation in physical closeness due to the passage of time. Lack of interest will manifest in the form of the complete absence of any physical affection and connection.

7. He Is Not Making Any Effort With Your Friends And Family

Your bond with your family and friends is special. And, you may want your partner to be just as involved with them as you are. If you find your partner lacking the will to socialize with them or make plans with them every once in a while, it could point to his lack of interest in you.

When a guy loses interest in you, he will most likely begin withdrawing from anything to do with your family and friends. This is because he wants no part in the relationship anymore.

8. You Are Not A Priority For Him

If the thought “I feel like my boyfriend is losing interest in me” is constantly on your mind, it could be because you no longer feel important around him. He may cease to give you as much attention as before and resist communicating with you.

Everyone deserves to feel important in a relationship. Sadly, if you cannot achieve that level of intimacy with your partner, it is a good reason to step back from the relationship and analyze where it is headed. Regardless of the reason for the lack of interest, the signs will eventually reveal themselves with time.

9. He Is Constantly Making Excuses

There may be times when your guy is genuinely busy or occupied with his work. However, in a serious relationship, your man will take out the time to help you or be there for you when you need him. One of the signs that he is losing interest in you is when he begins to make lame excuses to get out of situations where you need him.

From urgent meetings to tight deadlines and travel plans, it could be anything. Though, the motive behind them is usually the same – avoidance. One of the ways to tell if your boyfriend is losing interest in you is if these excuses come rather too frequently.

10. He Does Not Ask Questions Anymore

Asking your partner questions about their life is a sign of a healthy relationship. When your partner seriously wants to learn more about you or different parts of your life, he will make an effort to ask you questions about your work, life, or day. It is a nice way to connect and increase understanding with your partner.

His lack of questioning may indicate that he has lost interest in you. He will no longer feel curious about knowing more about you or any aspect of your life.

11. He Is Being Rude To You

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For a man to behave rudely with you while you are in a relationship could mean that he is losing interest in you. You may find him yelling at you for no reason and getting put off by the little things that you do, which might be a sign of emotional inconsistency. Instead of solving the issue, he may get annoyed and defensive about the matter and want an out of the argument by showing how you have wronged him.

If he behaves in this manner, he is probably not interested in you anymore.

12. He Fails To Notice Anything About You

It is common for men to miss small changes in your physical appearance, like a new dress or a hairstyle. However, failing to notice a major change is a sign that he is losing interest in the relationship.

Men may be oblivious to small changes, but they are bound to notice them, eventually. However, a lack of interest may make a guy miss big changes, like a dramatic haircut. Or, he may purposely not acknowledge them to make his lack of interest in you evident.

13. Everything About Him Seems Vague

Are you wondering if he has lost interest in you? There is a good chance that you have caught something peculiar about his body language and behavior, which made you think so. Often, when men are invested in a relationship, they are curious about your life and ask you questions to learn more about you.

However, when they lose interest, they are bound to sound indecisive and fail to answer the simplest questions that you ask them in a straightforward manner.

14. He Is Not Making Plans For The Future

Talking about the future is one of the most serious yet tricky things in a relationship. If a man comes forward to discuss future plans with you, it is a healthy relationship between you two. Sadly, if you find him dodging questions about the same with you, it is entirely possible that he has lost interest in you and has no plans to continue the relationship. He might even try to convey the same to you by telling you how he is not looking for something serious or how his family does not seem to approve of the relationship.

15. There Is Nothing Between You Other Than Physical Attraction

Most men suddenly lose interest in a woman after getting physically intimate with them. Yet others continue to be in a relationship only for the sake of sex. If the only thing that is keeping your relationship alive is sex, then it is a clear sign that he is losing interest in you. You will be able to catch this behavior easily since the only thing he might propose doing together is having sex, even if you are meeting after some time apart.

16. You Catch Him Flirting With Others

If you find your man crossing a certain line with one or more people, then it is obvious that he is losing interest in you. When in a committed relationship, men avoid engaging in this behavior since it is inappropriate. So, if your partner is clearly showing interest in other people, it is a clear sign that he is losing interest in you.

He could be doing this intentionally to make you mad at him and walk out on your own or he may have made up his mind to find someone else, disregarding his current relationship.

17. He Is Not Supportive

When a man loses interest in you, he will fail to give you the support you may expect from a partner. You may find him failing to acknowledge your dreams, aspirations, and plans for the future. He may be unwilling to stand by you when you need to take an important decision that may have a major impact on your life.

If he has decided to part ways with you, he will begin to flip out at the mere mention of any serious matter in your life.

18. There Is Stagnancy In Your Relationship

Instead of acting like romantic partners, if he behaves like you are no more than two friends, it is a sign that your boyfriend is losing interest in you. If you have gone from the stage where the flame erupted wildly between you two to a point where there seems to be nothing more than boredom between you, it means that he is unwilling to continue with the relationship.

When this happens, you may find yourself feeling alone trying to make things interesting between you two while he does nothing to reignite your relationship.

19. He Is Nagging More Frequently

It is common for men to nag a little about things that bother them, but doing so a lot when they find something wrong with everything you do is a sign that he may be losing interest. If he has a sudden loss of interest in you, he may find reasons to fight and complain about every small thing.

Anything that you say or do to bring matters under control may fail to compose him. As a result, it can be quite confusing to find yourself in a situation such as this one.

20. Everything Seems One-Sided

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If you find yourself working alone to keep the relationship afloat, it is a definite sign that your man is losing interest in you. You may slowly begin to observe how he is completely absent from your life and lacks the initiative to propel the relationship forward. When men lose interest in a woman, they may withdraw their effort so quickly that it will not be hard for you to catch his lack of attention toward you.

21. You Have A Gut Feeling

If there is something wrong with your relationship, you may get a gut feeling about it. It is hard to miss the signs that a guy is losing interest in you. If you begin to notice them between you and your man, it is best not to ignore them.

If you notice signs that your partner is losing interest in you, then you need to begin considering what you can do about it. Listed below are some ways to deal with this situation because you deserve the best!

What To Do About It?

So, you have caught the classic signs that he is losing interest in you. Now what?

There are two roads that you can walk on. If you intend to maintain your relationship with him, you can consider communicating your feelings to him and letting him know that you value the bond you share with him.

If not, the wisest thing that you can do is to walk away from him. After all, there is little reason why you should spend your time trying to patch things up with him.
Try these tips to move forward in your life!

1. Don’t Chase Him

He has made it clear that he is not interested in you. Why, then, is there any reason for you to stop and wait for him?

Move on and find your happiness and love with someone else. Be independent and strong to take this decision and end things with your man. There is no point in feeling miserable while you wait for him to return to you.

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Make sure you cut all contact with him on all social media platforms and remove everything that reminds you of him before starting fresh.

2. Become A Better Version Of Yourself

If you plan to move forward, you can improve your life tenfold by working on yourself and becoming a better version of yourself. You can also try to evaluate if there is something wrong with your behavior or attitude which may have driven your partner away from you.

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If you feel you are not able to do it alone, seek support from your friends and family to help you move on. You may go on trips with your friends, brunch dates with your girl gang, or even spend a few days with your family.

3. Be Honest About Your Feelings

If you like him enough to stop him from leaving the relationship, then be honest with him and convey your feelings. You should be aware that no amount of talking could be of any use if he has made up his mind to walk away from you. If his lack of interest bothers you to the extent that you cannot bear it, do not wait for him to come to you and tell you that he has lost interest in you. Instead, be bold and walk up to him and let him know that you cannot be with him anymore due to his behavior.

Infographic: 7 Glaring Signs He Has Lost Interest In You

Amid all adult-life engagements, it is possible to misunderstand our partners. They might be busy. We may read too much into a situation. However, some signs are too obvious to ignore. The disinterestedness, as well as the disrespect, is out there for everyone to see. Check out the infographic below to know the tell-tale signs that he is not into you anymore.

7 glaring signs he has lost interest in you (infographic)

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It is important to pay heed to the red flags in a relationship. Avoiding them does no good and only leads to unnecessary hurt down the road. For example, if the sparks of romance have died down and your man tends to ignore you often, it may be possible they are losing interest in the relationship. In this case, both the partners need to take it seriously and talk things out.

You could possibly save the relationship with the help of a healthy discussion. However, pay close attention to both of your actions. If there’s no change, It’s time to leave. You may also seek professional help from counselors. But if all else fails, it is better to go separate ways after a mutual understanding. Finally, make sure you and your partner are honest with each other.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you know if a guy is losing interest over text?

If he ignores your texts or responds late to your messages, only responds with one-word answers or just emojis, and leaves your text messages on seen, he might be losing interest in the relationship.

Is he losing interest or just busy?

The best way to know if your partner is busy or losing interest is to ask them. Be honest with how you feel and why you think they are losing interest. Another way to know if he is busy or losing interest is to see how he behaves when he is not busy. Does he try to make time for you? Is he there when you need him? Does he listen to you when you talk to him? These are all questions you should ask yourself. If you pay attention to your man, you will know if he is busy or intentionally ignoring you. If you can’t tell the difference, you might be facing the problem all alone. Never forget that if a man is interested, he will make sure you know that he is busy and still make time for you.

Why is he acting distant all of a sudden?

A man may start becoming distant all of a sudden because he is losing interest. However, he may also need space if he is going through some tough situation. Men vary in how they operate. There are many reasons he may be acting distant. It could be a reaction to something you did or he could be just giving you space cause he feels you need it. Never assume; the best way to find out is always to ask.

Why do men lose interest?

Most people lose interest in their relationship if they feel a lack of love, support, appreciation, or romance. Some men may become distant if their partners are too clingy and controlling. Men lose interest when they don’t feel respected, needed, or not given attention. Also, another woman giving him the attention that he desires can result in disinterest as well.

Can a guy who lost interest come back?

A guy who loses interest in you might realize what he is missing out on and want to come back. You may want to check and see if he really is coming back to you because he misses you or if it is just to pass the time until someone else comes along. But, the real question you should ask yourself is, do you want to be with someone who does not recognize how amazing you are? Also, remember there’s a reason you two didn’t work out in the first place.

How do you make a guy feel like he’s losing you?

You can do a few different things to make a guy realize he is losing you:
• Don’t message him very often. Let him try to get in touch with you rather than bombarding him with texts or calls.
• Go out with your friends or on a trip. Put yourself first. If he can’t make time for you, don’t stay home and wallow in your misery. Head out and have fun.
• If you really want to let him know that he is losing you, you should just tell him how you feel. He will either try making you feel more appreciated and loved, or it may be time to move on.

When should you stop talking to a guy?

You may want to stop talking to a guy if he is not showing interest in you or if he becomes too clingy, possessive, crass, or violent.

How do you know if he has another woman?

Some signs that your partner may be cheating on you are:
• He spends more time with a colleague or friend than with you.
• He spends a lot of time looking at his phone rather than talking to you.
• He doesn’t want you looking into his phone and gets defensive when you ask him where he has been.
• He suddenly starts changing his appearance and looking better when going out, even when you • are not going out with him.

Key Takeaways

  • A guy may lose interest in you over time, and it will reflect in his behavior through many signs.
  • An obvious sign of losing interest in a relationship is the absence of healthy communication and attention.
  • When your boyfriend loses interest in you, it may be hard for you to discuss your relationship with him, but do it anyway. Better communication might help you two in clearing the air and resolving unintentional gestures.

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