People believe in finding their perfect partner, perfect relationship, and picture-perfect life. But, they tend to forget that nothing in this world is perfect. Yes, you definitely can get close to perfection but never fully achieve it. And when it comes to love, all you can hope for is a healthy relationship.
Trust and honesty are the two main pillars that balance a relationship, followed closely by mutual respect and open communication between the partners. They help the relationship grow and show that you both are trying to get past the surface level of the relationship. Therefore, they help you overcome challenges to make the relationship work.
There are a few key signs that you should look out for (and aspire toward) to build a healthy relationship. Learn all about them below!
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10 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship
There are times in every relationship where one of the people that are involved may start wondering, “Is my relationship a healthy relationship?” Here are some signs you should look out for.
- Trust And Honesty: Trust and honesty build the framework of a healthy relationship. Unless you and your partner can trust each other, entrust your secrets to each other, and be honest about your thoughts, feelings, and opinions, the relationship will not move forward. You are a team, and a team works only when there’s trust between the members, i.e., the two of you. Trusting someone is being able to count on them to always be by your side when you are troubled, sad, anxious, happy, celebrating, and everything in between.
- Mutual Respect: Respect is shown through actions, not words. It is evident in the small acts of support, honesty, and compromise, respecting boundaries, and how you handle disagreements. If they force their opinions on you, snoop through your things or phone, or hound you to behave differently, it shows that they don’t respect you. “Agree to disagree” is a great motto to follow to respect the differences in your opinions.
- Good Communication: Communication is the key to maintaining any relationship. Unless you talk about the things that bother you or make you uncomfortable, your partner won’t understand it. Therefore, talking to them and explaining your perspective to them is essential for them to understand you. Do not hesitate to speak your mind in front of them. After all, they are in the relationship because they support your decisions.
There are two aspects of communication that you need to be mindful of:
- Listening: Communication also involves listening to the other person, not just talking. You need to listen and understand what the other person is saying. Sometimes, your partner may only want you to listen to them quietly instead of offering them solutions.
- Healthy Conflict: A healthy relationship does not mean no arguments. It includes having healthy conflicts that where you both get to voice your opinions, even when you both don’t agree. However, it does not involve raising your voice, getting angry, or physical fights. This also includes reigning in your anger during a conflict and trying to find a solution to the problem together.
- Independence/Individuality: When you are in a relationship, you and your partner are in a team against the rest of the world. This does not mean you forget your individual goals, aspirations, wants, needs, or opinions for the sake of the other. Individual growth and development are a must to prosper in a relationship as well as in the world. It cannot just be either you or your partner thriving in the world while the other is left behind. It is more about supporting each other to grow every day. Here are a couple of things you need to foster:
- Self-Confidence: Your self-confidence builds up when you are surrounded by people that support your growth and progress. Do not settle for any relationship that diminishes your personal growth.
- Spend Time Together: You don’t have to play pretend. When you are accepted as you are, you feel comfortable around your partner. You can be yourself without feeling the need to hide some aspect of yourself or feeling scared of getting judged. This also allows you to love spending time together.
- Equality: A relationship works when both you and your partner treat each other equally. This comes with sharing the chores around the house, deciding things together, and following through with what you planned together without being impulsive. The power dynamic can keep shifting in the relationship, but it should never tilt too much one way or the other.
- Support And Understanding: Individual goals are as important as the shared goals of your relationship. Therefore, you need to offer constant support for everything your partner does, and vice versa. Supporting each other in achieving individual goals also helps you work toward the shared goals you may have.
- Realistic Expectations: One can only live up to another’s expectations for a certain amount of time. After that, there’s only so much you can do to keep that relationship going. Therefore, you and your partner should set realistic expectations for yourselves, each other, and the relationship.
- Taking Responsibility: This entails being responsible for the things you have done and making up for them. Shirking responsibility will not help you, them, or the relationship. This also includes fighting fair – i.e., not using low-blows like the insecurities of the other person or insulting them.
- Healthy Sexual Relationship: You and your partner need to respect each other’s sexual preferences or kinks and create a safe space to explore them. Demeaning what one likes is a bad move and shows that the other person does not value you. Forcing you into something you are not comfortable with also shows that they don’t respect you enough to accept your preferences. Consent is important in everything you do.
- Other Relationships: The people around you affect your relationship. Therefore, fostering all your other relationships in a healthy manner also improves your romantic relationship.
Building a healthy relationship is not as hard as it seems, but it does require a bit of work. Find out what you need to do in the next section.
How To Build A Healthy Relationship
What is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship is where you feel safe, comfortable, respected, and cherished, and even the slightest feeling of discomfort can be communicated openly. This does not mean there are no arguments. Every relationship has its ups and downs – this shows that there is progress in the relationship. Healthy conflict is even encouraged to voice your opinions.
Here’s how you can build a healthy relationship:
- Dealing With Conflicts – Try to stay calm and rational when dealing with a conflict. Avoid the blame game. Instead, try to come up with solutions for the problems you are facing together. Address the problem instead of running away from it. If you can’t seem to come to a solution, take a step back and seek professional help.
- Intimacy – Intimacy does only mean sex. Emotional intimacy is also important in a relationship. The feeling of being close to the other person makes you feel safe and comfortable. Achieving that is the key to a successful relationship.
- Love Language – You need to understand each other’s love language to maintain the relationship. Once you learn their patterns of showing love, you’ll see the effort they put into the relationship more clearly. Moreover, you can reciprocate their acts of love in a way that they love, and vice versa.
- Affection – Affection is shown not only through words but also actions. Making a note of small details (like what makes them happy, which songs they like, the things that make them smile, their favorite dish/drink/ice cream) and surprising them every now and then shows that you pay attention to them.
- Appreciation – Appreciate the things that they do for you, A simple ‘thank you’ for something they cooked or some annoying chore that took care of can go a long way in showing your appreciation and gratitude to them.
- Keep Things Interesting – A routine might make things boring for either one of you. A surprise here, a holiday there, a spontaneous date once in a while, and trying to spice things up in the bedroom can keep the spark alive in your relationship.
There are three C’s that you need to follow to build a healthy relationship. Learn more about it in the next section.
What Are the Three C’s In A Healthy Relationship?
The three C’s that build a healthy relationship are:
- Communication: Communication is essential for the relationship to survive. Talking to each other about things that bother you, listening to them, understanding where they are coming from, and not holding back because you think it’ll damage the relationship are important ways to build communication. If minor problems break a relationship, it was never meant to come as far as it did in the first place. Healthy conflicts and playful teasing are great ways to keep things light and on track when the going gets tough.
- Compromise: Compromise is important to establish a common ground of shared experiences and goals. But, it does not mean getting overshadowed by the presence of the other person. It is more about accepting your differences and respecting the boundaries you have established for yourselves.
- Commitment: Commitment to the relationship involves putting in the effort to make it work. Just one person making an effort for two will doom the relationship. It should be a balance of sharing responsibilities and pushing each other towards individual growth. Prioritizing the relationship is essential for it to thrive.
These tips and signs should tell you what a healthy relationship should look like and help you understand if your relationship is healthy. Such a relationship brings out the best in each of you. A strong, healthy, thriving relationship is one that feels safe even when the going gets tough.
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