How To Know If She’s The One: 15 Clear Signs That Indicate It

If your heart already knows, here are a few signs to confirm your hypothesis.

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We are all looking for that special person who can fill our lives with happiness and fulfillment. But when you meet a girl and fall for her at first sight, you need to know if she really is the one. So how to know if she is the one? Note that the person made for you is someone you share the rest of your life with. Always remember this quote: “I just looked up from my cereal. And I said, ‘You know what I want to do today? I want to marry you.’”- Jim Halpert, The Office. This article explores 15 clear signs to know that she is the one for you. Continue reading.

15 Signs To Know That She Is The One For You

1. You Are Happy

If you are happy and you know it, clap your hands! When you think of her, you smile like a giddy fool. While your friends complain about their relationships, you can’t wait to get back to her. Everything about her just makes you smile – including the annoying things. You always think of spending time with her. This is a key sign that she is your girl. She makes you so happy that you wouldn’t trade your relationship (and those arguments) for anything!

2. She Is Your Person

If you were to commit murder (accidentally, of course!), she would be the one you would call to hide the body. This not only shows a deep emotional connection but also an unusual level of compatibility even if the situation is grim! And you know she will take this secret to her grave. She is the one you call every time you have a problem or a bad day to have a conversation. She is the one you tell everything to.

3. She Loves You For Being You

She knows about your weird quirks and fetishes and still loves you. She doesn’t make you feel bad for who you are. She loves every part of you, including the messy bits – and vice versa. She doesn’t question you about your choices and understands you on a deeper level.

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She’s the first person you want to share your stories with and she also is always excited to hear all your stories.

4. She Supports You

Remember the time you wanted to do something risky but couldn’t believe in yourself? But she believed in you! That’s part of why you love her and is the clearest sign of a strong relationship. She always supports you through thick and thin and is rooted in the relationship with equal commitment. She never ridicules your opinions. Instead, you love to spend quality time with your girl and engage in honest conversation. You can tell her your deepest desires, ambitions, and goals in life, and she will have your back. She might not see eye to eye on everything, but she respects that you have your own voice and opinions.

5. Your Friends And Family Love Her

If your friends and family love her, it is almost a signed deal. They get along with her really well and love her as their own. Her compatibility with your family is also a sign of a happy relationship.

However, sometimes friends and family might not appreciate your relationship– and that is alright. But we would want them, too! So it stands to reason that if we want them to love her and they do, something’s right. Basic compatibility between your girl and your family will positively impact your long-term relationship.

6. She Is Always There For You

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Remember the time you fell sick and acted like a baby? This lovable woman was there taking care of you and waiting on you hand and foot while you were having a tough time! She’s always there for you through the good, bad, and ugly and has constantly shown her loyalty towards you. These are all acts of connection and subtle yet important signs of a meaningful relationship and a beautiful love life.

7. You Both Learn From Your Fights

When you argue, rather than taking jabs to hurt each other, you both really discuss the issue to resolve it. That is a relationship worth holding on to forever. Proper communication is the gateway to a healthy relationship. Your girl does not resort to giving silent treatment, and your fights become learning experiences instead of a battleground.

8. You Imagine A Future With Her

Close your eyes and think about your future with your woman. Can you imagine her as your life partner, standing by you during the many challenges in life? Is she there with you when you get that dream job and buy that lake view house? If you’re already planning your future with her in mind, you already know that she is the one for you, and you are ready for a long-term commitment.

9. She Is Your Lobster

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There is no one else who makes you feel loved the way she does. She is always looking out for you and makes sure she stays by your side during your good and bad times. She angers you, pushes you to be better, drives you crazy, and supports you. You can look at a million other people, but none of them give you that spark or connection she does. There isn’t another ‘her’ for you.

10. She Makes You A Better Person

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If you want to be a better person because of her, you know you are hooked. You have moved past the initial stage of dating and are interested in pursuing a committed relationship. She makes you want to load the dishwasher the right way. She makes you want to do better in everything – because she believes you can and you don’t want to let her down. So you push yourself and make yourself better for your woman. This is a subtle sign that you want to move up from a casual relationship to an advanced level.

11. Saying Sorry Isn’t Hard

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After a long fight, neither of you have a problem with saying sorry. The age-old question about who must apologize first is never a concern in your relationship. You both know that fights and disagreements are all part of a long-term relationship. And if you want it to work, you will have to apologize. Admitting defeat and saying sorry isn’t a problem because you know that the endgame is being together with your girl and not about who is right or wrong.

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A loving partner always recognizes, respects, and supports your choices irrespective of whatever differences you may have. They always make up and come to a compromise after every argument.

12. You Would Do Anything For Her

Don’t tell me it’s not worth fightin’ for
I can’t help it, there’s nothin’ I want more
You know it’s true
Everything I do I do it for you

Bryan Adams has it right! There is nothing you wouldn’t do for your girlfriend because she would do the same for you. You both know how important your relationship is to each other. And you both will cross the seven seas and battle mythical gods to fight for it! This is one of the biggest signs of a solid relationship. There isn’t much you wouldn’t do for each other because you both are forever.

13. Putting Each Other First

Despite what you want, you always put her needs first, and she does the same for you, every time. A compromise doesn’t feel like you are giving up on something – you instead feel you are making your girl happy, and that feeling of devotion makes you happy too. Putting her needs first doesn’t seem like you are sacrificing anything – and you know she feels the same about you.

14. You Both Are Vulnerable

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You both share your deepest feelings, darkest secrets, and innermost fantasies with each other. This is a huge sign of a solid emotional connection. You know there is no judgment with her. You are unabashedly yourself with her. You tell her that secret family history because she will be there for you. You open up to her with your sexual desires. No matter what, you can be open and vulnerable with her physically, emotionally, and mentally.

15. You Are Already Thinking Of A Lifetime

If you are already planning trips with her and going on other adventures, it means you are comfortable spending time with her and want to build experiences that last a lifetime. It means you already know that this beautiful woman is the one for you.

Is She The One?

Books, movies, and songs will all have you believe that all we need in our lives is that one person – someone made specifically for us by the mystical gods above. But, in reality, the person who is made for you is someone you want to be with.

There may never be that soulmate made for you, but you will find a girl who moves you in all the right ways. You will fall in love with an attractive girl and want to make it work with her, even through marriage. If she understands you, fights for you, loves you, protects you, and respects you, she clearly is the right one for you. She sure may annoy you at times, but she is the woman you love – and you want to spend the rest of your life with her.

Sometimes, you fall head over heels in love and miss out on the warning cues. Check below for signs that tell you she’s not for you.

How To Know She Is Not The One

These signs let you know if you are blanketed by your partner’s red flags and need to take a step back.

1. She always wants you to herself

If wanting to be with you results in isolation from loved ones, it may indicate narcissistic behavior.

2. She wants everything the same as you

This is known as mirroring, whereby the partner mimics your likes and dislikes to portray a false image of being your ultimate soulmate.

3. She wants you as a different person

If you have to be a version of yourself that is not true to you while with her, there is a problem. A relationship in which you cannot be yourself means that you are not meant for each other.

Caleb, a vlogger, shares his love story and how he knew she was the right one. He mentions, “Everything in me wanted to believe that what I was feeling was in fact true, so in this moment, I gathered myself, got quiet, got into my heart space, took a deep breath, and I asked the question, and as soon as I asked the question, I knew in the deepest parts of my being that there is nobody who can love her better than me (i).”

Infographic: What To Do When She Is The One

Finding love may not be easy. But one thing is for sure – everyone deserves love. So, you will definitely find the ‘one.’ And when you do, remember always to treasure them.

To help you get started, we want you to check our infographic below and know what to do when you find the love of your life. So, go on!

what to do when she's the one (infographic)

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If you are wondering if your current girlfriend is the one, odds are you have already made up your mind and are hoping this partnership to be true. You have most likely considered getting down on one knee and popping the question and have decided to spend the rest of your life with them. That is one of the common signs: being able to imagine a future with her. If she is someone who supports you, has compatibility with you, and makes you feel happy, seen, and heard through open communication, the chances are that you have met the one for you. Trust your intuition, the connection you have with her, and the above-mentioned signs that she is the one; there is no need to second-guess yourself.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take to know if she is the one?

Anecdotal evidence suggests that it takes around six months or 172 days of dating someone before deciding if they are a good match for commitment.

How important is physical chemistry when deciding if she’s the one?

Physical attraction is important for creating a strong bond between partners. A compatible sex life adds excitement and intensity to a relationship. If you don’t feel any physical connection or attraction towards your partner, over time, you may seem less interested in them, and the relationship may fizzle out.

What are the red flags to watch out for when trying to determine if she’s the one?

Some red flags to make sure you are not fostering a toxic relationship are –
• Is she willing to compromise on anything?
• Is she too possessive and does not respect your personal space?
• Does she ever accept her mistakes or rather put the blame on you?

How can you tell if your partner truly understands and supports your goals and aspirations?

Look for some positive signs like they celebrate even the smallest of your accomplishments, they offer good advice, and help you relax in stressful situations.

How can you determine if your communication styles are compatible and conducive to a healthy relationship?

If your communication styles are compatible you will notice various positive signs like, there is direct communication and no passive-aggressive behavior, a willingness to work on conflicts instead of playing the blame game, and no form of abusive language or aggressive behavior during serious conversations.

Key Takeaways

  • If you are wondering if she is the one, you are probably already serious about her.
  • Everything about her makes you smile, and she supports you through every endeavor.
  • She is the one you tell everything to, and you can imagine a future with her.
  • She loves every part of you, even your flaws.


Feeling like you can be yourself, trusting each other, and having a strong connection indicate that you have found the one. Watch this video to learn more!

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Joy Nwokoro is a Christian relationship and marriage speaker, counselor, and coach. Although she studied English and Literature at the Abia State University in Nigeria, she was called over a decade ago to help singles and married people build and nurture healthy relationships and marriages that will make them feel fulfilled and satisfied. With 10 years of experience, she has...read full bio

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