406 “This Or That” Questions

Fill your day with fun & laughter and get to know your bestie better with these questions.

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The This Or That Questions are the best way to go about it if you seek the perfect game to play with your buddies and have an amazing time. The options or questions prompt participants to pick one from two given choices. The topics are frequently amusing, but they can also be challenging.

After playing this decision-making game with your pals, you will be shocked at how much more there is to learn about them! The best thing about this game is that it doesn’t have to be enjoyed as a game all of the time. You can also utilize it to discover more about someone’s preferences. You may also use it as a basic game to keep everyone amused at your next party.

In any case, the participants will have a better understanding of their peers and will show fewer signs of weariness. Scroll down for some fun and interesting ’this or that’ questions!

How To Play The This Or That Game

There are many ways to play the This Or That game. It is better if it is played one-on-one or in a small group where you can note down the answers and concentrate on the other players’ responses.

One way to play this game is to give two choices or alternatives to the player and guess their answer. If you guess the answer right, you get a point. Prepare a selection of questions (or use the ones listed below), write them down on a sheet of paper, and let the player mark their choices with a marker. The other players can then guess the choices marked by the player. Here are a few ways to make the game more interesting:

1. Take Turns

Some people prefer taking turns and asking questions, where one person answers just one question and the rest of the people guess the answer. It keeps the players active and attentive throughout the game.

2. Multiple Choice

To keep the game exciting, each player can be given a set of questions until the majority of players guesses their choices right. Multiple choices will reduce the chances of dilemmas. The limit of questions can range from 5-10.

3. Similarity Check

The best way to play it is with your date or your best friend. You can prepare a set of questions and mark your choices. You can then check how many questions you both answered similarly.

Rules Of Playing The This Or That Game

There are no hard and fast rules for playing this game. The main objective is to have a fun time getting to know your friends or date. To make the game interesting, you can list out all the This Or That questions in two columns – A and B. All the players can write A or B next to the corresponding question number.

After they are done noting down their guesses, the other people playing the game have to take a poll on the answers that the player picked. If you choose the correct answer marked by the player, you earn a point. There can be a scorekeeper to keep things fair and hassle-free.

Here is a list of 403 This Or That questions to get you started.

This Or That Questions For Couples

This or that questions for couples
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The best way to discover things about your better half would be to help them open up to you in unique ways. Playing the This Or That game with them will help you find out about their preferences and understand them better without asking them anything directly. These are the best this or that questions for couples, be it new or old.

  1. Cheek kisses or forehead kisses?
  2. Cuddling or sleeping?
  3. Eating outside or cooking at home?
  4. Netflix or YouTube?
  5. Calls or texts?
  6. Shower or tub?
  7. Nice car or nice home interiors?
  8. Cardio or weights?
  9. Mobile games or console games?
  10. Ocean or mountains?
  11. Telepathy or teleporting?
  12. Cruise or romantic retreat?
  13. Classical art or modern art?
  14. Audi or BMW?
  15. Mansion or cabin?
  16. Large crowd or a small party?
  17. Winter or summer?
  18. Farmhouse kitchen or galley style?
  19. Card games or board games?
  20. Beer or wine?
  21. Makeup or no makeup?
  22. Long drive or long walk?
  23. Camping or binge-watching shows at home?
  24. Swimming or sunbathing?
  25. Coffee or tea?
  26. Dogs or babies?
  27. Comedy or horror?
  28. Music or podcasts?
  29. Straight hair or curly hair?
  30. Passive or aggressive?
  31. New clothes or new phone?
  32. Computer games or video games?
  33. Gold or silver?
  34. Rap or rock?
  35. Hairy or shaved?
  36. Long hair or short hair?
  37. TV shows or movies?
  38. Living room or bedroom?
  39. Good heart or good body?
  40. Dyed hair or natural hair?
  41. Brown hair or black hair?
  42. Sweater or hoodie?
  43. Serious or funny?
  44. Hot or pretty?
  45. Online shopping or store shopping?
  46. Candy or popcorn?
  47. Skylight or mirrored wall?
  48. Hugs or kisses?
  49. Boating or roller coaster?
  50. Dine out or food delivery?
  51. Pop or indie?
  52. Formal dining room or family banquet?
  53. Sunrise jog or evening run?
  54. Invisibility or mind-reading?
  55. Chocolate or caramel?
  56. Dirty underwear or no underwear?
  57. Always late or always early?
  58. Spend $5000 or save $5000?
  59. No Facebook or no books for a year?
  60. Simple skincare routine or 7+ step skincare routine?
  61. Bar or club?
  62. Clingy or jealous?
  63. Forget your partner’s birthday or your anniversary?
  64. A fun date or an expensive gift?
  65. Elope or have 500 guests at your wedding?
  66. Kissing in the rain or kissing in front of a crowd?
  67. Fall or fart in public?
  68. A leader or a follower?
  69. World peace or unlimited wealth?
  70. Travel to the future or the past?
  71. Planned date or spontaneous?
  72. Horse riding or car racing?
  73. Horror or mystery thrillers?
  74. School or work?
  75. Swim with dolphins or whale watching?
  76. Cook dinner as a surprise or cook together?
  77. Be 25 or 45 for the rest of your life?
  78. Rich and cocky or broke and sweet?
  79. Early in the relationship or long-term love?
  80. Lust or love?
  81. Tango or hip-hop?
  82. E-book or physical book?
  83. Dump or be dumped?
  84. Attractive or intelligent?
  85. Bad relationship or alone for the rest of your life?
  86. Never say ‘I love you’ or give you hugs?
  87. Double date or a cozy date at home?
  88. Live with your partner’s parents or siblings?
  89. Small town or big city?
  90. Lost in a jungle or trapped in a haunted house?
  91. Penthouse suite or beachfront?
  92. A couple’s spa or a massage?
  93. Matching tattoos or piercings?
  94. Cheese popcorn or caramel popcorn?
  95. Safari in Africa or a romantic getaway in France?
  96. Electric light or natural light?
  97. Love note or a sexy text?
  98. Too much sleep or little sleep?
  99. Lake or ocean?
  100. Dress down or dress up?
  101. Cake or ice cream?
  102. Board games or video games?
  103. Split the check or one person pays?

Hard This Or That Questions

Difficult this or that questions
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You can spice the game up by making the game full of tricky questions. Asking cringy questions while you are playing in a group will make the game even more interesting!

  1. End war or end poverty?
  2. Mom or dad?
  3. Your pet or neighbor’s child?
  4. Quick temper or controlled temper?
  5. Apartment or home?
  6. Girlfriend or family?
  7. Neutral colors or bold colors?
  8. Houseboat or yacht?
  9. Charger or power bank?
  10. Plants or flowers?
  11. Facts or fiction?
  12. Liquid soap or bar soap?
  13. Global warming or natural disaster?
  14. Higher studies or work?
  15. Strategy games or bingo?
  16. Performing arts or science?
  17. Rain or sunshine?
  18. New year’s eve or Valentine’s day?
  19. Instant death or prolonged death?
  20. Supervisor or hourly employee?
  21. Live in a cold area or a hot area?
  22. Government work or private sector?
  23. Thunderstorm or snowstorm?
  24. Doctor or engineer?
  25. Wax or shave?
  26. Perfume or body spray?
  27. Boss or worker?
  28. Self-employed or a company man?
  29. Google or Bing?
  30. Live in the past or present?
  31. Author or editor?
  32. Bare feet or shoes?
  33. Underwater or up in the air?
  34. Aerobics or yoga?
  35. Classic or modern?
  36. Books or magazines?
  37. Divorce or staying in a bad marriage?
  38. Student or teacher?
  39. Town or country?
  40. Doctor or patient?
  41. Trash or treasure?
  42. Fast or slow?
  43. Introvert or extrovert?
  44. Trees or flowers?
  45. Paper bags or plastic bags?
  46. Cry or scream?
  47. Alcohol or weed?
  48. Formals or casuals?
  49. Office work or outside work?
  50. Work from home or commute to work?
  51. Painfully full or starving?
  52. Be failures together or successful apart?
  53. Best friends with your boss or enemy?
  54. Be in a rock or jazz band?
  55. Time machine or a teleporter?
  56. Ability to fly or superhuman strength?
  57. Imagination or memory?
  58. Pennywise or Freddy Krueger?
  59. Food truck or restaurant?
  60. Bad hearing or eyesight?
  61. Go without shampoo or toothpaste?
  62. Live without air conditioning or deodorant?
  63. Chocolate or cheese?
  64. Four-day work week or five-day work week?
  65. Snakes or spiders?
  66. Damaged plane or slow boat?
  67. Stronger or smarter?
  68. Understand any language or speak to animals?
  69. Moulin Rouge or Disneyland Paris?
  70. No crime or no privacy?
  71. No disease or no income equality?
  72. Get rid of one bad habit or gain a good habit?
  73. Live in the Middle Ages or the future?
  74. Lost in a forest or stranded on a deserted island?
  75. $1000 cash or $10,000 credit limit?
  76. Fear of space or fear of depth?
  77. No thumbs or no fingers?
  78. Backstreet Boys or NSYNC?
  79. Michelin-star restaurant or classic dinner?
  80. France or Greece?
  81. Wall clock or table clock?
  82. Tropical or Arctic?
  83. Pictionary or charades?
  84. Hot or cold?
  85. Get the good news first or the bad news first?
  86. Never age physically or never age mentally?
  87. Successful entrepreneur or successful team player?
  88. Free lunch or paid time off?
  89. Electric stove or gas stove?
  90. Give up cursing forever or give up drinking wine for 10 years?
  91. Underdog or favorite?
  92. Eat Thanksgiving food every day or never again?
  93. Adult mind in a child body or a child mind in an adult body?
  94. Sing or play a musical instrument?
  95. The Colosseum or Taj Mahal?
  96. Own a house or travel the world?
  97. Traditional school or homeschooling?
  98. Hourly wage or monthly salary?
  99. Christmas or Easter?
  100. Give up sugar for life or give up salt for life?
  101. Road trips or train rides?

Deep This Or That Questions

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Let these questions bring out your deepest thoughts and help get rid of uncertainty in a relationship. They will help you get to know the other person better than you ever did.

  1. Compassion or justice?
  2. Museum or amusement park?
  3. Intelligent or funny?
  4. Freedom or hope?
  5. Success or happiness?
  6. Money or free time?
  7. Hunting or saving?
  8. Handmade gifts or expensive gifts?
  9. Trip or staycation?
  10. Rom-coms or documentaries?
  11. Modern or rustic?
  12. Family or friends?
  13. Comfort or style?
  14. Working alone or working in a team?
  15. Pop music or rock music?
  16. Sinful or righteous?
  17. Art festivals or music festivals?
  18. Hurt or dead?
  19. Forest or beach?
  20. Cable or satellite?
  21. Family movies or adult movies?
  22. Architectural sites or shopping?
  23. Truth or lies?
  24. Paintings or photos?
  25. Strange or crazy?
  26. Concerts or movies?
  27. Morning person or night owl?
  28. Motorcycle or bicycle?
  29. Leather or fabric?
  30. Glasses or contacts?
  31. Email or letter?
  32. Piercings or tattoos?
  33. Reading books or watching videos?
  34. Work hard or play hard?
  35. Train or plane?
  36. Money or fame?
  37. Smoking or drinking?
  38. Abs or chest?
  39. Smile or eyes?
  40. Cycle or walks?
  41. Dancer or singer?
  42. Chandelier or lamps?
  43. Save or spend?
  44. Own country or abroad?
  45. Evil or good?
  46. Antique or new?
  47. Formal or casual?
  48. Twins or single kids?
  49. Morning shower or evening shower?
  50. Sunglasses or sun visor?
  51. Beach or hills?
  52. Lose all of your money or lose all the memories you’ve gained this year?
  53. Be good at one thing or be subpar at everything?
  54. Dreamer or realist?
  55. Passion or money?
  56. Security or adventure?
  57. Cozy fireplaces or comfy sofas?
  58. Free healthcare or free education?
  59. Carpet or wood floors?
  60. Intellectual or athletic?
  61. Phone call or postcard?
  62. Social or loner?
  63. Clever or driven?
  64. CEO or a founder?
  65. Spy or a supermodel?
  66. Sense danger or sense safety?
  67. Be multilingual or have a translator?
  68. Adopt children or have children?
  69. Travel in a sailboat or RV?
  70. Work from home or travel the world for work?
  71. Unlimited first-class flight tickets or free meals at any restaurants?
  72. Baking or cooking?
  73. One hour in a freezer or two hours in a sauna?
  74. Movie star or a rock star?
  75. Write a book or a TV show?
  76. Live alone or live with a person you don’t like?
  77. Earn a lot of money or win a lottery?
  78. Be evil and powerful or good and weak?
  79. Old books or new books?
  80. Change the past or the future?
  81. A group of friends or one best friend?
  82. Overdressed or underdressed?
  83. Infamous in history books or forgotten after death?
  84. Remember everything since birth or forget everything?
  85. Live in the wilderness or in jail for the rest of your life?
  86. Exciting but dangerous life or a boring and meaningful one?
  87. Center of attention or go unnoticed?
  88. A week with someone you admire or someone you enjoy?
  89. Drop out of school or go to school every day?
  90. Animal or robot?
  91. Life on the run or life in prison?
  92. Happy fool or troubled genius?
  93. Heal physical scars or emotional scars?
  94. Intelligence or kindness?
  95. Quality time or thoughtful gifts?
  96. Destiny or fate?
  97. Reckless or cautious?
  98. Words of affirmation or acts of service?
  99. Die in 10 years or immortality?
  100. Future savings or travel fund?
  101. Love or respect?
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Funny This Or That Questions For Friends

Funny this or that questions
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These set of questions will make you giggle at the replies and make the atmosphere light and filled with laughter. A hint of ambiguity in a question makes it all the more fun.

  1. Skates or bike?
  2. Watch sports or play sports?
  3. Yoga pants or jeans?
  4. Flip-flops or sneakers?
  5. Marvel or DC?
  6. Bubble bath or shower?
  7. Costume party or pool party?
  8. Lost or found?
  9. Facebook or Twitter?
  10. Carnivore or herbivore?
  11. Cold or flu?
  12. Horror stories or mysteries?
  13. Puzzles or board games?
  14. Bikini or one-piece?
  15. Vampires or angels?
  16. Slow travel or fast travel?
  17. Carnival or circus?
  18. Travel agent or book yourself?
  19. Camping or safari?
  20. Pumping iron or pumping gas?
  21. Baseball or football?
  22. Fishing or kayaking?
  23. Skydiving or bungee jumping?
  24. Harley Davidson or Crotch Rocket?
  25. Theme park or water park?
  26. Bowling or mini-golf?
  27. Bad breath or body odor?
  28. Spa or gym?
  29. Simpsons or Family Guy?
  30. Ghost tour or historical tour?
  31. Running or swimming?
  32. Have dial-up internet or a flip phone?
  33. Dancing or cooking classes?
  34. Hiking or monster truck rally?
  35. Drunk or sober?
  36. Chilly or lemon?
  37. Florals or stripes?
  38. Personal chef or gym trainer?
  39. Indoor or outdoor?
  40. Good looks or good sense of humor?
  41. Sunrise or sunset?
  42. Keeping Up With The Kardashians or Big Brother?
  43. Hot or cute?
  44. Beard or clean-shaved?
  45. Big ears or big feet?
  46. Boxers or briefs?
  47. Eating dirt or eating bad food?
  48. Holding in a fart or holding in pee?
  49. Home garden or farmers market?
  50. Sports or video games?
  51. Eat pizza with a fork or eat sushi with your hands?
  52. Harry Potter or The Chronicles of Nania?
  53. Concert or play?
  54. President of a country or a billionaire?
  55. Wear a clown wig or a clown nose every day?
  56. Ariana Grande or Taylor Swift?
  57. Clean-freak or messy?
  58. Ninjas or pirates?
  59. Thin-crust pizza or stuffed crust pizza?
  60. A permanent unibrow or no eyebrows at all?
  61. Chicken nuggets or fingers?
  62. Giphy or memes?
  63. Madonna or Cher?
  64. Live forever or wake up every day with a new power?
  65. 80s or ’90s?
  66. Eat a bug or kiss a frog?
  67. Sand or snow?
  68. Sneakers or loafers?
  69. Friends or How I Met Your Mother?
  70. Talk like Yoda or breathe like Darth Vader?
  71. A pet dinosaur or a pet robot?
  72. Elf ears or Santa beard?
  73. Meet Rudolf or Jack Frost?
  74. Gingerbread or candy cane?
  75. Zombie apocalypse or The Purge?
  76. Santa’s sleigh or the Polar Express?
  77. Haunted house or escape room?
  78. Drink hot sauce or eat raw onions?
  79. Always wear a cape or always wear a tutu?
  80. Afraid of the dark or sunlight?
  81. Born as a sea or an airborne creature?
  82. Meet the Grinch or be the Grinch?
  83. Lose all your hair or your teeth?
  84. Wizard or Jedi?
  85. Silly, patterned socks or rude-caption t-shirts?
  86. Caramel coffee or pumpkin spiced latte?
  87. Hangman or Rock, Paper, Scissors?
  88. Almonds or peanuts?
  89. Manga or Anime?
  90. Eggs or bacon?
  91. Paulo Coelho or Haruki Murakami?
  92. Girl, Interrupted or Gone Girl?
  93. Pringles or Lays?
  94. Ancient Greece or Rome?
  95. Nutella or Hershey’s?
  96. Metal flasks or plastic bottles?
  97. Corsets or belts?
  98. Vietnamese coffee or latte?
  99. Mochi or ice cream?
  100. Vodka and tequila?
  101. Maroon 5 or BTS?

Infographic: This-That Questions: Topics To Avoid

It’s all fun and games until someone gets offended, and the ambiance turns sour. While we cannot assume which questions in a “This Or That” game may trigger someone, some topics are problematic from the get-go. While at a party, etiquette demands you be considerate of other people and their judgments. Check out the infographic below on topics you best avoid while playing “This Or That” question games.

this that questions topics to avoid (infographic)

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This was our list of the best This or That questions. This game is an excellent way to know your folks better while having fun at the same time. It is perfect for game nights, sleepovers, get-togethers, etc. This game lightens the mood and brings joy and laughter to the gathering. However, always make sure that you are not offending anyone in the process. And do not hesitate to let your people know if you feel offended. Say it out politely. Go ahead and have a blast!

Frequently Asked Questions

How can “this or that” questions be used to get to know someone better?

“This or that” questions are great icebreakers for people who have just met and want to get to know each other better. Start out with basic questions about their food preferences or pastimes, then move on to deeper questions about their life, childhood, previous relationships, career, etc.

What are some juicy “this or that” questions?

Make your “this or that” questions juicy or spicy by getting out of your (and your partner’s) comfort zone a little. Ask your partner about their previous relationship experiences or embarrassing situations.

How can ‘this or that’ questions help us learn more about ourselves and our preferences?

The ‘this or that’ questions often expose us to new ideas and perspectives and make us question ourselves and our preferences. The game helps improve self-awareness and develop our self-consciousness, allowing us to know our authentic selves and interact with others with a growth mindset.

What are some strategies for answering ‘this or that’ questions when we are unsure or undecided?

Weighing the pros and cons of each option can help you make a faster and more informed decision. Accessing which option has more benefits will help you choose one option quickly. You can also answer the ‘this or that’ questions based on what matters most and aligns with your values when you are unsure.

What are some potential drawbacks or limitations of relying too much on ‘this or that’ questions in our interactions and relationships?

While ‘this or that’ questions are a fun way to start a conversation, they must not be relied on as the sole means of getting to know someone. To know someone deeply, one must engage in deeper and more meaningful conversations that explore one’s values, beliefs, and experiences. While they can be a good icebreaker, they may not reflect a person’s personality or character. These questions can be limiting and may not capture the complexity of a person’s thoughts or feelings. Hence, one must not rely too much on ‘this or that’ questions in their interactions and relationships if they want to establish a genuine connection with someone.


There are some tough choices to be made in This Or That! Test your decision-making skills with this free online quiz video. Can you handle the pressure?

Key Takeaways

  • The ‘This or That’ questions game is not just entertaining but also a great way to learn more about your friends’ preferences, personalities, and tastes.
  • There are no strict rules for playing this game – just ask the questions and be prepared to be surprised!
  • Play the game and create some unadulterated moments of joy with your friends.
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Ankhee Gupta
Ankhee GuptaPsychotherapist & Counselor
Ankhee Gupta is a psychological counselor, a certified stress management expert, and a certified CBT practitioner. She was also named the best psychological counselor of Kolkata. She has over eight years of experience and deals with stress, depression, anxiety, child counseling, geriatric counseling, and marital counseling.

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