What Is Twin Flame Separation And How Do You Cope With It?

Discover why twin flames may go their own way and what you can do to move on.

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The twin flame separation can be an intensely painful emotional experience. Todd Savvas, a modern spirituality and mysticism expert, said, “A twin flame is your own soul, shared across what appears to be two physical beings. It’s one soul split into two bodies.” He implies that twin flames share an intense emotional connection and an intertwined karmic relationship that is unique and profound. In other words, a twin flame contract is a very rare soul contract. Terms like ‘mirror soul’ or ‘other half’ also refer to this connection. But every relationship has its fair share of conflicts and vulnerabilities that can affect even a strong spiritual connection. They, too, are bound to undergo the trials and tribulations of life. But this kind of separation is not easy because a twin flame is a part of one’s soul. Therefore, it causes great sorrow and a situation that can take days or even years to get over. That’s why we have created a guide on this separation to help you deal with it in a healthy manner. Swipe up for details.

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The origin of twin flames can be found in Greek mythology. It is believed that in the beginning, humans were androgynous. Their strength frightened the King of Gods, Zeus and he asked Apollo to divide them into two halves—-the same soul in two different bodies.

What Is A Twin Flame?

A twin flame refers to one single soul being divided in two different bodies, implying that they are the halves of a whole. There is a deep and profound connection between these two souls. They are meant to be separated and reunited for their growth and development.

The relationship between twin flames is intense and transformative. They feel an undeniable, instant connection to each other like they have known each other forever. It is important to note that each person is a “whole” and that their twin flame helps them grow and heal together rather than complete one another.

When you separate from your twin flame, what does it feel like? Find out in the next section.

What Is The Separation Of Twin Flames Like?

The separation of twin flames is that stage where the mates face a life-shattering experience. In this stage, all the negative energies begin to take a toll on both the parties in the relationship, and the intensity of arguments as well as disagreements over even trivial matters is on the rise. The clashing of egos, rubbing against old and unresolved wounds, traumatic experiences and insecurities, are some of the most common things that flash a chuckling face.

This blogger, discussing the separation from their twin flame, expresses, “With no contact from her in the months since, and knowing that she had chosen to be with someone else rather than me started to get to me. My ego started to really act up, and even though the months prior had seen me unpeel many layers off my defense mechanism, the radio silence hit me bad, and my ego made a return with full force (i).”

But what causes this separation? Let us find out below:

Reasons Behind Separation Of Twin Flames

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The twin flame cycle of separation may originate from a multitude of reasons. So let us understand these reasons:

Not Braced Well: In a twin flame relationship, one is often the “runner” and the other the “chaser”. And as the name suggests, the chaser tends to pursue the relationship. In contrast, the runner, usually with a lot of baggage, tends to run away, unable to handle the overwhelming experience of being approached by the mirror soul. Being split from one soul, both parties are often alike, which leads to immense self-reflection and self-discovery. And this reflection at times scares them, making them feel inadequate for the moment to be in the relationship. They also realize that this relationship is “The One” and requires wholesome commitment and unconditional love and affection, unlike past relationships. Consequently, they do not feel ready to land their feet in such a divine relationship.

Lack Of Emotional And Spiritual Maturity: When sometimes the runner remains stagnant while the chaser grows leaps and bounds, a fall out between them is beyond barricading. When the runner fails to attain both emotional and spiritual maturity just like its twin flame, the relationship tends to see an end eventually owing to the mess in the alignment among both parties.

Meeting Before Time: Sometimes, the twin flames meet way before the perfect time. Consequently, both the flames fail to contribute to the growth of the relationship, unable to cope with the wrong timing. Perhaps they require some more time to make themselves strong and mature so they can learn better the tactics of handling a relationship so priceless as this one. At this point, separation becomes a most sought-after goal. Just hold on to this belief that the divine timing is working for you no matter what.

Absence Of Self Love: Before offering love to someone else, we must love ourselves. And with the idea of “love thyself” trending everywhere today, it is also evident that there is definitely a lack in it, and a lot of work is yet to be done to accept ourselves fully. We cannot just settle with the idea that our twin flame is meant to be with us and do no self-reflection and self-improvement when needed. So, as this relationship demands equal growth and maturity, we must first learn to love ourselves, work together on our flaws and improve ourselves. Else codependency, covetousness, and conditions taint this pure form of relationship.

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Twin Flame Separation Signs Or Symptoms

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A significant process in the twin flame journey, this separation will reveal unmistakable signs that you must find relatable. Let us show you what these signs look like:

Contact ceases: When the connection between the two partners meets its dead end, the indication of separation is as clear as a crystal. From spiritual to emotional and physical, this ceasing of contact can be of all forms. Yes, even that blocking each other on social media and chat platforms that is a widely accepted way to hint at separation. This is a form of silent treatment and your twin flame may be obsessed with giving you, and it can obviously be frustrating. But this twin flame silence and separation are also how your partner chooses to do some much-required contemplation.

Setting In Of The Separation Blues:

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So, when it’s evident that your better half has shut you off, well….you feel like the world itself has ended for you. For you, grieving knocks at the door, and you welcome it with all of your arms because, at this point, grief poses to be your only friend. Unable to see the bright light of the sun, you feel like the monotony has crept into you big time and nothing ever seems fair.

Need To Withstand Rejection: Another primary symptom that is also a part of the separation blues is your constant need to get over the rejection. Well, yeah, nobody likes rejection and hence the obsession over wanting to overcome this rejection. But it is also worth mentioning that your other half is also striving hard to sink this rejection in. The rejection of your energies, the bond, and everything in between is all that your mirror soul is trying to process while putting a full stop to the relationship of giving it a temporary hiatus.

Dreaming Of Them: As time goes by and you somewhat reconcile with the rejection, you begin to feel their energies. Chances are, you might connect with them, speak to them through your dreams. So when you say, “I felt her in my sleep,” we believe you.

The Syncs: A very spiritual aspect, synchronicities are something you cannot NOT buy at times. You might feel it strange, but often enough, you will stumble upon words, songs, or even numbers that will ring a bell for you in mind. You will begin to identify some hidden meanings to these experiences, as though they carry messages from your twin flame exclusively written for you. These synchronicities will find a prominent place in your lives, screaming those signs that indicate hope for a future reunion with your partner or necessary awakenings.

How Long Does Twin Flame Separation Last?

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If you’re still wondering how long you have to wait, well, let me tell you: Don’t wait. Waiting only gives you stress. And when you invest all of your energy into waiting for the separation to end, you will only delay the process as time will seem to flow by at a significantly slower pace.

Plus, the separation phase also depends on you both, to begin with. When the twin flames identify their issues and start working on them together, the dead-end for the separation will not be far. Once you both begin to mature perfectly and help each other become the best versions for yourselves, then what does separation ever mean? It’s clearly your will to commit, to put in a considerable amount of effort and understanding that can bring you both back together.

And if you are separated physically because maybe you both live on different continents, then the answer is simple: if you find a middle ground where you both can reside together, then who can possibly say that a twin flame reunion after separation is just a dream?

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For some, the separation may last for years before the reunion. For others, it may be brief and necessary to integrate the lessons and growth triggered by the initial union. In some cases, however, a twin flame separation may last a lifetime.

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How To Deal With Twin Flame Separation

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This separation can be unquestionably tricky, but when you throw light on it from a positive angle, you’ll know that it also gives ample opportunities to improve yourselves. To deal and cope better with this separation, let us find out what we have in store for us to do:

  • You will get an opportunity to work on yourself after separation. Grab it. Once you improve yourself, your thoughts, and actions and attain emotional and spiritual improvement, you will attract positive energies and witness twin flame separation ending signs.
  • Bring back to life your long-lost hobbies and make them your constructive mechanisms for coping with your loss. This will lift your mood instantly, and you shall heal gradually.
  • Stay open to communication, no matter whether you are the runner or the chaser. You might not be ready to reconnect with your twin flame, but keep the lines of communication so you can reunite soon.

Infographic: 5 Symptoms Of Twin Flame Separation

You should know that twin flame separations are not like regular breakups. Generally, people overcome breakups and heartbreak from long, deep relationships. However, a breakup-like situation with a possible twin flame would feel much different. The relationship might not even have lasted that long, but the pain of separation it causes is still unbearable and terrifying. For your reference, we have summarized the 5 symptoms of a twin flame separation in the infographic below. Take a look.

5 symptoms of twin flame separation (infographic)

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The above discussion suggests that the pain of twin flame separation is truly unbearable. But with the considerable amount of effort put in by the two flames, you can end this separation without a doubt. The best way to handle this separation is to face it head-on and be willing to heal yourself until you get back together with your other twin flame. The points mentioned above will help you understand the reason behind your separation and eradicate the flaws in the relationship accordingly. Trust us – a twin flame meeting after separation is not a myth. The main thing you need to understand is that you are not fighting against your soulmate; you are fighting against your fears. By going through all the stages of separation and crisis, you can improve your healing and build a new and beautiful relationship

Frequently Asked Questions

Why do twin flames go silent?

Twin flames may go silent if they aren’t ready to embrace the relationship. They may even want to put things on hold while they go on their separate journey or take it slow.

Does your twin flame have to be romantic?

No. Your twin flame doesn’t always have to be a romantic partner. They could also be platonic soulmates that trigger a change in your life.

Can twin flames forget each other?

It is unlikely for twin flames to forget each other, as their connection is deeply ingrained in their souls. However, they may choose to distance themselves emotionally and mentally to cope with the separation.

Can twin flames be separated permanently?

Yes, twin flames can experience permanent separation. It may happen if one or both partners choose to move on or if external circumstances make it impossible to reunite.

Do twin flames come back after separation?

After a breakup, twin flames might reunite, but it’s not always likely or in a romantic way. Reunion is dependent upon both parties’ personal growth and readiness.

Why do twin flames meet after marriage?

Twin flames may meet after marriage because their connection is not bound by time or societal norms.

Why do twin flames reject each other?

Twin flames may reject each other because they fear the intensity of the connection or have unresolved emotional issues that prevent them from fully embracing the relationship.

How can one differentiate between a true twin flame separation and a temporary break in the relationship?

A true twin flame separation is characterized by a lack of connection and a feeling of incompleteness without the other person. A temporary break in the relationship may involve less intense emotions and the feeling that you will see each other.

Is it possible to have more than one twin flame, or to meet one’s twin flame later in life?

Though many believe that you only have one twin flame, in rare cases a person can have more than one. It is also possible to meet one’s twin flame later in life. The twin flame connection may manifest differently for different people.

How can friends and loved ones support someone going through a twin flame separation?

Friends and loved ones can support someone going through a twin flame separation by listening, offering empathy and validation, encouraging self-care, and refraining from judgment or advice-giving.

Key Takeaways

  • Twin flame separation feels like a nightmare, and it can cause intense sorrow.
  • This life-shattering experience can take a toll on both partners, and it mainly occurs due to a lack of maturity.
  • As this stage is unavoidable, face it with confidence.
  • Accepting the situation for what it is and learning from it will help you heal.
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Anastasia Kirilchik
Anastasia has been practicing astrology for over five years. She has completed numerous courses and undergone extensive training, especially in areas of prediction, natal astrology, astronomy, astromineralogy, and philosophy.

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Shivani Chandel
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Shivani Chandel is a postgraduate in English literature from Panjab University, Chandigarh and a certified relationship coach. She has four years of experience in copy editing and writing about entertainment, health, lifestyle, and beauty.

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Sneha has a master's degree in Applied Linguistics from the University of Hyderabad, a professional Relationship Coach diploma, and over four years of experience in writing. She writes about relationships and lifestyle.Sneha began her career as an instructional designer, shifted to freelance technical and research writing, and self-published a novella on the theme of adolescent mental health.

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