A soulmate is that one person who grabs your hand and never lets you go. It’s like they were sent from the heavens just for you. Everything feels right, you feel euphoric all the time, and nothing compares to what you and the person share. Is that it? Is that how you imagine a soulmate to be?
Though the idea of a soulmate gives ‘la la land’ vibes, and even though that might be true to an extent, a soulmate is so much more than just that. A soulmate is a person who encourages you to do things that you like, corrects you when you are wrong, makes you happier in life, but also fights over the simplest of things to continue to maintain the spark of your relationship. They have seen you at your best, but also at your worst – and accepted you for who you are. They push you to become the best version of yourself and support your change. They help you heal, grow, and become the person you were meant to be.
The question now is, ‘What happens when you meet your soulmate?’ Here, we have listed 11 points that tell if you have found your soulmate and the changes you might notice in yourself.
11 Things That Happen When You Meet Your Soulmate
1. Everything Comes Naturally
Imagine this. You are in a relationship that feels light. It’s easy to talk to the other person, the silences aren’t awkward, the conversations don’t always have to end up in fights, and everything feels natural like it was meant to be. The relationship doesn’t feel constricting.
The relationship feels more like something you want to contribute to, instead of it feeling like work and full of compromises to make it work. That’s what a relationship with your soulmate feels like. You will notice yourself being you, instead of acting like someone your partner might accept.
2. You Fight, But You Fight Fair
It’s not always butterflies in a relationship, so fights are bound to happen – small ones, huge ones, ones that end up with either one or both of you crying, or ones that are meant to be playful and end up with equally good compensation. And the fights are not destructive – they are for the improvement of each of your lives as individuals.
Fights are important for a healthy relationship. If you don’t fight, do you even notice each other? But too many fights are not good, either! You are trying to be in a relationship, not control each other’s every movement.
3. You Keep No Secrets From Them
Every person has a side they don’t show anyone. Most people in your life haven’t even seen more than one of your sides. The person who makes you want to show all your sides to them – good, bad, and worst – is the person whom you call a soulmate. They are a part of your comfort zone. Being with them gives you a feeling of being home.
You get a sense of security and wish to tell them everything that you have experienced. This includes your secrets, your wishes, your deepest darkest desires…literally everything. This also means you won’t face that constant fear of acceptance and rejection every time something happens.
4. You Experience True Intimacy
When you meet your soulmate, it’s not just your body that craves them. It is so much more than just a physical attraction. You might crave physical touch, but that is not everything. It’s also the emotional, mental, and psychological factors that play a role. It’s the way you speak – easy conversations, playful bickering, simplest exchange of glances, the way they make you smile, their quirkiness, the way they care for your well-being, and any other details about them that make them who they are.
5. Your Brain Changes
Not to be alarming, but yes, your brain quite literally changes when you meet your soulmate. Not physically, of course, but the amount of chemicals it releases and how often it does so, and why it does so. Dopamine, the happy chemical, along with adrenaline and norepinephrine, are actively released when you talk to, think about, or are around your soulmate.
You just can’t stop smiling. You become optimistic, and your days of being cynical and pessimistic are left behind. This also means you will be making some stupid decisions in the near future as you can’t see the negatives of a situation anymore. It also means that you get better at solving the problems you are facing now that there’s someone who has your back always. Your productivity, however, is on a swing. You get more productive than you have ever been, but you are also lost in daydreams about your partner for most of it.
6. You Get Addicted To Their Company
Even from the early stages of the relationship, you feel a sense of peace, comfort, and security. Being with them is like finding the perfect match for yourself. It almost feels like you balance each other and get the feeling ‘Oh, you most definitely are made for each other!’ quite a lot.
What you share goes beyond liking someone. You become addicted to their presence when they aren’t around you. You crave for them to be with you at all times, which may surprise most of the introverts out there. You find yourself thinking about them when they are around you and even when they aren’t – almost to the extent that it may seem comical to the others.
7. Your Relationships With Others Improve
Oxytocin is a chemical released by the brain that helps in social bonding among its other uses. The chemical is released actively when you have met your soulmate, a person who makes you extremely happy. Thus, when you meet your soulmate, you have found someone who balances you, makes you happy, understands you, and wants you just as much as you want them. They also happen to, directly and indirectly, affect your relationship with others. You become social, approachable, and better at connecting to people. Your bond with the people close to you becomes stronger, and it’s easier to talk to people, in general.
8. You Become More Confident
Remember the brain changes that occur and how they make you better at solving problems? It happens because you have your partner supporting you, and the fact that they have your back. This gives you confidence in doing the things you have to do and the things you want to do. There’s a spring in your step as you walk the path to your goals, accomplish things, in the way you carry yourself, and in the way you take charge of your life. It almost feels like a superpower to have a soulmate by this time, right?
9. You Feel Vulnerable – Yet Secure
As you are as open and comfortable around your soulmate, you may experience things like understanding each other, being supportive of each other, helping each other, not having any secret amongst the two of you, feeling each other’s emotions and pains, and so much more. This may make you feel vulnerable in a way you may not have thought to be possible. Even after, if you still feel like you are ‘home’ when they are around, most definitely, you have found ‘the one.’
10. You Feel Sparks Flying
‘Sparks’ are the sign that you have found your soulmate. Have you ever thought why people say so anyway? It’s because when you are in the presence of your soulmate, your brain gets flooded by neurochemicals. These chemicals overload your nervous pathways that results in the feeling of getting electrocuted. Too complicated to comprehend, right?
What occurs is that when you are attracted to someone physically or emotionally, your brain releases an overwhelming amount of chemicals. This causes you to feel a spark. Hence, no spark equals the fact that you aren’t as attracted to a person as you would be to your soulmate.
11. You Go Through Ups And Downs
Nothing is just good or bad, nothing is always positive or negative. Even the world isn’t either black or white. Similarly, even our lives and relations are an abstract art of the shades of gray. The fact that a soulmate brings color into your life is as true as the fact that it is us who forget to look at the colors and focus on making things black and white.
A soulmate is someone who has seen the best and worst of you. They have been a part of your best memories and stayed through your worst. They don’t judge you for being the way you are and expect the same from you.
A soulmate is not your ‘better half”. Absolutely not! Because you’re not a half. You are a perfect ten! Soulmates compliment you for who you are and even help to make a better version of who you are. Not being with them doesn’t mean a part of you is missing. It means that the person who helps you unconditionally to be you is not beside you. While soulmates make life beautiful and better and make you belt out romantic songs, loving yourself comes first. After all, before someone loves you, you should love yourself first.
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