We have all been in that situation. We like a guy, but after we have initiated the talk with a quaking heart, the conversation dies down after a while, and we are just sitting there in silence, desperately trying to think of a topic to talk about.
Sometimes, even starting the conversation makes us nervous and tongue-tied, and we never get past a curt nod in their direction – if we are feeling brave. Awkward, I know. But, don’t lose heart. We have got your back!
We have compiled a list of topics you can talk about with a guy. These topics will definitely help you avoid sticky situations, and you will never have to feel that sinking feeling at the pit of your stomach ever again. Here you go!
Things To Talk About With A Guy
1. Ask Him His Name
This is a great one to start a conversation. It doesn’t matter whether you know his name or not. It is a great way to pretend you have NOT been stalking him, and you are interested in him. Sometimes, you are stumped what to say because you want to act all aloof and super cool, but in reality, you are trying to keep the butterflies fluttering in your tummy from coming out of your mouth.
You can continue the conversation by commenting on his name (Favian? That’s such a unique name! What does it mean?). Then, introduce yourself.
2. If At A Bar, Ask Him If The Drink He’s Got Is Good
You spot a cutie at a bar, really want to talk to him, but are finding it difficult to start the conversation without coming off too strong? Alcohol to the rescue! Ask him what drink he is having, if it is any good, and what he would recommend for you.
From there, you can continue with questions about the bar and then move on to personal ones. If you want to take it a step further, ask to try it. Take a sip, never breaking eye contact.
3. Ask Him If He Is Single – And Be Sneaky About It!
This can be tricky, so listen up, girls! If you are talking to someone you met at a bar, you could ask, “Aren’t you Mia’s boyfriend? I believe I have seen your pic with her on Facebook.” He is probably gonna answer with “I wish, I am single.” Well, you have your answer.
But if he tries to avoid it with a sneaky “Haha, no, I don’t know Mia,” you need to ask him something direct like, “You don’t have a girlfriend? Hard to believe!” It is better to be pushy and find out upfront whether he is taken or not. You don’t need to waste your time on men who are committed.
4. Tell Him About A Cool Event You Have Been Dying To Go To
Find out what the guy you are interested in is into, and look for events that are centered around his hobby. Tell him there is an event coming up, and you are looking forward to it. Chances are he will ask if he can join you, and before you know it, you guys will be out on your first date!
Be smart about it, though. Make it clear that it will just be the two of you, or he may invite the rest of the gang as well!
6. Ask Him If He Has Plans For The Weekend
If he has none, invite him over to your place for a movie or ask him to hang out with you at the coffee shop. If he is interested, he will definitely jump at the chance.
Hanging out together will not only be fun, but you guys will also get to know each other better. Also, it will lead to more plans, and very soon, you both will be inseparable. Sigh, lovebirds!
7. Ask Questions About His Interests
Don’t you love it when you get to talk about things that you love? It’s the same with guys. Asking him about his hobbies or stuff he is interested in is a great way to break the ice. It also helps you determine whether you both will be compatible.
However, it doesn’t matter whether you have shared interests or not. Asking what he does in his free time is a great conversation starter.
8. Share Stories From Your Childhood
You don’t always have to interrogate him about things. Share a hilarious story from your own childhood. Share a story that can make you both have a good laugh. He is likely to respond with his own childhood story, and this will keep the conversation going.
Also, share details about things that you experienced as a child, and if he is of a similar age, it is probable that he will relate to it and get more comfortable talking to you. Also, ask him about his family and tell him all about yours.
9. Play The ‘Would You Rather’ Game
This one is silly but effective. The idea is that you ask the guy which of two choices he would rather make and then have a conversation about the whys and hows.
For example, ask him something like, “Would you rather love and lose or never love at all?” or something generic like, “Would you rather be rich or super smart?”
Take turns and get to know each other better. You can even challenge his answers and make him defend himself so that you get a clear idea about why he does what he does.
10. Ask Him About His Dreams
If you want to look deep into his soul, ask him about his dreams. Ask personal questions like what he always wanted to be when he grew up. What would he do if money was not an issue?
These kinds of questions can really help him open up to you and let you get to know him better. Also, never be judgmental or critical. That will only manage to make him nervous.
11. Ask Him About His Job
Work plays a huge role in all of our lives – we work nine hours of the day, most days of our lives. But don’t just ask what his job title is. Ask him more questions like what time he goes to the office, what a typical day looks like, what he likes best about what he does, and so on.
Also, ask if he dislikes something about his job to keep the conversation flowing. You can also tell him all about your job, the challenges you are facing, the things you do at work, etc. to find common ground.
12. Talk About Food
This is one subject everyone loves talking about – food! Ask him what types of cuisines he likes, if he knows how to cook, the weirdest thing he has eaten, and so on. Share your own stories.
Maybe even dare each other to eat something you have never tried and plan to go out together to have it. Or ask him for the recipe for something he likes, make it for him, and surprise him!
13. Talk About Music Or Movies
What kind of movies or music does he like? What was the last movie he watched? Who did he go with? Did he enjoy it? What song does he listen to on repeat? These questions can start a conversation that can last for hours.
Maybe you both can even go to a movie or concert together if you both like the same things. That’s a date!
14. Talk About What You Want In Your Future
The more you open up to him, the more he will open up to you. Tell him about the things you want to achieve in life, your goals, and your dreams. Tell him what scares you and what setbacks you have faced. Then, ask him about his plans for the future.
You will find that some of the struggles you have faced, he has too. This will help both of you bond and get closer. It doesn’t really matter what you talk about as long as you keep talking.
15. Compliment Him On His Dressing Sense
This one works best if it is genuine. Ask him about a particular item he is wearing. Ask where he got it. Ask him about the details and show genuine interest in what he has to say. He will be thrilled to find someone interested in what he is wearing.
16. Ask Him About His Travels
If he is a travel bug, there are so many questions you can ask him that he will happily answer. Where all has he been on vacations? What did he like or dislike about the places has he traveled to? What is his favorite place out of all the places he has been? Does he like to travel alone or in a group? All important questions that will give you a glimpse into his life.
17. Ask Him About His Pet
If he has a pet, ask him about it. This is a topic pet owners never get tired of. They adore their pets and never get tired of talking about them! It helps if you have a pet as well.
Ask him its name, how long it has been in his life, what fun things they have done together, etc. Tell him about yours as well.
18. Ask Him About His Friends
He may be guarded at first, but when he sees that you are genuinely interested in and like his buddies, he will delve into stories of the pranks they have played on others. He will love to talk about the stuff they have done together and how fun it is to spend time with them.
But beware, this may backfire as he may think you are interested in one of his friends. So, keep the conversation about him and the things he has done with his friends.
You will find that most people, no matter how shy or introvert, will have at least some things to say about each of these topics. Once you find something he is interested in, keep talking about it for a while. Ask follow-up questions about whatever he is comfortable talking about.
But make sure you are genuinely interested and not just doing it for the sake of it – or you may cause unnecessary heartbreak in the future. Who knows, you may find your next best friend in him, if not your soulmate. All the best!
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