What To Talk About With A Guy

Whether it is everything under the roof or anything specific that would pique his interest.

By Harini Natarajan, Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner

It is hard to figure out the things to talk about with a guy when you don’t know much about them. When you are trying to think of the topics you can touch upon, it is important to be mindful of their interests and beliefs. Ideally, it would be best to go for a topic that interests both of you and enjoy talking about.

It happens to the best of us that the conversation begins to dwindle after introducing yourself, and with a trembling heart, you struggle to find your words. It can be an awkward situation if you are also shy but don’t give up. Take a cue from our list of topics in this article. If you keep up with these subjects, you will avoid embarrassing situations, and that sinking feeling will be history. Check it out!

Things To Talk About With A Guy

1. Ask Him His Name

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This is a great one to start a conversation. It doesn’t matter whether you know his name or not. It is a great way to pretend you have NOT been stalking him, and you are interested in him. Sometimes, you are stumped what to say because you want to act all aloof and super cool, but in reality, you are trying to keep the butterflies fluttering in your tummy from coming out of your mouth.

You can continue the conversation by commenting on his name (Favian? That’s such a unique name! What does it mean?). Then, introduce yourself.

2. If At A Bar, Ask Him If The Drink He’s Got Is Good

You spot a cutie at a bar, really want to talk to him, but are finding it difficult to start the conversation without coming off too strong? Alcohol to the rescue! Ask him what drink he is having, if it is any good, and what he would recommend for you.

From there, you can continue with questions about the bar and then move on to personal ones. If you want to take it a step further, ask to try it. Take a sip, never breaking eye contact.

3. Ask Him If He Is Single – And Be Sneaky About It!

This can be tricky, so listen up, girls! If you are talking to someone you met at a bar, you could ask, “Aren’t you Mia’s boyfriend? I believe I have seen your pic with her on Facebook.” He is probably gonna answer with “I wish, I am single.” Well, you have your answer.

But if he tries to avoid it with a sneaky “Haha, no, I don’t know Mia,” you need to ask him something direct like, “You don’t have a girlfriend? Hard to believe!” It is better to be pushy and find out upfront whether he is taken or not. You don’t need to waste your time on men who are committed.

4. Tell Him About A Cool Event You Have Been Dying To Go To

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Find out what the guy you are interested in is into, and look for events that are centered around his hobby. Tell him there is an event coming up, and you are looking forward to it. Chances are he will ask if he can join you, and before you know it, you guys will be out on your first date!

Be smart about it, though. Make it clear that it will just be the two of you, or he may invite the rest of the gang as well!

5. Ask Him If He Has Plans For The Weekend

If he has none, invite him over to your place for a movie or ask him to hang out with you at the coffee shop. If he is interested, he will definitely jump at the chance.

Hanging out together will not only be fun, but you guys will also get to know each other better. Also, it will lead to more plans, and very soon, you both will be inseparable. Sigh, lovebirds!

6. Ask Questions About His Interests

Don’t you love it when you get to talk about things that you love? It’s the same with guys. Asking him about his hobbies or stuff he is interested in is a great way to break the ice. It also helps you determine whether you both will be compatible.

However, it doesn’t matter whether you have shared interests or not. Asking what he does in his free time is a great conversation starter.

7. Share Stories From Your Childhood

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You don’t always have to interrogate him about things. Share a hilarious story from your own childhood. Share a story that can make you both have a good laugh. He is likely to respond with his own childhood story, and this will keep the conversation going.

Also, share details about things that you experienced as a child, and if he is of a similar age, it is probable that he will relate to it and get more comfortable talking to you. Also, ask him about his family and tell him all about yours.

8. Play The ‘Would You Rather’ Game

This one is silly but effective. The idea is that you ask the guy which of two choices he would rather make and then have a conversation about the whys and hows.

For example, ask him something like, “Would you rather love and lose or never love at all?” or something generic like, “Would you rather be rich or super smart?”

Take turns and get to know each other better. You can even challenge his answers and make him defend himself so that you get a clear idea about why he does what he does.

9. Ask Him About His Dreams

If you want to look deep into his soul, ask him about his dreams. Ask personal questions like what he always wanted to be when he grew up. What would he do if money was not an issue?

These kinds of questions can really help him open up to you and let you get to know him better. Also, never be judgmental or critical. That will only manage to make him nervous.

10. Ask Him About His Job

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Work plays a huge role in all of our lives – we work nine hours of the day, most days of our lives. But don’t just ask what his job title is. Ask him more questions like what time he goes to the office, what a typical day looks like, what he likes best about what he does, and so on.

Also, ask if he dislikes something about his job to keep the conversation flowing. You can also tell him all about your job, the challenges you are facing, the things you do at work, etc. to find common ground.

11. Talk About Food

This is one subject everyone loves talking about – food! Ask him what types of cuisines he likes, if he knows how to cook, the weirdest thing he has eaten, and so on. Share your own stories.

Maybe even dare each other to eat something you have never tried and plan to go out together to have it. Or ask him for the recipe for something he likes, make it for him, and surprise him!

12. Talk About Music Or Movies

What kind of movies or music does he like? What was the last movie he watched? Who did he go with? Did he enjoy it? What song does he listen to on repeat? These questions can start a conversation that can last for hours.

Maybe you both can even go to a movie or concert together if you both like the same things. That’s a date!

13. Talk About What You Want In Your Future

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The more you open up to him, the more he will open up to you. Tell him about the things you want to achieve in life, your goals, and your dreams. Tell him what scares you and what setbacks you have faced. Then, ask him about his plans for the future.

You will find that some of the struggles you have faced, he has too. This will help both of you bond and get closer. It doesn’t really matter what you talk about as long as you keep talking.

14. Compliment Him On His Dressing Sense

This one works best if it is genuine. Ask him about a particular item he is wearing. Ask where he got it. Ask him about the details and show genuine interest in what he has to say. He will be thrilled to find someone interested in what he is wearing.

15. Ask Him About His Travels

If he is a travel bug, there are so many questions you can ask him that he will happily answer. Where all has he been on vacations? What did he like or dislike about the places has he traveled to? What is his favorite place out of all the places he has been? Does he like to travel alone or in a group? All important questions that will give you a glimpse into his life.

16. Ask Him About His Pet

If he has a pet, ask him about it. This is a topic pet owners never get tired of. They adore their pets and never get tired of talking about them! It helps if you have a pet as well.
Ask him its name, how long it has been in his life, what fun things they have done together, etc. Tell him about yours as well.

17. Ask Him About His Friends

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He may be guarded at first, but when he sees that you are genuinely interested in and like his buddies, he will delve into stories of the pranks they have played on others. He will love to talk about the stuff they have done together and how fun it is to spend time with them.

But beware, this may backfire as he may think you are interested in one of his friends. So, keep the conversation about him and the things he has done with his friends.

You will find that most people, no matter how shy or introvert, will have at least some things to say about each of these topics. Once you find something he is interested in, keep talking about it for a while. Ask follow-up questions about whatever he is comfortable talking about.

Infographic: 10 Things To Ask Your Date Over Late Night Calls Or Texts

Nights are meant for talking about things that you can’t talk about in the day—which is to say that the deeper, more intimate conversations are best reserved for the quiet comfort and safety of the night. Check out the following infographic for a few questions that can help you take your conversation with a guy you are dating to a deeper level or, at the very least, keep that late-night conversation flowing.

10 things to ask your date over late night calls or texts [infographic]

Illustration: StyleCraze Design Team

It would be best to make sure that the guy is comfortable talking to you. The initial phase can be difficult, but if you take things a tad slow and let the conversation flow naturally, he will surely enjoy the chat. Also, this is an opportunity to know him better and let him know you well. So make the best use of our compilation of the things to talk about with a guy. Do not panic, and make sure you both are interested in having a friendly little chat. Good luck!

Frequently Asked Questions

What can I text a guy to make him smile?

You can express your fondness for the guy through texts to make him smile. To add more fun, add some romantic emojis, and there would be no way he wouldn’t smile.

Key Takeaways

  • It can be difficult to talk to a guy you like but don’t know much about. Thankfully, there are several interesting topics you can talk about without embarrassing yourself.
  • You can ask him about his work or friends or tell him about what you did last weekend to get the conversation going.
  • The trick is to find the topics he is interested in and get him to feel comfortable and open up.

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