When To Leave A Relationship

Written by Harini Natarajan

When you have been in a relationship for months or even years, it can be really difficult to know if it is the time to walk out. This is especially true when you see immense promise in the relationship, and yet know that things are not going to work out.

You might feel like you do not want to give up on your partner, but you also feel you may have outgrown them. Whatever situation you find yourself in, making a decision is not going to be easy. We understand this could be an important phase in your life. Here, we listed the 13 signs that can tell you that it is time to leave a relationship. Read on.

13 Signs It Is Time To Leave A Relationship

1. Your Partner No Longer Seems Interested

Have you noticed that your partner has been ignoring you lately? Are they canceling out dates? Or do they even seem bored with you?

Someone who is interested in the relationship would never make excuses not to see you. But if they do, chances are they could be thinking of ending the relationship. They may also lack the courage to tell you upfront that it is over.

While your partner does not have to show interest in everything you are involved in, they should at least be making an effort to participate in activities important to you. It is a concern if you have to beg them to get involved with your interests.

If you think this is the case in your relationship, it is best to talk to them about your concerns and get a straight answer from them. This can help you leave the relationship with grace.

2. Your Partner Expects You To Change

Your Partner Expects You To Change 

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When you are in a romantic relationship, your partner loves you unconditionally without expecting you to change in any way.
On the contrary, if your partner expects to change you in some form or the other, it could indicate that they do not value you. This could include anything from expecting you to dress up more often to look prettier, hanging out more with friends when you do not feel like it, or even expecting you to lose weight just to look better.

If you feel like you have to change who you are completely just for your partner, it is not a good sign. You may be able to keep up the pretense for a while, but if your partner truly wants to be with you, they should love you unconditionally.

3. You Have Compatibility Issues

Compatibility is crucial in a relationship, whether it is sitting in silence for hours or having a comfortable banter back and forth.

But if you feel you are nervous around your partner all the time, and that too for all the wrong reasons, you might be in the wrong relationship.

Compatibility with your partner plays a big role in ensuring your relationship’s success. If you do not find it, you may have to walk away and search for someone who is more compatible and understands you better.

4. Your Partner Has A Major Character Flaw

There could be multiple character flaws that can make you think over the status of your relationship. These could include alcoholism, habitual cheating, gambling, constant lying, drug addiction, etc.

If you notice your partner taking no efforts to work on their serious character flaws, it could be time to leave the relationship and move on.

5. Your Partner Is Still Hung Up On Their Ex

Your Partner Is Still Hung Up On Their Ex

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If your partner is still pinning after their ex, talking with them constantly, or even hanging out with them occasionally, then something is not right. You may want to talk this out with your partner and see how they respond.

While there is no harm in someone talking about their previous relationships once a while, you really must rethink your relationship if your partner is still holding on to their ex’s pictures or texts on their phone or checking out their social media profiles quite often.

At any point, if you feel like you could just be a substitute, it is time to leave the relationship and move on in your life.

6. You Have Been Hiding Parts Of Your Personality From Your Partner

When you find yourself lying to your partner frequently or keeping secrets from them often, it is a clear sign of discomfort you feel in their presence.

If you feel your partner does not trust you for any reason and cannot move past feeling jealous, then you should reconsider your relationship. If they do not want you to be yourself or do the things you want to do, it is time to rethink.

7. Your Partner Is Always Criticizing You

Your Partner Is Always Criticizing You

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To mention or highlight what your partner does not like about how you behave is alright. It can, in fact, be healthy as it helps you communicate better with each other. But it is not acceptable if your partner constantly criticizes your personality and character. If this gets more frequent, take it as a sign of letting their frustration out on you for no real reason. Such people often have fragile egos with a constant need to defend themselves.

8. Your Partner Is Too Unpredictable And Intense

Have you noticed your partner being nice and very charming one moment and suddenly very angry the next? Such behavior can make you feel scared and intimidated and rob you of your sanity. You always feel the need to be cautious around them to prevent triggering them.

There could be multiple reasons for such emotionally volatile behavior, including severe anger issues. But if your partner is unwilling to acknowledge the problem and work on it, it is best to leave the relationship.

9. Your Partner Is Possessive And Jealous

A partner who is possessive and jealous in a relationship is deeply insecure. While it might seem flattering in the beginning, it can just get plain exhausting to deal with such a partner, especially when their jealousy is irrational, illogical, and misplaced.

If you feel like you cannot trust your partner or they feel like they cannot trust you, consider it as a sign that things are never going to work out between the two of you. If they constantly wonder what you are doing when you are not around, or they are always questioning you about almost everything, it is time to seriously rethink your relationship.

If you have been accused of selfishness just for talking to your friends regularly, it could be a sign that your relationship is not sustainable.

10. Your Goals Do Not Align With Theirs

Couples disagreeing on a few aspects are normal in any relationship. But if both your long-term and short-term goals do not align with each other, it could be a cause for concern.

There is a possibility that such issues arise more in the early stages of the relationship. Still, if you cannot agree on almost anything, including finances, personal goals, family issues, or what you wish to do with your lives, it is time to reconsider where your relationship is headed.

Sharing the same goals and values could mean the relationship would stand the test of time. While you do not need to have exactly the same views and values, they should be similar so that your future goals and needs can align properly.

11. You Are Not Happy Being In The Relationship

You Are Not Happy Being In The Relationship

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While it might seem quite obvious, if you are constantly unhappy in your relationship, it is probably time to have a straightforward conversation with your partner about your concerns.

They might think that everything is alright and nothing needs to improve. But if they are not willing to make changes despite you telling them that you are unhappy, it could be time to leave the relationship and move on.

12. There Is Abuse Of Any Kind

There Is Abuse Of Any Kind

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Abusive people deserve no loyalty of any kind. If you are constantly abused either physically, emotionally, or verbally, you just need to leave the relationship at once. The sooner you plan it, the better. Get yourself familiar with the various signs of abuse and figure out if you are actually in an abusive relationship.

Some people might play down the way their partner treats them and convince themselves that it is normal. But this is not something one should tolerate. Do not stick around and put up with the abuse hoping that things will change.

Abusive people hardly recognize that they have a severe problem and need to get help. Do not put up with it.

13. They Do Not Enrich Your Life In Any Way

Apart from being supportive, a partner must bring value to your life and enrich it in different ways. Whether it is your aspirations, unique points of view, or sense of humor, your partner should play a significant role in uplifting you.

But if you feel they are only bringing you down, it is time to rethink your relationship.

Well, they might be going through some hard times. You definitely should speak to them first and try to support them. However, if you feel that your only job here is to fix things for them, you may have to move on.

Takeaway

Thinking about leaving a relationship and moving on is never easy, especially when you have invested years into one. Most often, people tend to lie to themselves and ignore the subtle signs. They assume things would change with time, and that everything would turn out okay in the end.

However, it is important to understand that nothing else matters more than your self-respect. Leaving an unhappy relationship could be difficult, but that one decision could be incredibly liberating. Do you relate to the signs listed in this post? Then it probably is time to rethink your relationship.

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As Chief Editor, Harini sets the tone and editorial direction for StyleCraze to deliver engaging, interesting, and authentic content revolving around women's health, wellness, and beauty. She has over 14 years of experience in content writing and editing for online media. She specializes in the areas of Beauty, Lifestyle, and Health & Wellness and is proficient in Medical Sciences (Biology, Human Anatomy and Physiology, and Biochemistry). Her background in Biomedical Engineering helps her decode and interpret the finer nuances of scientific research for her team. Harini is a certified bibliophile and a closet poet. She also loves dancing and traveling to offbeat destinations.
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