18 Reasons Why He Isn’t Texting You Back

Know when it is genuine and when it could be a red flag you shouldn't ignore

Reviewed by Mira MasukawaMira Masukawa, Licensed Marriage Family Therapist
By Harini NatarajanHarini Natarajan, Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner  • 

“Why isn’t he texting me back?” – you must have wondered when you haven’t heard from him for a long time. You text your man with so much love and interest, but when they do not text you back, your brain starts making up scenarios that take you into panic mode. By the time he responds, you have already jumped to a conclusion. There could be many possible reasons behind him not responding to your texts. Check out this article to know the reasons and tips to deal with such situations. Scroll down.

18 Reasons Why He Isn’t Texting You

1. He’s Busy

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Most of the time, when a guy doesn’t respond to a text immediately, he’s just busy. Either he is busy with work, or maybe he’s visiting family. He could also be running some household errands. Give him some time, and he’ll get back to you.

2. He’s Just Being Himself

Some men just don’t check their phones that often. They don’t really spend a lot of time texting. This could be a sign that he’s comfortable enough with you to be himself. If your partner does not spend much time on his phone, he may not have seen your text in the first place. In that case, it’s just easier to call him.

3. He’s Hanging Out With Friends

Another common reason men don’t answer their phones is because they are chilling with their friends. It doesn’t mean that he is purposely ignoring you. No, he is probably just having such a good time with his friends that it doesn’t strike him to look at his phone.

4. He Needs Space

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Some partners can overwhelm their men with the number of texts they send. Him not texting you back could be a sign that he needs some space. You can take this opportunity to spend some time with your family and friends, as well. Just give him some time, and he’ll come around.

5. He’s Not A Wordsmith

Maybe he’s just taking time to respond because he’s trying to find the right words. In serious conversations, the way you word things holds a lot of weight, especially if it is over text where there is a lot of room for misinterpretation. Give him some time to gather his thoughts, and he’ll respond when he is ready.

6. He Just Forgot

Sometimes, you see a text and think, “I’ll respond in a minute,” and then it just slips your mind. We’ve all been there! He probably did the same thing too. Give it some time, then send him another message. Do not, however, bombard his phone with messages. This will only make you seem clingy.

7. He’s Not Much Of A Texter

Some men are not big texters. It’s easier to get a hold of them personally, on a call, or by email. Find out what’s the best way to reach your man and use that mode of communication. And, don’t hold their lack of texting against them.

8. He’s Playing Hard To Get

If you both just started dating, he may not be replying to your texts to play hard to get. He wants to see how interested you are in pursuing him. He may also just be trying not to seem too eager or needy.

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You can hope he will reciprocate your feelings eventually if he’s playing hard to get for a while. Let him feel that you’re really pursuing him, so he ends his game. But do not go overboard either if both of you are not comfortable.

9. He’s Hurt

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If you both just had an argument, he could be taking time to answer because he is hurt or angry. This can be a good thing. It gives both of you time to cool down and think over the situation before responding. Just give him the time and space he needs.

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You can also reassure him that you are there for him no matter what. Meanwhile, you heal from the argument, too, so the two of you can have a fresh start with all the positive energies around you.

10. He’s Just Not That Into You

Okay, people, it needs to be said – a guy won’t text you back if he’s not into you. Maybe you went out with him and had high hopes that he would call, but he wasn’t really interested. That is probably why he is not answering your texts, as well. Sure, he could have taken a more mature approach and told you that he is not on the same page as you. But, you can’t change anyone. If a man is interested in you, he will make sure you know it. So if he is not texting you back, he’s trying to send you a message.

11. He’s Figuring Things Out

Maybe you both are reeling from a big fight. Or, you both are probably trying to decide if you want to go exclusive. If it’s a big decision you both have to take, maybe he’s taking his time to reevaluate the situation and figure out his feelings.

12. He Does Not Have Reception

The basic reason most people don’t text back is that either they don’t have cell reception or their phone battery died. Our minds don’t always go to these possibilities, but these are very real scenarios. He’ll reply once he gets reception or charges his phone.

13. He’s Overwhelmed

Some people tend to ask way too many questions early on in the relationship. Or, maybe a situation arose where you piled on the questions. This may overwhelm him, causing him to go back into his shell. Just give him a break and let him respond to you in his own time.

It could also be that he’s overwhelmed by the feelings he has for you, and he does not want to mess things up by saying something wrong.

14. You Have Given Him TMI

If you share too much personal information at the start of the relationship, some of it may need a minute to take getting used to. Besides, not everyone knows how to process or respond to another person being vulnerable with them. Give him some time to wrap his head around the information you have given him. He will text you back once he has sorted out his thoughts and feelings.

15. He’s Sick

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Maybe your partner is down with the flu, and that’s why he isn’t replying. While it may not always be the case, this is a possibility. Men are known to be extremely childlike when they fall ill. So, he may just need some time to recover before he replies to your texts.

16. He’s Ghosting You

Some people are absolutely fine with ghosting other people. Maybe he thinks this is the best way to end things with you. If he hasn’t replied to your texts in days, just stop messaging him. If he wants to talk to you, he will get in touch. But if he isn’t texting you back and has blocked you, he’s just ghosting you.

17. He’s Seeing Someone Else

If you both are not exclusive yet, he could just be seeing someone else. So, he is probably splitting his time between you both. He may take some time to figure out which relationship to pursue.

18. He Was Hungover

Maybe your man had a late night with his buddies or colleagues. He got completely hammered and just passed out. When he woke up, he had a raging hangover and was puking until there was nothing left to come out. So he just slept through the day. Give it time, and he’ll text you back once he feels better.

19. He Cheated On You

If your partner isn’t texting you back suddenly, it could be because he cheated on you. Maybe your partner went out for drinks with some friends. The last time he texted you was to let you know that he was going to a friend’s place. Then, nothing. You may know that there is a friend of his who’s interested in him, and maybe there is a hint of spark between them. Maybe it was the alcohol or the chemistry, but your boyfriend may have cheated on you. Now, he doesn’t know what to say to you and isn’t texting. Remember, this is the last and worst case scenario, and you shouldn’t jump to this conclusion unless there have been other signs that he is cheating on you. Don’t immediately accuse him of cheating on you if he hasn’t responded. Just wait for him to text you.

If he isn’t texting you back, don’t go into panic mode. Here are some tips on what to do when your man isn’t replying to your texts.

What To Do When He Doesn’t Text You Back

1. Don’t Stress Out

Don’t jump to conclusions if your man doesn’t text you back immediately. Maybe he’s just busy or outside. When he can, he will get back to you. Panicking over nothing may send the wrong message to him. You may come across as too clingy. Just give it a few hours before messaging him again.

2. Call Him

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A simple call can be the answer to all the panicky questions running through your mind when your man doesn’t respond. Call him and talk to him instead of making it a “Let’s see how long he’ll take to reply” argument.

3. Check On Him

If you’ve both had an argument or he just stopped replying out of the blue, send him a text asking if everything is okay. Just check in on him. Don’t bombard him with questions.

4. Give Him Time

If he’s not replying to you because he needs space, you need to give him that. Overloading him with texts and calls is just going to backfire on you and scare him more. Just leave him to resolve his thoughts.

5. Remember It’s Not The End Of The World

Whatever the reason is for him not to text you back, it’s not going to destroy you. If he’s busy, he’ll get back to you when he’s free. If he’s not interested, you need to move on. If you both are on a break, you need to give him space or move on. Focus on yourself! Take this time to rediscover and pamper yourself.

Infographic: Activities To Do When He Isn’t Texting You Back

In this digital age, exchanging text messages almost every minute of the day is expected in romantic relationships. So, if your partner begins to leave you on ‘read,’ it may become worrisome.

But whatever the reason is, self-love is of utmost importance. So instead of worrying, check out the infographic below for some fun activities to keep your mind off things.

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If your relationship is at a place where you doubt its future, your partner’s lack of proper and timely response can worsen the situation. However, a lack of interest in you may not always be why he is not texting you back. He could simply be busy hanging out with friends, playing hard to get, or don’t have a reception. Whatever may be the reason, you should not stress out over this fact and try to get in contact with him or give him time. Finally, if your partner is not eager to talk to you, you should move on in life and respect yourself.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long is too long for a guy to respond to your text?

It can be concerning if a guy doesn’t text within 4-7 days. However, it is better to wait for at least a week and then know the reason behind it before getting all worked up.

Should you text again after no response?

Wait for at least three days before sending a follow-up text. But if you already followed up and still did not get any response, it is better to stop texting.

Key Takeaways

  • Worrying about why your partner is not texting you back is normal. But, most of us jump to conclusions without thinking of the many possible reasons behind it.
  • It can be because he is busy, spending time with his friends, or needs some time to himself.
  • It is better not to overthink and to follow a few tips to stay cool and get back to your life.


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