9 Important Things That Should Stay Constant Even After You Are Married
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Marriage is definitely no cakewalk. It is a beautiful union but comes with its own ups and downs. People usually make jokes out of marital issues but in reality, it’s either make or break. One should not approach it in a scary way, but work things out and be understanding and vulnerable. Very often, once the honeymoon phase is over, people tend to get caught up in their daily lives and kids soon follow. It’s often difficult to maintain that sense of allure that you had while you were dating. Because of this, the relationship shared between the two partners can change and mold with time. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you’ve stopped loving your partner. It just means that you might need to invest a little more time into building up your relationship. So here are a few things that you should be doing to make sure that the relationship doesn’t feel stagnant and keep the spark alive:
1. Words Of Love
Who doesn’t love hearing words of affirmation? Especially if it’s coming from your soulmate. Even if it’s something as small as a “Good morning, handsome/beautiful, I love you”, it’ll make a world of a difference to your spouse. Say it like you genuinely mean it and we guarantee it will put a smile on your partner’s face. Just because you’re married now, doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve those sweet nothings whispered into your ear every now and then. You don’t have to stick to cliches if it makes you cringe. Simple compliments are enough to brighten up your spouse’s day!
2. Plan More Date Nights
If you and your partner find yourselves too busy with work or trying to manage a household and kids, you should definitely give date nights a shot. Plan to go out for dinner at least once a week and eat something you may not have tried before. Life is too short to keep eating the same food every day. You could also re-live the feeling of those movie dates you used to go on and try watching a new movie at least once a month. It will help you come out of the daily stagnant cycle and add some spice to the relationship.
3. Maintain A Sense Of Spontaneity
It is important for you to maintain spontaneity in your marriage. Do something fun every now and then and try something new. You could plan for a random weekend trip and just grab your keys and escape your house for a little while. You could also whisk your partner away on a random drive or maybe get them something they’ve been eyeing for a while. The possibilities are endless!
4. Avoid Prioritizing Work Over Your Marriage
Yes, we understand that work is very important and that there may be a time that you have to prioritize your work over your marriage. Don’t feel guilty if there is a time when you might have to skip out on a date night in order to attend work. However, try and make up for it so that your work life and your family life/personal time don’t have to constantly clash with one another.
5. Take Turns Paying For Night-outs
Even if your partner is the breadwinner in your household, treat them to a date night on you every once in a while. If you are a working woman, you can pamper your man or woman with gifts and surprise night-outs. Confidence is definitely attractive. After all, they probably do so much for you so you should give them a treat every now and then. Even if keeping tabs on who takes turns is too much for you, you should definitely go dutch on the dates every now and then.
6. Appreciate Your Partner
If your partner does something nice for you, you should definitely show them how much you appreciate it. You should appreciate your partner even for the littlest of things because it shows how much they care about you. Even if it is something as small as them knowing exactly how you like your coffee and preparing it to perfection for you.
7. Give Compliments To Each Other
Everyone loves compliments! Unfortunately, men don’t receive nearly as many compliments as women do, thanks to gender roles. Men don’t become small if you shower them with compliments. So why not show your appreciation for your partner by giving them an unexpected nice compliment every now and then. We bet you’d love to see them blush and giggle when you do!
8. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!
We absolutely cannot stress the importance of communication to maintain a healthy relationship. Rather than making assumptions or leaving things unsaid, you should talk things out with your partner and let them know if you are feeling upset or uneasy. Keeping things bottled up only leads to misunderstandings and negativity inside you. Sort your issues with open and straightforward discussion. Even if it’s something as small as calling them up during your lunch breaks just to catch up on what they’re doing, you should try it out.
9. Give Each Other Space
You and your partner deserve to have boys/girls’ night-outs with your gang of friends. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you don’t let your friend circles mingle a little bit but you should value each other’s space and not try to intrude. If you or your partner need some time to yourselves, respect that and give each other that space.
In the end, the keys to a successful, satisfying and healthy relationship are trust, communication, and the ability to adapt. Be creative with your partner and finish all those wishes you needed to fulfill. The marriage tag reduces the excitement because of increasing responsibilities, so it’s a mutual effort to contribute towards a healthy and happy marriage. Remember to respect your partner’s opinions and vice-versa for a smooth-sailing relationship. You should be open to trying something that might be considered different every now and then. Do let us know all of your thoughts on this article in the comment section below!
