It is natural to feel anxious and pressured after hitting 29. But this societal thought has been ingrained in 30-something women. It’s best to have a positive outlook and give yourself some credit for aging like fine wine. After you hit the age of thirty, it seems like the whole world is knocking on your door and begging you to tie the knot. Also, nobody likes disclosing personal details about their relationships, especially to prying friends and relatives. All the neighborhood aunties start enquiring about your “lifestyle”. Many will even make assumptions about you and suggest ideas that might sound ridiculous to you. Some might try to intervene in your private life and attempt to set you up, whether you like it or not. So if you’re a single woman above the age of thirty, here are seven annoying statements that will have your blood boiling in just a few moments and hence, potentially avoid:
1. “You Should Make Yourself More Approachable”
A common thought about single women of older age is that they hardly have any friends, which also makes them supposedly “non-dateable”. These stereotypes are most likely born out of cliched movies or TV soaps. Being independent is often associated with being a loner or a woman who is angry with literally everything in life. That factor is associated with being forever single and that is treated as a taboo. Girl, if you need to make yourself approachable, do it for yourself first. And that’s on period!
2. “I Guess Your Career Is More Important Than Starting A Family”
It’s not about which is more important than the other, it’s about which is a priority at this moment in life. Maybe my career is at its ultimate peak and I want to hold onto that before taking some time off for a family. Moreover, there’s nothing wrong with freezing your eggs and waiting until you’re ready to start having kids. It is entirely okay if you want to be single for the rest of your life. Just do whatever makes you happy and content, and stay unbothered by opinions that affect your mental health.
3. “I Know A Guy Who’d Love To Take You Out”
These comments are quite common. It’s okay if it’s your close friend or fam, because they know what you really want or don’t want. Here’s a mental response to acquaintances to make you feel better – Well, I’m sure you know plenty of men who would love to take me out and I thank you for your concern, but I’d rather stick to following my own heart and not someone else’s. If I’m single at the moment it is probably by choice and I will let you know when I am ready to jump back into the game and get my mingling game on.
4. “Your Biological Clock Is Ticking”
I don’t care if my biological clock is a ticking time bomb, I have the right to decide when I want to have a baby or whether I want to have one in the first place. It’s sometimes annoying that people keep throwing this argument in the mix. It’s not like having a child is every woman’s purpose in life. Plus, maybe I would rather adopt a child than have one of my own and I think that is an extremely valid choice.
5. “Maybe You Should Try Dating Apps”
Trust me, I have been there and done that. I have tried dating apps for plenty of years but have not had much luck with them. Or maybe I don’t like the idea of dating apps. I’m sure you know someone who probably met the love of their life on a dating app but I think I am done using them for the moment. Plus, I don’t think it’s the right idea to push dating apps on people if they are clearly uncomfortable with the concept of them.
6. “Too Bad Most Of The Eligible Bachelors Have Been Snatched Up”
How does it matter how many eligible bachelors have been snatched up? It’s really silly that people keep throwing this argument as if men in their 30s aren’t nice. We criticize so many men for judging us by our age and then snap back and do the same thing to them? If I do decide to date, I’m sure that there will be plenty of fun, and charming men out there who are around my age or even older. Having said that, if you are someone who does not bother about age, that’s okay too. Psst! As long as they aren’t minors.
7. “Are You Waiting For Your Prince Charming?”
Well, you have to kiss a few toads before you get to your prince (wink wink). I don’t believe in fairy tales but maybe when I feel that the person is right, it will feel like true love. In any case, I’m not sitting around “waiting”, I’m doing my own thing and living my own life. No woman should feel the need to sit and wait for a man to show up. We are not damsels in distress! I’d encourage any woman who feels the need, to go out there and find her prince charming. It is also wrong to assert this statement because some women could be homosexual and looking for a potential female partner. More like princess charming!
In the end, remember that a single woman is accountable to nobody but herself. Maybe this is why her existence angers conservative folks who feel like a woman should be accountable to others. It is normal to face criticism, especially in Indian society, but that’s what makes us stronger and gives us the courage to survive and bloom as an individual. Either way, whether you are single at thirty or single at fifty, the only thing that should matter to you is that you are happy by yourself and surrounded by people that love you for who you are. Won’t hurt to have a positive mindset! Do let us know which of these statements you’ve encountered in the comment section below.