The Seven Biggest Turn-Offs In Bed, According To Single People

Written by Shivani K  • 

If there is one thing about which none of us are okay with having a bad reputation, then it has to be how we are in bed. Everybody wants to make sure that they and their partner, are satisfied in bed. As much as being each other’s support for life is important, so is being intimate together for life. In our parents’ and grandparents’ times, things were hush-hush and nobody would talk about physical intimacy as openly as they do today. In today’s world, friends and families discuss openly about their physical relationships and woes.

If you think you aren’t performing well in between the sheets with your partner, we might be able to help you out. There’s always room to realize where you must have been going wrong and correct it. You just need to find your right moves peeps *winks*!

Fortunately, we have the powerful internet where one can find answers to all the queries regarding how to satisfy their partner and what could possibly turn them off. We did our own research in this vast online library and put down this list that highlights what you should not be doing in the bedroom with your partner. Read on.

1. You Talk Too Much

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When you enter the intimate zone or mood with your partner it’s your actions that need to be doing all the talking. Communicating while making love is necessary, but chatter about mundane trivialities might just kill the mood. Talk about what feels good and what doesn’t, and ensure both of you are comfortable during the act. Mumbling sweet nothings is one way to amp up the mood, but avoid rambling on about inflation, taxes, or god-forbid, the neighborhood gossip! If you absolutely must talk, if that is your thing, focus on each other and no one else, and just the good things!

2. You Are Not Passionate About Being Intimate

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While making love, a partner who truly cares for you can definitely get an idea of whether you’re into it or not. For many people, the pleasure from physical intimacy is heightened only when the act is generous and passionate. If you’re doing it just for the heck of it or faking your responses, it will show and turn off your partner. Therefore, if you’re exhausted, distracted, or just not up for it, let your partner know about it, and don’t force yourself into it.

3. You Are A Bad Kisser

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A kiss is what gets the physical intimacy started, it’s the most powerful act in a relationship. By kissing your partner you’re giving him or her a signal about how happy you are to physically connect with them. And if you are a terrible kisser, then maybe your partner will not be able to grasp the excitement you intend to give. Now what defines a good kisser? More than the skill, it is about being a good partner. You are not trying to outperform your partner, so there is no need to be the first one to speed it up or force your tongue. Mimic your partner, apply the same pressure, give and take, read the sighs and body language, and go with the flow. There’s no hurry, so keep your excitement in check, as being overeager can also be a turn-off.

4. You Are Not Caring And Enthusiastic

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Many like being in control while in bed. This might be a natural, primal instinct but never outdo it because we aren’t primitive beings anymore. If your partner does not share your ideas of intimacy, you may end up hurting them. While engaging in physical intimacy, make sure you are enthusiastic, but in a gentle and caring way. If you want to try something new, ask them, let them decide, and do not express disappointment if they are not up for it. There are always other things you can do to let them catch up with you. This way your partner will grow to trust you and who knows, may even begin opening up to experiments as well.

5. You Aren’t Generous While Making Love

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Don’t just think about your pleasure alone while being physical with your partner. Think about your partner’s pleasures and priorities too. Talk it out before getting at it, if you will. You can always figure out something that works for you both. Also, never leave your partner hanging if you gain a release first. In some relationships, such things can really drive a wedge between couples where one is too selfish and the other is never satisfied.

6. You Don’t Have Healthy Communication In Bed

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Here’s an elaboration of the first point where we discussed not talking about boring things while making love. What you can do instead, is focus on the present, in the act itself if you are comfortable. If you think your partner looked attractive while making a certain move, then compliment them. Let them know that their action has hit the right target and or if you’d like to try something that you think might be enjoyable for you both. Engaging in conversations like these will up your game in bed and make it not just pleasurable but also fun to indulge in. But again, remember to steer clear of chattering.

7. You Are Not Experimental With Your Positions

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Don’t do the one-trick pony! Okay, your partner liked a specific position the previous time you had some action. However, it doesn’t mean that they are always going to like the same position every single time. Both of you can actually make a game out of it where you look up the internet for interesting experiments and agree on what can be something fun to try. This will keep your game in between the sheets strong and surprising, and also build trust and communication since you’ve engaged in an otherwise taboo topic of discussing the act before getting into it. Keep spicing things up so things in the bedroom never get stale.

Final Thoughts

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We scoured the internet to figure out some of the most common things people find off-putting while in bed. And after intensive homework, we narrowed it down to the above-mentioned factors that can play a vital role in sustaining a healthy relationship. Yes, your partner and you are two different people with different tastes. But it’s extremely important to find the balance even in physical intimacy because this too forms a vital part of a successful relationship. We hope our tips help you make things fun in your love life. Do remember that communication, mutual respect, and generosity are key to fulfilling intimate relationships.

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