7 Conversations You Should Be Able To Have With Your Boyfriend
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Getting into a relationship is easy, but staying in one isn’t really a cakewalk. The beginning of a relationship looks magical; maybe your encounter was nothing less than a fairytale straight out of a Bollywood movie. Or maybe you both made the bold moves on a dating app. Or let’s just say it was your friend who set you up! Either way, liking someone, trying to understand them, and visualizing a promising future with them is a wonderful thing.
We understand the “love is in the air” phase, but it’s in the early stages of a relationship that you should ideally start building the foundation of a future together. And, it’s also a stage that couples overlook and never try to have a serious conversation with each other about. However, it’s a given that you will never know your partner completely.
Yet, that’s the most beautiful part of a relationship – your partner is always surprising you, and there’s always so much for you to learn about one another. That being said, you still need to make an effort to have interesting conversations with your partner (remember that a conversation requires you to listen, too) (1). Avoiding conversations that are of good health for your relationship could eventually turn into deal-breakers.
In that vein, read on to know what kind of conversations you should be having with your boyfriend!
1. Talking About Your Future As A Couple
This is important! Have a simple conversation about your future together. Or, you might as well go all dramatic, look him in the eye, and utter these very filmy lines — “Do you see a future with me?” You could be dating each other for a little more than 6 months or a few years, but have you spoken about your future plans together? We know it’s easy to ignore this and not pop the happy bubbles, but being able to talk about it is a sign of a healthy, strong relationship (2).
2. Talking About Money Matters
If you are in a relationship which is a few months old, you’re bound to have a vague idea about how much your partner earns, and how well s/he manages their finances. Talking about personal things like your incomes and being open about it to each other instills trust in a relationship and makes you both very comfortable with each other. You never know… maybe, in the future, you’d end up co-owning a house or an apartment with your partner, right? If you are aware of the financial deets about each other, it’s an easier step to take. Having financial harmony in a relationship makes it last longer (3).
3. Discussion About Careers
Never go with the flow when it comes to making career decisions while you are in a relationship. Your career should define you, not your relationship. Having conversations with your partner about what interests you is crucial. Don’t let your relationship come in the way of your career or vice versa. You should become each other’s emotional support system and start planning careers that result in a good future together (4).
4. Understanding Expectations From Each Other
Expectations differ from person to person. It’s not necessary that your partner expects the same things from you like how you do. Couples need to sit down and discuss how they plan to create and maintain a balance in their relationship (5). Failure to do so may result in brutal arguments over not being supportive of each other. Effective communication is the key to a healthy, lasting relationship.
5. What Does Commitment Mean
Have you ever wondered what exactly the word “commitment” means to your partner? It’s often seen that relationships snap after a few years, but why? You don’t have to dig deep to find the answer; chances are that maybe the girl was expecting a proposal, whereas the guy assumed the relationship to be a casual one with no strings attached. Make sure your partner and you address each other’s views about commitment. Sailing in a clear ocean is always a good idea.
6. Talks About Family
Family plays an important role in everyone’s lives (6). You could have good family experiences or bad ones, but make sure your partner is aware of them. This will help your partner understand what irks you the most. Respecting each other’s families and their emotions will only strengthen your relationship further.
7. The Right Physical Affection
Physical affection could mean different things to you and your partner. For you, it could be a tight hug or holding hands and walking down the street. For your partner, it might have to do with a passionate kiss or an intimate moment (7). Understanding each other’s likes and preferences regarding affections, especially the physical ones, should be of high concern. Physical affections are also a way of connecting. So, whether or not you are comfortable being intimate with your partner is the question that both of you need to discuss.
Although relationships always start on a pleasant note, in the mid-way it could get a little complicated and haywire. But ensuring that you have these serious conversations (that actually matter) can save your relationship from treading a road that leads to a dead end. Don’t question your partner’s point of views, try to understand them.
Have you had a serious talk with your partner? How did it go? Did things get better between the two of you? Let us know in the comments below!
