The Dos And Don’ts Of A Healthy Relationship
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If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you’d know that it’s not all sugary and cheesy. And when I say relationship, I mean a real relationship and not crushes or casual dating. Because only when you’re in a committed relationship, you’ll slowly realize the things that change in your life and all the efforts you have to take in order to sustain that relationship. But it’s not something that you get into one fine morning. Your relationship undergoes many changes and passes through a lot of difficulties even before you realize that you’re in a committed relationship. So, if you love your partner and you want to be with them in a healthy relationship, there’s a lot that you need to keep in mind.
Now, I know that I’ve scared you with all the serious talk, but honestly, maintaining a healthy relationship isn’t that difficult either. It all depends on a few ground rules and your ability to deal with situations and emotions. Well, don’t worry if you don’t know about these things. Because that’s why I’m here! In this article, I’ll be introducing you to some of the dos and don’ts that will help you maintain a healthy relationship. Let’s read together.
DO Appreciate Your Partner Without Being Stingy
Everyone loves compliments! You do and your partner does too. They might not always ask you if they look good or if they have done something good. It’s you, who has to let them know that they are amazing. Appreciating and complimenting your partner boosts their confidence and helps them grow into a better person.
DON’T Name Call During Arguments
We often tend to lose control over what we say during a heated argument. While some people forget what they said within hours, some others take it deep. They get hurt bad and will find it very hard to forget the bitter experience. So, be careful about what you’re saying when you’re angry. And if you can’t control your anger, forbid yourself to speak to your partner until you feel you can have a logical discussion.
DO Criticize Constructively
Criticizing your partner is as important as appreciating them. It makes them understand their mistakes and helps them work on it. However, this is true only for constructive criticism where you have a valid point and you help them correct their mistakes. Unwanted and prolonged criticism just to vent your ego or anger out on your partner can kill their confidence and your relationship too!
DON’T Nag
If something is important to you, sit with your partner, and talk about it with them in a serious tone. Nagging doesn’t really work and it makes your partner lose interest in you and whatever you’re asking him/her to do.
DO Have Long Talks
No matter how busy you are or your partner is, always find time to sit and talk. This can be in the morning during breakfast or before you go to bed. Talk about your day, the things that are there on your mind, and if there’s anything that’s bothering you. Communicating is the key to a healthy relationship.
DON’T Pretend To Listen
When your partner wants to talk to you, listen to them. Texting, playing games, or watching TV while the other person is talking is really bad. You might be actually listening to your partner and responding to them as well. But for the person who is talking, it’s not a pleasant feeling.
DO Lift Up The Toilet Seat (Men)
Lifting up the toilet seat while peeing might sound like a silly thing. But to women, it’s a non-negotiable. And by doing so, you are being considerate about your partner.
DON’T Stay Unhygienic
Shower every day and make a conscious effort to keep yourselves and your surroundings clean. Unhygienic and stinky people are unattractive no matter how good they are as a person or how good they look.
DO Help In House Hold Activities
Help your partner in the daily chores if you are living together. Just because she’s a woman, don’t expect her to do everything. It’s needs to be a two-way street and all the work has to be split equally.
DON’T Compare Your Partner/ Relationship With That Of Others
This is literally the worst thing you can do to your relationship. Nobody likes to get compared to another person. And if it’s the person they’re in love with doing it, they’re just going to get hurt. Also, comparing your relationship and partner with others will make you feel less thankful for what you have because you’re busy searching for things that you don’t have.
DO Ask For What You Want
We always expect our partners to understand us without even saying certain things. While some people are actually good at it, some others aren’t, even if they love you. So if you want something, tell them because they aren’t mind readers or magicians.
DON’T Be Reluctant To Give Each Other Space
Giving each other space is very important in a relationship. You have to understand and accept the fact that they are individuals first and then your partner. Not giving space to your partner can suffocate them which will eventually turn their emotions against you.
There are many more dos and don’ts that you need to remember if you want a long-lasting relationship. But we’re not giving everything away because some things are better taught by life. What are the dos and don’ts that you follow in your relationship? Let us know in the comments section below.
