Fathers’ Day: A Letter That Every Girl Should Write To her Dad Before She Gets Married
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Every day is a special one when you are your father’s laadli. One cannot help but notice the impact a father has on the life of his daughter. I lived under the misconception that it was only me who loved my Father so dearly, that it was only me who took my father as the most admired man on this planet Earth, wait maybe the entire Universe too. My father truly influenced every aspect of my life — be it from learning how to hold a pen and writing words that mattered to how to hold that mug of beer or even how to love my own mother in a much dearer way. My dad taught me about the importance of mom in both our lives. I can go on and on and never get tired talking about what my dad means to me.
In every phase of life, we look up to our dads, especially the daughters! We always see them as our Hero, the one who can never err, can never disappoint us. I’ve always heard people say that sons are closer to mothers and daughters to their fathers. I have no idea how true this holds but in my case, it surely does. I’m more attached to my father than my mother. I can face all the storms in the world outside my home and appear to be the bravest of the girls out there. But one look at my dad going through any sort of discomfort and you’ll find tiny tear droplets at the corners of my eyes. But of late, things are not all hunky dory between Appa (that’s how I call my daddy dear) and me. We’ve been having a lot of arguments over the topic of me getting married and settling down. As much as the thought of sharing my life with another soul and growing old together excites me; the very fact that marriage might take me farther from my Appa haunts me!
For Appa, seeing me in a wedding gown and walking down the aisle is the most priceless dream. In fact, for every father out there, watching their daughter getting married to an amazing man is their biggest dream. It’s amazing how for both the father and the daughter this gets emotional. In countries like mine (India) wedding off your daughter is the greatest pride a father can seek in his lifetime. And while I sat down at my desk sulking about how life might not be the same once I get married, I gathered the courage to go ask some of my female colleagues as to what they’d write to their father if given a chance before they get married. This was my supposed clever (call it smart) way to know how they feel about their dads. What better than Father’s Day to pen down a letter to the hero of our lives—dad, papa, appa, daddy, abba, whatever you call him, he is the man who will never let his daughter down. Here’s what my colleagues said they’ll write in their letter to their respective dads. Have a look.
This is how my fellow teammate Chaitra’s letter to her dad looks like —
“Hi Acha,
I know that every day is father’s day but not every day I make you feel so. I’m sorry for that and for a million other things that I have upset you over. I just want you to know that I love you and I’d do anything to see you happy. I have never met a man who is as strong as you; you’re my Superman! Thank you for giving in to my tantrums, thank you for pulling me by my ears when I was wrong, thank you for guiding me when I was confused, and thank you for never letting me feel that I’m alone. I hope I can be the daughter that you’re proud of and I can take care of you as well as you took care of your parents. Happy Father’s Day!“
Another colleague of mine, Sadiya’s letter (who is also a mother to the cutest boy I’ve ever come across) to her dad looks like —
“Dear Daddy,
Surprised, aren’t you? Wondering what’s this all about? Don’t worry. It’s just that I haven’t had the time to chat with you in a while now. I know you’ve been very worried, and even annoyed, with my lifestyle of late. Hectic work schedules with late nights being the norm hardly leave me with any time to spend with you. I also know that you are particularly pissed off with my dieting and gym routines. “Aur kitna patla hona hai?” has been your constant refrain. But today, I want to confess something. Behind all this new “fitness-freak” me, I’m still your little girl who loves gorging on pastries. Remember those times when you’d slowly sneak behind me on my way back to school? On those days, instead of going home directly, we always took a detour to that small bakery of your friend’s. So, if you find me on a diet nowadays, you’re the one to blame! Because it’s you who actually stopped taking me to your favorite bakery. I still love those yummy pastries and keep waiting for the day when we’ll get to go again. So, I’ll tell you what – let’s take a day off together and walk to that same old place this Sunday. And I promise I’m not going to diet that day :-)
Loads of love,
Your Sadi
PS: Now don’t get teary-eyed after reading this. Just put on that white kurta for our day out. It looks great on you :-)”
Every word from the above letters screams of pure love to their respective Fathers, right? I strongly believe that no matter when I get married, I’m going to face a hurricane of emotions every single time I look up to Appa. I also know that I’ll never be able to express the same to him. But he knows, he knows what his daughter must be going through. Every father knows! And if you are someone who hasn’t made an effort to show your love to your dad, it’s never too late to start a loving relationship. Discover the bond you share with your dad, celebrate the love between the two of you, and make every day a Father’s day for him J
