7 Ways Your Life Changes After Marriage Even If You Are Married To “The One”
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A lot of the time you probably look at your married friends and think, “Man, do they have life sorted out.” Most single people probably think marriage is a cakewalk, but on the contrary, it requires more compromise and adjustment than living by yourself. Just like any other type of relationship, marriage requires hard work and the willingness to commit to another person. Sure, there’s going to be a lot of major life changes and those who say love changes after marriage weren’t joking. Here are a few things that change after marriage:
1. You Don’t Hang Out With Friends As Often As You’d Like
How often do you see your married friends? Be honest. If “not often” is your answer, then here is the reason why. When you’re married to someone you have to take their life into consideration too. Perhaps your partner is more introverted than you are and they don’t like going out in public as much as you do. However, having friends who understand makes a world of difference. Your friends will be happy to see you, even if it’s just once a month. They will be grateful to you for still taking time out despite having a busier schedule than you used to.
2. Friday Nights Go From Night-Outs With The Girls To Grocery Shopping With “The Man”
This is one thing that needs to be discussed more than it usually is. Friday nights used to be when you and your favorite girlfriends hit the best night spots in town and went crazy. However, Fridays now are spent grocery shopping for the rest of the week and bargaining with shopkeepers for the best deals. Well, the good thing about this is that you finally have someone who can help you with your grocery bags.
3. Your Bed Is Used For Sleeping Rather Than Other “Fun” Activities
Let’s face it. Those who say getting married means more time to “do the dirty” are clearly lying. Well, the harsh reality is that sometimes the physical side of marriage tones down after a while. You guys could have been the most “out there” couple of your friends circle and still be suffering from the same issue. And let’s be real, no couple in the world can find the time or the capacity to get it on every day. More importantly, you have all the time in the world. You don’t’ have to rush back home or keep checking your phone in case your mother calls you to check on where you are. Gone are the days when you two were bachelors who lived far away from each other and could only meet during the weekends.
4. You Need To Split Your Holidays And Festivals
Your social life and family duties can often clash and cause friction in you and your partner’s life. It’s not just about deciding to spend which occasion with which set of parents, and your vacations aren’t just restricted to them. And while the concept of splitting holidays might take some time to sink in, you will eventually learn to get used to it.
5. You Miss Your Carefree Single Days
As they say, the grass is greener on the other side. When you were single you would often look at your hopelessly in love friends and wish you had that. You’d probably lament about your hard luck finding the right guys and how dating apps like Tinder and Hinge just didn’t guarantee the right connections. Nowadays you look at your carefree single friends out partying and posting it on social media and wish you could go back to that.
6. You Exhibit More Self-Control With Your Spending Habits
It’s not all bad though. Being married means taking up a lot of new responsibilities and being open to taking your partner’s advice when it comes to financial decisions. You might be the most financially responsible person in your bunch but having the second opinion of a partner can make a world of difference. You’ll notice that you’ve started making wiser spending decisions and are just financially more responsible.
7. You Become More In-Tuned With Your Partner’s Body-Clock And Moods
You don’t become your partner, obviously. But you start to be more in-tune with their daily rituals and moods. Since you and your partner have been together for a while you start to notice their quirks and what works for them and what doesn’t. Now that you’ve been around them for so long, you can somewhat accurately predict their next move with a careful precision and their dislikes, likes and even habits might start to rub off on you.
It’s okay to be upfront with your partner about taking time to adjust to a newly married life. After all, it is a major life change and some people take a longer period to adjust than others. As long as you and your partner are on the same page about things, nothing else should matter; including the opinions of friends and family. Do you agree with our list? Are you looking forward to married life? Let us know in the comments below.
