7 Red Flags That Might Mean Your Spouse Is Having An Affair
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Do you feel that your partner has been pulling away from you lately? Have you felt a growing disconnect between your partner and you? If yes, then these can be chalked up to unexpected changes in your spouse’s life such as building work pressure, concerns about finances or their parents. However, if you have that nagging feeling that there is someone else in the picture, then it might serve you well to examine why you are feeling like this.
Trust is a crucial factor in a marriage, after all, it is the founding principle for it. That is why it can be so unsettling to experience feelings of betrayal. More often than not, people in such circumstances dismiss their gut feelings as paranoia, refusing to inspect them further. However, if you are feeling that there’s something amiss in your relationship, we would advise you to have a keen look at your marriage. And these are a few signs, that you should especially pay attention to:
1. They Are No Longer Interested In The Activities Of The Boudoir
Do you feel that they are not inclined to spend any time between the sheets? Or they’ve been exhibiting a fondness for certain kinks, which they did not before? These signs could be taken as the sign of a change in their disposition towards you. You can also ascertain that there is someone else in the picture, if they are performing love in new ways and styles. Sudden changes in a couple’s intimate life are almost always a sign of a deeper problem.
2. Their Cell Phones Become Off-Limits
While it’s a good practice to be mindful of each other’s private space, guarding it with one’s life can be a sign that the person is hiding something. Do they get mysterious calls at odd hours? Does your partner prefer to take their calls away from you? Or even if they do take it in front of you, are they always in a hurry? Do they frequently change their password or are wary of leaving their phone around you? If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, then it might be time for you to have a serious talk with your spouse.
3. They Are Suddenly Interested In Physical Fitness
If they have been conscious about their health or if they had already set certain fitness goals (which you had been aware of), then a sudden inclination towards healthy living or getting into shape can be easily explained.
However, if you know your spouse to be a couch potato, and suddenly notice them getting up at the crack of the dawn to go for a morning run, then it might as well mean that you are headed for an uncomfortable revelation. But, on the other hand, your partner might be just starting his fitness journey.
4. They Are Very Particular About Their Privacy
Have they suddenly become very particular about their privacy, and suddenly take offense at the slightest conceived indiscretion? Maybe they insist that you don’t meet their work friends because they want to keep their work life and home life separate. Or maybe they insist that they pay all the bills, or don’t share their social media accounts with you. Perhaps this renewed interest could be a sign that they are hiding something. It is however essential to note that if they were always particular about their privacy, maybe it’s just their personality trait.
5. Your Bed Times Are Different
Does your spouse often postpone going to bed at the same time as you on some or the other pretext? Are they spending nights on their phones or laptops claiming their inability to sleep? If it is so, and you have valid reasons to believe that those reasons aren’t really justified, then we would advise you to bring up this matter with them and talk it out. It can be nothing, but it’s worth discussing it with your partner, however, please be aware to do so in a non-confrontational manner.
6. They Are Very Hostile When You Confront Them
This is when you do try to bring up your concerns in front of them. Have you tried talking about your fears with your spouse? If yes, did you notice how they reacted? Were they willing to sit down and have a calm chat with you? Or were they hostile, seeking to turn your concerns into allegations? If it was the latter, it should give you some cause to worry.
7. There’s A Sudden Change In Their Interests
A lot of people who have been cheated on made the observation that one of the red flags that they ignored was a sudden change in the interests and hobbies of their spouses. In other words, it seemed to them that their spouses underwent a personality change, whereby their dressing style or their interests changed, almost overnight. If you also have witnessed such a change in your spouse, then we suggest you sit down with them and reason out what inspired their change.
Adultery can threaten a relationship, but it doesn’t have to be its death knell. In a majority of cases, it is a symptom of a deeper problem, and if you are willing to work on it and forgive your partner, then it’s quite possible to repair your relationship. If you do find yourself in this rut, you have two choices. You can either approach your partner and work on the relationship or you can withdraw and start afresh.
