This Is The Real Truth About Lying To The Love Of Your Life
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We all have lied to our partners at some point in life or the other, haven’t we? The reality is this—we often end up deceiving the ones we oh-so-honestly love with some big or innocuous lies. Not all lies are told with an evil intent, right? We lie to the love of our life with an intention to not see them go through agony. And sometimes, we lie just to save both of us the pain of a fight which could lead to serious cracks in our relationship. Yes, lying isn’t the best thing to do, but sometimes you choose to do so because you love him/her so much that you would rather add more sins to your account than hurting them.
We all know that there is no definition for love and we strongly agree that the same applies to “a lie” as well. You simply cannot define it as it could be for both good and bad. Keeping this distinction in mind, we’ve laid down a couple of lies that we often end up telling our partners even when we know that to lie is to sin. Let’s get reading about them now.
“I’m Fine.”
You would have surely heard this phrase and we’re also sure that you’ve uttered the same words umpteen number of times even when you weren’t a tad bit fine. This is one of the most commonly said white lie. Not just in a relationship, but this is something we are all guilty of saying frequently.
We know why you must’ve told this — it could be as simple as that you just weren’t in the mood to talk about your problem to your partner. It could also be because you just wanted to brush the truth under the carpet to avoid any argument.
Whatever the reason might be, we still suggest that if it’s a problem that your partner deserves to know then be vocal about it.
“Umm… I’ve Had Only One Boyfriend”
The fear of being judged is what will make you lie about the number of exes you’ve had in your life. We know it! And we totally get it. But if you’re already dating the person to whom you’re saying this, you’ll for sure know the reaction of his nature. And if your partner is very understanding and broad minded then don’t lie about this. Use it to your advantage and be as transparent as possible.
“I Agree With You”
Being in a relationship is all about having each other’s back in times of happiness and distress. We’re sure that you’ve often caught yourself agreeing with your partner, when they are in an argument with someone else just because you didn’t want the love of your life to lose the war of words. We’ll call it the solidarity of a relationship and we’re proud of you if you’ve done it.
But when it’s just the two of you and your partner makes a statement that you strongly disagree upon, be vocal about it. Don’t give in and say, “You’re right. I agree!” You have your own mind and you have your own ways of making sense of the things in this world. Voice your opinion!
“I Never Think Of My Ex”
It practically isn’t possible peeps unless and until you’re a person like Ghajini or you’ve permanently lost your memory. Your ex is definitely a part of your life. And you’ll surely remember some moments (good or bad) spent with your ex. It clearly isn’t intentional, it’s just your brain doing it’s work of keeping memories alive. Let the brain do it’s work, be happy it’s working fine. And you, on the other don’t have to lie about it to your partner. Let them know that you have no feeling for your ex but that chapter is just a part of who you are today. If your partner is possessive then even we’d suggest that you give them the assurance that there’s nothing more to that thought.
“We’ll Go If You Really Want To”
Don’t say this. If you don’t want to go with your partner outside, just say “NO.” This is a lie we don’t recommend. Because if you end up accompanying your partner when you’re in no mood to do so, chances are that neither of you will have a good time. Half-hearted presence isn’t what your partner wants. It’s a practical thing to say no and let your partner go and have a good time on their own. Couple attendance isn’t a must always.
We often assume that if we are lying to our partner with a “good intent”, it’s not really a bad thing. But, if things can be done the right way, never lie and complicate it. All we’re trying to say is that you are the best judge here; you know what will work in favor of both the relationship and you. So choose that path and walk on it. What’s your say on this? Let us know in the comments below.
