I Chose To Marry A Man From The Same Profession & I Don’t Regret It One Bit

Written by Shivani K  • 

Marriage is the coming together of two souls. And when the age or let’s say the era of finding the one for yourself comes, we go bonkers thinking about how should we zero down on that person. Sometimes the universe plays its role, makes you fall in love with the right person and you start a life together. But, let’s admit it that though it happens, it does so quite rarely, at least in the world that we inhabit today.

And if you’re someone who is modern and very career-oriented, you’d have the problem of deciding whether you should look for someone who works in the same industry as yours. Will it increase the compatibility factor if you do so or not? We spoke to a few people and came across this one pediatrician who was kind enough to share her view or let’s say her story with regards to this. Read on to know more.

Disclaimer: The person’s name has been changed to protect her identity.

Kavitha’s Story

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I did my MBBS and went on to do my masters in the pediatric domain. I was 27 when my family started to ask me to find a man for myself or let them find one on my behalf. Honestly, my previous relationships were a mess. It never really worked out because of the nature of my profession. I had so little time for myself. Forget about being able to spend time with another human. I asked my parents to find me a husband as I knew I couldn’t take the risk of getting my heart broken again. One thing I was pretty clear about with them was that I wanted to marry a doctor. Most of my well-wishers and relatives had tried to advise me against it giving the reason that if both of us were doctors, where would we find the time to manage everything. Maybe that argument did hold some merit, but I was convinced about it otherwise.

Now, if you’re thinking about throwing the phrase “opposites attract” at me, hold on. Marriage isn’t about two magnets, right? You need similarities to make it work. There are real emotions here, you can’t just say two people who are poles apart can attract each other, and make it work. I decided that I’ll marry a doctor, which I did. And I am very happy with him. I’m happy that I chose a man similar to me and he compliments me so well. Let me explain to you how it works here:

We Both Are Doctors. Therefore, We Also Have Professional Understanding

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Our medical background makes it much easier to maintain a balance when it comes to work and home. He knows it isn’t easy being in this profession. I don’t have to get into an argument just to make him realize that my job is as real as his. I’ve heard real stories about how women fight it out just to make their husbands understand that they too have a degree, are graduates, and have a job which is as good as their own. If I’m stressed about work, he knows how to handle me. There’s less conflict, you see.

We Have So Much In Common To Talk About

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Being in the same profession actually cuts down on our boredom in life. We always have something to share and talk about. Be it our patients, or any critical surgeries we both performed, etc. I agree that one should never take work home, but when you know your spouse is a doctor too and can give you a better second opinion, then why not, right? He helps me, pacifies me every single time I feel like a mess.

We Have Common Goals

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Haven’t we heard of stories about marriages breaking down because one spouse is jealous of the professional success of the other? In my life, it’s definitely not the case (*touch wood*). We constantly motivate each other to get better at our work. And even before we were married, we both had agreed that we’ll always try to grow together in terms of career. Recently, he was made the head of his department and when I congratulated him, he replied, “Kavitha, I can’t wait for you to become the head of the pediatric department!” That just made me smile.

Planning Our Vacations Are Easier

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Yes, I know, from when did doctors start going on vacations, right? But trust me, we do. If we don’t take a break, we’d probably end up messing your treatment and that is something no doctor can afford to do. It’s easier for my husband and me to plan vacations as we both are doctors. We take a quarterly break and head out on a vacation of 5–7 days. It’s easier to coordinate our time for holidays. It’s one serious advantage of marrying someone from the same profession.

There you go, hasn’t Kavitha’s story filled up the potholes on the road of your thoughts that lead to – “Can I marry a person from the same profession?” The point here is if you’ve found someone compatible, and if the person belongs to your industry, then don’t take it as a mark of incompatibility. Just say yes, if you know that person is the one for you. Period.

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