Never Say These 10 Things In A Relationship (At All Costs)

The keystone of a lasting and strong relationship is effective communication. When the two of you share absolute transparency, honesty, and the ability to talk about anything and everything under the sun, you know you’ve landed into something beautiful. However, blunt honesty is not always the best way to go. Particularly in the heat of the moment where tact is the name of the game.

So, if you don’t want to end up saying something you’d regret later, make sure you avoid saying these 10 seemingly harmless and supremely common sentences to your bae!

1. “If You Love Me, You Would/ Would Never…”

You know what your intentions are when you say this. You’re trying to emotionally blackmail your partner into doing exactly what you want them to do. Invoking a sense of guilt in them can brew resentment in your partner over time. So, instead of blackmailing them, tell your partner honestly why you want them to do what you want them to do. For example, you could say, “You’d make me really happy if we could go on a weekend getaway.”

2. “You’re Not Like My Ex.”

Well-intentioned or not, you’re stepping into murky waters when you bring up this unpleasant comparison. Try avoiding talking about your exes altogether with your partner, like you’re starting with a clean slate. Comparisons like these can make your partner feel insecure and inadequate. So, ditch these and compliment them for who they are.

3. “Okay, You Win.”

You don’t say this because you mean it, you just say it to the end the fight and that is a big mistake! It’s tempting to end the argument by waving your white flag, but doing this can lead to bottled up feelings and an even a bigger subsequent fight. So, it’s best to resolve issues as they come. In case you can’t do that, be honest with your partner and ask them if the issue could be sorted out later.

4. “Get Over It.”

This harmless little line holds more power than you give it credit for. By telling your partner to simply get over their feeling, you undermine their emotions. Your job is to be more supportive and understand the importance of things that matter to your partner, even if they seem insignificant or stupid to you. So instead of judging, just talk to them and help them understand that things are not as bad as they seem.

5. “You’re Mad.”

And this doesn’t apply to the moments when you say it in a cute, adorable way, it’s for when you fume in anger or disagree with your significant other. You’re essentially making them question their sanity, which can be viewed as manipulative and insensitive. That’s not the way to go. You should try understanding why they’re acting this way instead.

6. “It’s Not A Big Deal.”

Don’t shortchange yourself. If a certain issue is important enough for you to want to talk about it, then don’t just casually shrug it off. Whatever it is (good or bad), say it with confidence and honesty and involve your partner. Self-denial is only going to make you bitter, without your partner even realizing it. So, open up more as you’re entitled to what you feel.

7. “I’m Okay.”

Saying this even when you’re clearly not okay is a way to block all channels of communication between you and your partner. Shutting your partner down will only make you feel miserable and your partner feel worse. Instead, you should let them know that you’re always up for talking, but you need some space. Alternatively, you could also speak up and say what’s bothering you without being rude.

8. “Didn’t I Tell You So?”

Okay, yes, you’re right. Your partner was wrong and it has been proven. But there’s no need to gloat about it. By saying it, you’re really just rubbing salt on their wounds and being petty. You should offer empathy instead and try to comfort them so that they feel like you’re there to support them even when they screw up.

9. “Shut Up!”

Another way of closing communication for good is telling your partner to shut up. Even if you say it so that your partner would listen to you. Telling your partner to shut up will offend them and make them feel that you don’t value their opinion. So, try to not use this phrase. Rather, listen to your other half patiently so that they will listen to you.

10. “It’s Not Supposed To Be This Hard.”

Relationships can get tough and it may seem like you and your bae agree on nothing and end up fighting all the damn time. But you shouldn’t try to idealize your relationship too much. No relationship is perfect. Besides, saying it’s getting too hard may make your partner feel that you want to end things, which can lead to way worse fights than the present. Which is why you should admit to your partner that certain things are frustrating you.

Communication is no doubt important, but doing it the right way is crucial in a relationship. So, take the high road and eliminate these sentences from your diction when talking to your partner.

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