9 Annoying Questions Indian Aunties Will Never Fail To Ask You
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Every Indian girl can relate to those annoying invasive questions from relatives and neighborhood aunties. These nosy acquaintances are everywhere from family functions to parties and even weddings. No matter where we go, we can’t seem to dodge their insanely nosy questions. If you’ve ever felt hounded by these “aunties”, then you’re not alone. They’ll ask you personal questions pertaining to everything from your love life to the amount of money you earn. Here are how some women react when these questions are asked:
1. “How Are Your Studies Going?”
“Why does auntie XYZ who I haven’t seen since I was two, feel the need to ask me how my studies are going? It makes zero sense because I haven’t seen her in forever and she probably doesn’t even know how to spell my name correctly. More so, it’s been so long since I graduated that I don’t even remember how much I scored. I usually just ask them about their own children instead and ask even more prying questions than they asked me.”
2. “When Are You Going To Tie The Knot?”
“Yes, let’s forget the fact that I have such a good career going for me and only put the main focus on whether I have a ring on my finger or not. Not only is this question personal and intrusive, but it also sends me on the edge because I’d rather focus on furthering my career than on relationships.”
3. “When Are You And Your Husband Having Children?”
“Bold of you to assume I don’t already have kids and just didn’t want to subject them to torture by bringing them here. Whenever an aunty asks me this question I look her straight in the face and say “We’re trying really hard” with an emphasis on the really. That will turn the room pin drop silent!”
4. “Beta, What Were You’re 10th Ka Marks?”
“Judging by how rude and intrusive your questions are, definitely more than you. I cannot stand this question as it puts so much pressure on me to give the right answer. What if my mother has told them differently and my fib backfires? I usually just find a way to jump around this question and change the topic or I tell them I don’t remember.”
5. “How Much Do You Earn?”
“I find it extra hilarious when women who don’t have jobs of their own feel the need to ask me such a personal question. How would you feel if I asked you about your husband’s salary? It’s an entirely unnecessary question to ask a person and doesn’t even make for good dinner table talk.”
6. “How Much Weight Have You Gained/Lost, Beta?
“How does me gaining or losing weight affect you in any way? It’s so annoying when aunties think this is appropriate to talk about. Obviously I’m going to look different if the last time they met me was over seven years ago, right? I usually respond to this question by exiting the conversation. It makes quite a bold statement and leaves them fuming!”
7. “Oh, I Didn’t Know You Drank/Smoked?”
“Yeah, I totally love advertising my vices for the world to see! What I choose to do with my body is none of their business and I always end up losing my temper if someone comments on my personal habits. They will frown at me for drinking but never say a word about their husbands and sons doing the same.”
8. “Omg. What Are You Wearing?”
“Would you have rather had me show up at the party nude? I find it so stupid when women put other women down for dressing as they please. It’s a very patriarchal concept and finding out that women themselves shame each other for their clothing choices is very upsetting.”
9. “Why Can’t You Learn To Adjust And Compromise?”
“Why do women always have to make compromises? It’s really sad that women don’t support each other and always advise them to adjust and compromise instead. When it comes to relationships, men and women should be held to the same standard. It’s unfair to always expect one gender to compromise their goals, dreams, and passions for their partners.”
As unavoidable as running into these aunties are, the way we handle the situation truly matters. If your family is the kind that likes to keep up impressions, the best thing to do would just be to smile and nod throughout the function. If not, then you can get by ignoring these aunties or skipping interacting with them altogether. Maintaining relations with your extended family and circle can be a little hectic and feel unmanageable but with the right attitude, it can be fixed. Do let us know your thoughts in the comment section below. Share this article if you could relate to it.
