The 5 Qualities Of Emotionally Mature People
Most of you know that there is a test that allows you to measure a person’s IQ to determine how smart they are. But do you know that there is a test to understand the level of emotional intelligence too? Emotional intelligence often called EQ (Emotional Quotient) is the level of understanding and control a person has over his/her emotional being. A person with high EQ has the ability to handle situations without escalating them. An emotionally mature person takes responsibility for his/her actions and does not blame others. Rather, they self analyze and assess the situation and see how they can make it better. Emotional intelligence includes an in-depth understanding of a person. Several factors come into play to determine the level of EQ in a person but there are a few traits common to all. So today, we bring to you five qualities of emotionally mature people. Read on to know if you are in the club.
- They Do Not Run Away
How often have you felt like escaping from reality and running away into oblivion? Well, if you feel this way frequently, you are not alone. It is more common than you think and it is a sign that indicates you need to up your emotional maturity. The toughest challenges that one has to face are emotional challenges. During trying times, a lot of people drown their pain with distractions like alcohol or some form of entertainment but emotionally mature people sit through their pain. They endure the pain until they reach a point where they can identify the emotions. Once that becomes clear, it is easier to overcome them.
- They Choose Emotional Clarity
Emotional clarity is the skill required to identify what one is feeling. It is an important skill to develop because, without emotional clarity, it is difficult to identify what one is struggling with. Hence, resolving the issue is almost impossible. Emotionally mature people can identify those emotions that make them feel a certain way, be it sadness, regret or empathy rather than dismissing it as boredom or laziness. A study was conducted in which children below the age of five were asked to identify emotions in themselves and others. The study showed that preschool kids below the age of five were better adept in accurately identifying and labeling feelings of sadness, happiness, and anger. Older kids had incorrect responses and it became more inaccurate as the age of the participants increased. This is an everyday process that emotionally mature people practice. They refuse to settle for anything less than what they know and are willing to push through the discomfort until they are faced with answers. (1)
- Humility Is Second Nature To Them
An emotionally mature person can recognize right from wrong and not beat themselves up over it. They acknowledge their shortcomings and appreciate their strengths. They have a pragmatic attitude towards life and do not get caught up in mistakes. After all, mistakes happen to everyone and it is completely normal; emotionally mature people know this. They are not stubborn to believe that they are right about everything. They often expect to be wrong and humbly assess the issue at hand. Humility is an important quality for any human being to have and people who keep their emotions in check do not feel that others hurt them intentionally. They do not assume that they know what other peoples’ intentions are. They talk to themselves or others with a sense of maturity and empathy.
- They Believe That Self-Respect Is Key
Many a time, people forget their values and principles in situations and let their emotions get the best of them. However, emotionally mature people constantly make an effort to maintain their self-worth, keeping their values in place. Self-respect is rooted in individuality and that requires an in-depth understanding of self. Emotionally mature individuals uphold their value systems in situations where others tend to lose their way. They live a life based on their pillars of self-worth and attempt to support that through the course of their lives.
- They Take Responsibility
We live in a world where people tend to blame others, the unfairness of the world or their parents and friends for different situations they are in. It is easy to place blame and a lot tougher to take responsibility for yourself. Emotionally mature people understand the difference between handling what they can, accepting what they cannot and learning to accept the difference. There are several people and events that we do not have control over and people who accept that inculcate the practice of looking at the bigger picture every day, in every situation. While people with high EQ have mastered this, they also embrace the unknown rather than fearing it.
Several other qualities make up an emotionally mature person but ultimately it’s about understanding yourself and the impact you have around your surroundings. What qualities do you identify with from our list? Do you believe you’re an emotionally mature person? Let us know in the comments below.
