8 Questions Every Bride Has About First Night In An Arranged Marriage

Written by Saumya Gaur  • 

A girl’s wedding night holds a lot of significance in her life. In the span of a single night, the axis of her world shifts. She has to leave behind her familiar world, and enter into a new, foreign one. As if these expectations were not intimidating enough, there’s also the issue of the first night. There are a lot of apprehensions in the mind of a new bride regarding her first night, and these double up if hers is an arranged marriage.

Just imagine the absurdity of the situation, when you were young, your parents warned you against talking to a stranger and now, here you are sharing a room with a man who is your husband, but still a perfect stranger to you. It’s quite normal to feel conscious and apprehensive in such a situation. To take away the worries and doubts of all the hopeful brides out there, we have decided to answer a few of the most urgent questions that a new bride has about her first night. Read on to know more.

Q1. Do I Have To Do It On The First Night?


Ans. The short answer is no. You shouldn’t feel pressurized to do anything that you don’t want to. You would be relieved to know that a lot of couples don’t go down this route on the first night. And with the run time of average Indian weddings being several hours, it’s quite natural for the couples to feel exhausted, so a lot of them decide to celebrate it later.
Besides, there’s nothing wrong if you want to wait a while and get to know each other better before you do the deed. So don’t worry.

Q2. It’s Going To Be My First Time, What Can I Expect?


Ans. First of all, we would advise you to relax. Lovemaking is an act by which you can feel closer to your partner in a more physical sense. That can’t happen unless and until you’re mentally prepared for it, and your heart is in it. If you have any doubts or apprehensions, discuss it with your future husband. Don’t overthink, just go with your gut.

Q3. What If It Isn’t Perfect?


Ans. Well, if you’re up for it, you can try to woo your partner by showing some serious moves. But again, don’t feel the need to make everything perfect, that will only add to the pressure. The key concept behind lovemaking apart from procreation is enjoyment.

So don’t let the unnecessary thought of being perfect inhibit you. Be spontaneous, and try to enjoy it in the way you want to.

Q4. What About My Lady Parts? Do I Need To Wax Down There?


Ans. A lot of women opt for pre-bridal treatments which include a full-body wax. This also includes getting a bikini wax. You can go for that if you want, if you have sensitive skin you can also opt to shave it off. Even a little trim might do the trick, if you are feeling conscious. But again, the main thing is your comfort level. Opt for the option that makes you feel confident about yourself.

Q5. Should I Buy Something Sultry To Wear For My First Night?


Ans. Well, to be honest, it’s a good idea if you do. It would signal to your hubby that you’re looking forward to this special night as much as he is. If you’re too shy to opt for something overtly racy, you can go for something elegant in a nice fabric such as satin. Probably a satin camisole with matching boy-shorts? It would be the perfect combo of peppy and desirable, just what you need!

Q6. What If I Want To Make The First Move? Would That Be Too Forward?


Ans. We are living in the 21st Century, women can make the first move! Besides, there is no law against you doing so. If you are as much into him as he is into you, you can, and in our opinion, you should definitely opt for making the first move! It will only prove to him that you find him desirable, and make him more enthusiastic about spending his life with such a partner. We all need some sweet lovin, don’t we?

Q7. What If We Don’t Have Any Protection With Us?


Ans. Well, our advice to you would be to hold your horses for a while. If you can, arrange for contraception from a nearby medical store. In case this isn’t possible, we would advise you to postpone it to another night, after all, we don’t want any happy accidents to happen, do we?

Q8. Should We Opt For A Hotel?


Ans. Now, you’re talking! Girl, you’re on the right track, if you think booking a hotel room would afford you much more privacy. Plus, you don’t have to deal with awkward stares the next day. You can take your time and lounge around as much as you want, without feeling the pressure to get ready and come out as soon as the sun’s up. Also, you can request the hotel staff to decorate your room, and set the ambiance for a perfect romantic evening. All the more reason to go for it!

We hope we were able to answer all your queries and put your fears at rest. Now, all you need to do is relax and be prepared to have a gala time! If you have any other concerns, discuss them with us in the comments section.

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